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I might have lucked into some cheesey builds, I only maxed one character and have a few at 60. One mod I did get was a full respec mod, but the default reset of the last 3 levels was at least good enough for me to see if a skill was working for me or not. I agree that there seem to be too many "dud" skills, especially on embermage and engineer. My lvl 100 character I did without mods and I kind of liked how punishing it was. I get that that's a preference though.

Ok, is a Diablo-like a thing I can call it then? It's just such a specific type of game, the isometric top down view RPG with classes, customizable character leveling, randomly generated levels with area themes, randomized loot, a town hub and inventory etc. I've always heard those games called Rogue-likes but I never played Rogue.

I haven't played it. My impression is that it was trying very hard to cater to the mobile market. I heard it suffered from a lot of design changes and ended up being sold and then patched up and released by a new team to cut their losses. Meanwhile, Torchlight 2 may be older but it was made with love and care and a strong vision. It's dirt cheap now too so it's not hard to get your money's worth out of it.

Torchlight 2 spoiled me for basically the whole genre. It is a classic Roguelike ARPG dungeon crawler but has so many thoughtful player centric quality of life features. Inventory is full but don't want to stop kicking butt? You have a pet that can run back to town for you, sell your stuff, and even buy a "shopping list" of potions and scrolls for you. It'll even run and pick up loot for you. I have trouble playing other games in the genre because I keep running into problems Torchlight 2 solved that I didn't even think about. It also has mods available to add even more or keep things fresh. It's getting old but because of that you can run it on anything. It's a damn good game.

Edit: seems I didn't know what a roguelike was

Using it to fuel the motivation to change things. Get mad that you tripped over a cable? Time to finally do something about cable management. Is your boss or your job making you furious? Take the time to explore new opportunities. Pissed at how politics are going? Find out who represents your district and write them an email about the topic and make your voice heard. Anger can be a good thing when it makes someone get off their butt and make a change for the better.

It's definitely extremely car centric, and it's always annoyed me how it just magics away cars instead of modeling parking. However they do have the tools (through expansions/dlc) and there are community mods that allow one to live out some public transit fantasies. I've been working on a certain city concept for years that's nearly entirely car independent and I could probably make it the entire topic of one of my nerd-outs.

OP provided one example, and then used it as a sweeping generalization that directly conflicts with my lived experiences. Do I just attend uniquely peaceful libraries with uniquely well behaved toddlers? Maybe I'm living in a haven of quietude and utopian standards of parenting and never knew. Have you gone to any public libraries lately and experienced what OP describes? It should be easy to if it's an epidemic worthy of telling me and my son we don't belong there.

Of course I agree that we should all be considerate of each other and respect others' rights to enjoy public spaces as they're intended, but that's not the title of the post, is it?

If OP made a post that said "people in public places should be respectful of others" or "libraries aren't a place for screaming" that would hardly be an unpopular opinion. So if you're fine with toddler reading hour and the concept of young kids being welcome in libraries, then you and I are in agreement.

OP explicitly said moms and young kids shouldn't feel like they have a place in the library, on the basis of a bad experience, which I don't agree with (but is at least appropriate for the sub).

These hypothetical screaming wild children running rampant through the halls of America's libraries are apparently sparing the libraries I attend, because as I said, I've never seen children acting out like that and I attend literal toddler events, with an actual toddler regularly. Note that they didn't say "screaming shouldn't be allowed in libraries", they said toddlers. If OP can't handle the sounds of toddlers at the library (which, again, I witness regularly) playing with wooden toys, doing puzzles, making crafts, having books read to them, then OP should find somewhere more private and not be mad at the public for using a public space.

It sounds like, rather the eras old horrible pandemic of the ever worsening "youth", OP had a bad experience one day with some unusually poorly behaved kids and rather than say something to the parent, or the librarian, or hell even the kids, they decided to play out a hypothetical worst-case-scenario in their mind and then use it as an excuse for inaction. Then they came here to rant impotently and make it sound like some wide-spread problem it isn't. And I just don't think that's a good enough reason to try to make me feel unwelcome.

As a mom with a toddler, I love my local library. We go for toddler story hour or just to explore new books. He's a voracious reader and has lost his patience with the books we have at home so having a huge range of children's books to pick from has been great for "dialing in" to what his reading level is at week after week. It's been a wonderful resource and the librarians know him by name and I've been able to meet and network with local moms.

Toddler story hour does have chatter and activities and songs and general noise but I personally have never seen a kid running around wild like you described. Not to say I don't believe it's ever happened, but that this supposed pandemic of ill behavior and dreadful permissiveness that is painted in your post and the comments sure has a "get off my lawn" perennial quality to it. I acknowledge my obligation to teach my (and when appropriate, others') kids how to behave in a public indoor place, but there always have been and always will be bad parents.

From my experience, libraries are becoming a secular community place. Ours has a crafting club, lego group, gardening group, and runs D&D games as well as the kid activities. The children's area is separate but it's not a huge building. The way I see it, you could be just as mad at a D&D group getting excited by a game or a bunch of Lego spilling on the floor, because you're sharing the space with others. Regardless of a library's stereotypical sound profile of hushed silence, it's still a public space and people will be making noises in it. A one time occurrence of kids being noisy is annoying, but so are coughs and sneezes and loud typing and books thumping and other people in general.

I hear you. Finally ending up in a class that properly challenged me was like roller skating into wet cement.

You could try a direct application of white vinegar to the stain, and if that doesn't seem to get it out, leaving it in bright sunlight might help. However if you're in a spot that isn't seeing much sun currently then I definitely second the suggestion to take it to a dry cleaner's.

