Nepenthe @ Nepenthe @kbin.social

Rexxitor. Biology nerd. Roguelites, indie games, and TRPGs. Drowning in unu

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I did this now and then where I was volunteering, which is how I heard my boss badmouthing my depression as he was standing directly behind me. Ended up just quitting entirely very soon after, in part just out of a still-lingering sense of betrayal. He'd always been pretty great to joke around with in general, and my ass really thought we were on good terms for some reason. So. Don't eavesdrop unless you're ok with what you hear, I guess.

So like, what's my credit card information, amiright?

Oh, how could I possibly forget eyeliner. Practically every lead singer of every band rocks it to fantastic effect. Likely a good number of male actors on set. Tim Minchin has some great eye makeup in general, electrocuted squirrel that he is. Why does this only have to be a famous person thing?

It does suck, and hopefully it's one of those things that continues to relax. Nail polish of any color automatically makes guys cuter, imo. Anyway, who doesn't want a little novelty

I do the exact same thing, but it typically doesn't stop me. Just makes me take half an hour and multiple edits on everything I've ever said. I'm well aware that I ramble. As long as paragraphs are separated, that's what y'all are gonna get, voluntarily hanging out on a text-based forum. Very few people have whined, and if they want twitter-length messages, there are now several twitter-likes for them to join.

The real worst part is typing up a message to contradict or ask for clarification on something I don't understand, and then in carefully typing it, I end up explaining it to myself and I no longer need to ask. Never mind, then.

TIL volcanoes even have two different eruptions. I just always imagined they came with ash as a given. That makes me feel a bit better about this, though I still echo their hope for as little damage as possible.

With full knowledge that OP is unlikely to check the comments from a non-ml instance, so they'll likely never see this, I think in light of this sustained situation, we need to discuss whether or not we actually do defederate from lemmy.ml.

Some people over there do know about the dev's weird scummy coding. Some, like OP, don't. Either way, neither of the devs have said a word about it in over a week despite being repeatedly asked and the topic repeatedly coming up even on their own instance. They may be bogged, but I sense they would have by now and it's likely to stay like this.

I think I'm going to give them a little more time, and then (maybe over the weekend?) I'm going to raise the question if someone else doesn't, about how their contributions to the apparent activity of kbin feeds weighs against our wholesale inability to fully interact with any of it. We can talk with each other there, certainly, but I don't think that's enough and it gives a false impression.

Wait, was that the one that had a community list well into the twenties? Or was that someone else? I don't think all that stuff reached me, but I did hear about a wannabe powermod like a week and a half ago. Much good that does anyone in a defederated system.

Shoving my entire Xbox into my backpack so I can research and send in an essay from a TV the library doesn't have

Small but therapeutic rant.

Had a conversation last night with someone about how they were working with a client who was so demanding that they were basically a one-man IT department in all but name, receiving the same salary they'd receive if they sat on their ass, and that coasting quite literally on intermittent naps for over a week had finally resulted in an email to their superior about this being untenable, with no real result. This is a lifelong workaholic, and the fact they even sent that email means it's BAD bad.

I'd been nagging them about this for quite literally years and they admitted they were just beginning to understand what I meant now and were thinking about just....not working beyond the 40hrs they were paid for anymore. Clocking out. Work done. But that their coming review might suffer.

Asked them out of genuine curiosity whether they'd ever gotten more money from working so hard. Was told there are bonuses and how much, but whether those goals are met depends on the entire department, so....usually no. Which, if one has any inkling of how unhealthy their work ethic has been in the past, is atrocious to me, btw.

Asked if they were going to ask for a raise, then, since they're easily one of the most billable employees and technically they'd be paid more in unsalaried OT than in this company's continual missed bonuses. They balked at that and said while they could, management wouldn't like it and would consider them "disgruntled," and started listing off things like the company paying for licenses and weighing salary against "the cost of employing me."

The cost of employing me. Motherfucker, do you mean paying you? Software you're required to use? Reimbursing business travel that would otherwise still have to be factored into salary if you're to afford getting to the job site somehow? The company considers it a net loss that they have to pay you for and enable you to perform work, and will say this to your face!? Not even joking, my ass would be escorted from the premises, holy shit.

"The company has to buy licenses so I can work," like this is a legitimate pain-in-the-ass concession just for them that they'd otherwise not be doing for their replacement, instead of something the company legally has to do regardless in order to function as a business.

Last night was probably the most civilly I have ever lost my shit and I'm still mad.

Applying that logic would dictate that it's useless to help the poor because most people don't actually care enough to contribute. Being able to both recognize bad arguments and apply good ones is a sorely needed life skill.

