MrBobDobalina @ MrBobDobalina @lemmy.ml

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Ah OK, I think we're getting to the heart of why you are saying that this wasn't an issue.

When you say that the author wasn't assuming anything, what exactly do you mean? If, for example, I write in a guide that if a user of my software does 'a' then he can expect result 'b', do you disagree that I am assuming my users go by he/him pronouns?

I might not have done it with intention, but there is an assumption being made there. Words mean things.

You seem very, very sure of there being "LITERALLY" no problem with the gendered pronoun being used for an unknown user.

Instead of hand-waving it away as the author being male and just prefering his own pronouns in his writing, we could maybe consider where it is being written and why it might feel particularly non-inclusive? ie: a field that has historically been very intentionally uninviting to women?

Also, it's not like this was someone petitioning for a boycott over one assumed pronoun, they just quietly fixed the grammar and submitted the change. Absolutely nothing idiotic about it.

You gotta pace yourself, spread that evening beer out evenly across a year of evenings

Well it's been a while, so either I still managed to get lost with that, or I completely missed that mechanic... Well, I think even if I were told what area I should be in, I'd still feel like I needed to check off the 3 new paths I can now go down of the 15 currently locked to me. If that makes sense. I miss my map...

I loved Hollow Knight except for the same issue. By the time I gain a new traversal skill, I have so many paths to explore that I can't remember them. Became all about meticulous backtracking, gave up.

Decided to give it another go. This time I found a map online, removed all icons and edited the image so it was just a simple outline with no spoilers. Printed it out. Marked it with notes and colour-coded symbols as I played. Made more progress, and exploration was way more fun.

Then I moved house and lost the map... I really love the game but just haven't gotten the desire to try again just yet. No idea how everyone does it with just those way-too-limited in game map markers

Here's the first one I found. Maybe there's more, who knows? https://www.abc.net.au/news/2008-04-29/emotional-buswell-admits-to-chair-sniffing-incident/2419558

So I'm assuming you misread it, but let's pretend for a moment that it was a Democrat pouring water into a Republican's bag - that would make you ok with it?

Try to not fall into that 'us vs them' at all costs mentality... You should hate it even more when 'your team' does something shitty like this, it lowers them and makes it far easier for the opposition to look better in comparison

Hmm. While I can see that and appreciate the inclusiveness of it, it still feels like the wrong choice to me. Maybe times are changing (obviously) and I need to get used to emojis being used in a more serious tone? But I don't know... Are we there yet?

Holy shit I hadn't clicked yet and hoped you were joking. I'm sure they mean well but I find that really disturbing, what a weird use of emoji...

Such a concise way of saying something I've tried to express about SO many things... Must remember these two sentences.

Damn, yeah hard to give any benefit of the doubt when it's so opaque like you say. Very concerning

Not arguing, just want to be able to quote this confidently - can you link a source for this?

I can find some info about Australian-made aviation parts going to other countries as per existing agreements, who use them in aircraft that are then supplied to Israel. Which is absolutely still shit, but I can't find anything about direct weapon sales to / from Israel

Counterpoint - almost all jobs will have elements of this type of stressful fuckery. Use it as a learning experience, and do your best to navigate the constraints while maintaining professionalism and value to your employer.

It's a balance; if it's truly soul destroying then your health and happiness is more important, get out. However, the more you learn how to deal with this, the less likely you are to burn out in other jobs when they get shit like this. Not so that you can just suck it up and grind away for awful bosses, but so that you can give yourself the maximum options for you, and stress less while going through it.

You already seem to have the right mindset about trying to do this right, so the one thing I'll say is this: everything in writing, straight away. It's easy to get too relaxed about this when it's all going smoothly, but then something catches you out and it's too late (eg already been told not to bring it up again).

This part will feel awkward, but to protect yourself, you need to send your boss an email summarising your conversation and your understanding of the outcome (not updating). Frame it as a "I hear you, and I apologise for my previous insistence" if it helps smooth things over, but just make sure it outlines your previous queries and suggestions and their response to you. It's the only way to cover your own butt in these situations, and it's a great habit to get into after every conversation that has decisions or changes etc. Put it in writing as a summary: you can refer back to it later and it let's the other person know you understood their position / instruction

He makes $210,000 per year..?? I'm not saying important and dangerous jobs like this shouldn't be well compensated, I'm just very surprised that it IS this well compensated

A chunk of solid ice that big at terminal velocity? I'm betting yes, very much yes, very messily yes

Yeah, definitely more about the tone and narrative for me, so I'd go with that plan and see it through!

If you have the option, I would suggest going to a Dr before assuming anything is the only plausible explanation.

Personally, I found out about my neck / posture issues (even though outwardly I have decent looking posture so I never assumed it would be that), got some excercises from a physio and a completely different pillow, and that combo drastically reduced my headaches

Ahhh I wanted to love it, it's one of my favourite scifi concepts explored really well, but I wish the big plot points at the end were told in the opposite order. Feel like it would have hit way harder, for me anyway

It gets worse the more I read the article... This guy spent a few weeks in blackface, thinks that he 'became a black man'. Then goes on to conclude that while it might be harder to thumb a ride as a person of colour, systemic racism is completely over?? We did it folks!

This fucking guy is only claiming that he's an IDF soldier in an attempt to intimidate a woman who is calling him out for being aggressive towards another young woman too. Pathetic