Pretty much, start thinking about what documents you need to gather up, what services you'll need to use, and next thing you know, reorganizing your pantry and sorting all of your old paint will be irresistible!

I have definitely been there. I don't think there's anything that's sure to work with everyone but this is what works for me. I need to set deadlines for myself that I actually care about. If they are arbitrary then they don't work, part of me will know that there won't be real consequences for missing them. So I try to set up a situation where there's a deadline that has consequences, but not anything life-ruining if I miss it. If I want to do something like cleaning up, I'll invite some friends over for a game night and then I'll have until then to do dishes, tidy up, vacuum etc. I want the place to look nice and my friends are unwittingly holding me accountable, but if there are dust bunnies or I don't clean the sink my friends are chill enough that it's not that stressful.

Another thing that's worked for me is setting a goal with a nebulous but semi-urgent deadline (like "before spring" or "before it snows" and whatever it is, magically I want to do anything other than that thing. It's amazing the things I can get done while avoiding the thing I'm "supposed" to do. So let's say you want to do your taxes before April, you'll definitely get to them this weekend, watch how suddenly there are myriad things around you to do instead!

One of the main criteria of a "disorder", as per psychiatrists making a diagnosis via the DSM, is that it causes significant disruption in one's life, and distress or dysfunction. Asexual and demi people can be perfectly happy being the way they are and experience no distress about a lack of attraction beyond feeling confused or different. In contrast, I doubt many people with OCD are happy being stuck turning a light switch on and off for an hour because their brain tells them they aren't doing it the "right" way.

Her friends assured her she just needed to meet the right person, someone who would light her fire. When that hadn’t happened by the time she was 18, Carroll thought she might simply have a low libido and went looking for an explanation.

Do you think she would have sought out medical advice if she wasn't under social pressure to be sexual, or was aware asexuality existed?

Thinking her birth control might be to blame, she spoke with a nurse, who suggested that perhaps her boyfriend was “just a bad lover.”

Would the nurse say that to a woman who said she was gay?

Then Carroll wondered whether it was the pills she was taking to treat her depression. Over the next 12 years she visited multiple therapists, psychiatrists and physicians and tried different antidepressants—including a less commonly prescribed drug that gave her tachycardia, or a faster heart rate.

The medical professionals she saw were not aware asexuality was a thing and so she received erroneous and subpar treatment. This article is not about an asexual person's journey to find out why they are the way they are or something like that. It's very clearly about fighting discrimination. As you quoted:

“If a therapist had done what my mom now does … it’s hard to describe what that would have meant for me personally,” Carroll says. “That awareness can save asexual people years and years of uncertainty.”

As someone who is demi I experienced a lot of social pressure around sex and sexuality and experienced the same kind of doubts about myself that a gay person might have 40 years ago. Again, if you came into a thread about medical professionals finally not treating gay people like they are mentally ill with explanations of how people are/become gay, you'd look like an asshole, regardless of if you were right or not.

On the contrary, the article listed in the OP is about people experiencing medical discrimination due to a lack of awareness that asexuality can be a valid orientation. The asexual people quoted in their personal anecdotes about their medical care were reporting that medical and psychiatric professionals continually misdiagnosed or gave erroneous treatment based on assumptions around what "healthy" sexual desire looks like.

Essentially, imagine someone posted an article talking about how medical professionals are finally recognizing being gay isn't a medical issue that needs to be "fixed", and then you respond saying what the physiological causes of being gay could be. You're getting kick back because it's at best pretty tone deaf, no matter whether it's backed up with evidence or not.

Assuming you're asking in good faith from curiosity...

“Neckbeard”. Hair naturally grows on the neck. So we are okay with beards, but if you don’t shave the neck, you’re judged negatively?

The "neck beard" as a facial hair style is associated with hair only on the neck, not as part of a full beard. It's often associated with a cluelessness about personal hygiene or style, because it's not something that actually looks good on anyone. Because of this, it's usually a product of ignorance, neglect or depression. The stereotype includes a certain lack of awareness of personal grooming.

“Incel”. I think this means “involuntary celibate”, right?

Correct

Why in the world would you judge someone based off this?

Normally you wouldn't, in fact the originator of the term intended it to be neutral and without judgement, however the term has morphed. It's been adopted by a subset of extremely toxic individuals online, who blame others (society, more successful men, but especially women) for their romantic inexperience. The spaces they inhabit online are full of a nearly cult-like mentality, and the worst of them support such abhorrent ideas as human trafficking, sexual slavery and rape as natural and justified.

I don’t understand how liberals have these weird derogatory categories to put people in.

No idea where you got the impression this was a "liberal" thing. That seems like a very strange assumption to make. It's a very widely known internet subculture/stereotype that's been around for at least 20 years and has been generally apolitical. The only line you could draw between the stereotype and politics would be perhaps the rampant misogyny, in which case if that makes you immediately think only liberals could be against that maybe you should do some self reflection about the "side" you're on.

Still waiting for the Zootopia sequel. Genuinely good and creative movie that used the format to talk about tricky topics with some cushion and then became a cult favorite. They added some extra stuff under Zootopia+, they tee'd up the buddy cop format, did all this world building and then... what, Disney, this is the one IP you're not going to squeeze for all its worth? Where's the next one?

It's my pick too. I've never seen another rendition I liked any better and it's actually pretty loyal to the book. Caine's Scrooge is actually very sympathetic and his character growth is really satisfying. It's funny and wholesome and nicely grounded in what the holiday means to me personally. I'm an atheist but I love Christmas because of the reminder to share our appreciation and gratitude to the ones we love, and come together to share our good fortune or commiserate over bad. Plus the songs are so catchy.