Whether or not your opponent listens after that is not really your business beyond making the attempt, but you don't get to complain about an issue you never even put the energy into solving. And, generally speaking, most people will only listen when you listen.

Which is true, and their note agrees with that. You won't always be talking to someone who cares. Or even normally, arguing on the toilet with bored strangers on the internet, where most people are just looking for entertainment and one or both people is usually dismissed entirely the moment they don't wholesale agree.

Which is not how a conversation is supposed to work. But it's almost never about convincing anyone, is it? It's about yelling at whichever people it's socially acceptable to yell at for points, and encouraging people to listen to each other garners insults. From often the same people who complain nothing is getting fixed and people are so mean these days.

Their main point — that there are three sides to an argument: yours, theirs, and the truth — is still salient if you want anyone in any situation to hear anything you're saying who didn't already agree with you anyway. If you're talking past each other, you might as well just shut up and go look at memes.

Especially irl. There was another commentor here that said everyone just wants to be heard. This is 101 in defusing an (honest) argument, and nothing is moving anywhere until they feel like they're being taken seriously. Go to any type of counseling, and the first thing they're going to do is make you sit there, fingernails digging into the upholstery, and listen to each other without interrupting.

The onus is not always on you. There are millions of people that just have to see it for themselves before they'll admit anything you say is actually happening or indeed important. Maybe not even then.

But the snarky name-calling dismissal the internet approaches every argument with doesn't even include room for a maybe, and it objectively doesn't make sense to bother engaging in. Getting to the bottom of what the problem someone is having actually IS, even if you think it's a stupid problem, can only be a benefit to solving it and making the stupid thing go away.

That user isn't actually the "what if the nazi has some points" kind of centrist that they got called. They've just been to therapy before, or had parents and spouses who cared how they felt, and now they care how others feel.

And why is it you, instead of them, that went aaaaall the way to the bottom :/

Such gorgeous eyeliner he has. Mine does this from time to time. She'll dig in if I look away or go for my phone and only relax the claws again if I return my attention to her.

Lmao. My pens. My crochet needles. Doesn't even care if I'm visibly trying to use them at the time, that apparently just makes it more fun. My iPad pencil has deep tooth marks on the back end, and as long as it's nowhere that affects function, I've just consented to looking at the dents as a keepsake. I may not have The Boy anymore, but I still have his wrist to elbow scars, etc etc

Aww, my baby loves sticks too

They have to be really thin, though. Almost twigs. Strong enough to survive her attack, and she loses all interest. Best part is when she proves too fast for me, and then she takes the stick away and parades around with it because she's so proud

You can teach pigeons religion this way. If they happen to consistently get food after doing any dumb old thing, even if their spinning in circles was purely coincidental Pigeon Behavior, they will assume that's how food is obtained and continue to spin.

I'll stop blowing when Miyamoto stops making it work

From what little I've seen of threads after its rollout, no, I really can't say I'd be looking forward to it. Almost every comment I read here is interesting and civil, and meta's clientele don't tend to have a lot of overlap with "people I want near me." Threads is only a few days old, but initially looks no different and I just don't want that kind of bullshit back in my life. I forgot what it was like without it.

If it were up to me, honestly? What I would like when meta intentionally or not eventually begins acting unstable around non-meta instances, is for that to be their problem. I would like the fediverse as it is to focus on itself and its own business and bugs instead of acting as Meta's nanny the way XMPP did, and if they have problems seeing the rest of our content and federating their subscription-only metaflorps, they are able to join us where they'll be more free anyway.

Same reason Spez is still doing damage control over 3% of his userbase leaving, up to and including signing up more bots to boost traffic and denounce the protests. It's not like he's losing a whole lot, he's kept multimillions of users (human and otherwise) to make his shareholders happy and his site will stumble along pretty ok for years. But in capitalism, especially the ad-driven digital sphere, eyes are everything.

Federating with the rest of us IS a blip in the grand scheme, but so was 3%. The fediverse existing outside of Threads carries the very significant risk that their users will sign up for their service and see the other platforms that are just as nice without being ad-soaked, subscription-based, and demanding your real name while they sell every ounce of your info.

One of us is going to be leeching users from the other and meta will not like this, so they're liable to make damn sure it's them. It wouldn't really shock me to see them neglect to upkeep federation with non-meta instances while they attempt to charm users away with a recognizable, high-traffic platform full of bells and whistles.

Rocket Knight Adventures, back on the Genesis. Not the easiest game, and the "jumping from platform to platform by your tail" was ass to get the hang of in a boss fight, but I miss when games weren't so serious about themselves and you could just play something for a while. Sometimes I really want a grand statement that will leave me in a crying heap. Sometimes it's nice to just be a possum in jet-propelled plate mail.