Mossy Feathers (She/Her) @ MossyFeathers @pawb.social

Secretly an opossum.

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Honestly, I'm pretty sure this is how my grandparents ended up MAGAts. They're old, in their 90s and their brains are fried. They used to be fairly intelligent, but they can barely think rationally anymore. They still managed to get out to vote for Trump somehow, even after promising everyone in my family that they wouldn't. They believed that the left is lying just as hard, if not harder, than the right. I don't know what their views are now that Trump is president again. I don't talk to them much anymore...

Opossums.

Wake me up when it has a furry mod and a mod that lets one sim go full fucking "rules of nature" on another sim.

The sim clones I've seen feel way too serious. Like they were made by the modders who can't resist dolling up their Sims and making sim versions of themselves to live out their lives vicariously through their Sims.

I don't want that. No one I know wants that. The people I know who are following these clones are only doing so because they're not actually interested in playing the clones, they're just hoping the clones will put pressure on EA to actually make good Sims content again.

Yeah, I can see how that'd get to you. I'd highly recommend seeing if you can get him to sit down with you and have a chat about this stuff. Based on what you've said, however, he does seem like a toxic person. I dunno what else to say. I've been on both sides of this and it sucks both ways. It sucks when you have to break off a friendship because they're toxic and won't address it, and it sucks when someone breaks off from you because you're the toxic one.

The only thing I can suggest is to spend some time talking, you know? Just... try to avoid sounding confrontational or angry. That'll potentially cause the two of you to escalate. If it doesn't work, then I'd consider leaving him but doing so with an olive branch: that if he works on himself then you'll be happy to be friends again, but that you need space right now because he's dragging you down. That said, it'd leave you friendless buuuuut... you could look around and see if there are any clubs, like gardening, automotive, books, etc that you might be interested in, even if it's just a passing interest. That might allow you to make some new friends in the meantime.

Edit: also, give him some time after you chat. If this is truly habitual then it might take some time and multiple reminders for him to "get with the program".

Yo, chill. Some people are really bad at time estimation. Some people forget about shit. Sometimes life just happens. He may not be certain why he's doing the things he's doing, or he may think it's not a big deal. Communication is important, but often neglected when it comes to male platonic relationships. If you haven't been communicating these things, do it. And be gentle. There's the chance that he may honestly be aware but doesn't know why these things are happening; he just hasn't said anything because you haven't.

I just said no worries I’m going home to bed.

Like this right here. No. You don't say this unless you mean it. Don't lie to your friends, don't lie to yourself. If it bothers you, say something.

And the most important thing about all this is to try not to be confrontational. Again, he may be aware that he's fucking up. It may be something he's very insecure about.

He responded with I said Wednesday it’s only Thursday stop sweating me 😂.

Like, this suggests to me that he may be aware and that it's possibly eating him. Or maybe he meant next Wednesday.

Is I keep that shit bottled up and try and be positive around other people and I genuinely always try not to dwell on negatives and use positive intent with people as negatively is crippling.

Also, take it from someone who used to do this, this is extremely toxic to yourself; and your friend's constant negativity isn't healthy either. You're both on the extremes here, it might be worth trying to help him find the good things by talking to him and pointing out the silver linings in things while asking him to let you vent when life's eating you up.

I don't actually use these much, but I love using them whenever I get a chance:

CRT monitors

iPod Classic

OG GameBoy

DSi XL

I actually had rockbox on the iPod but had to take it off because I'm more concerned with how it feels to use than the actual functionality; and rockbox kinda fucked it up.

Edit: I kinda unironically wish dial-up would come back, but as a novelty that ends up blowing up into an actual, community-driven internet. A) gives me fuzzy feelings for when I was a kid at my grandparents house before they ate the MAGA brainrot, and B) might force people to learn how to optimize their shitty websites or get left behind on the corpo-web.

Aw, big plushie!

Yeah, sorry, I wasn't thinking about how that could be (miss)interpreted. But yeah, she'll sometimes hang upside-down from the beams.

It's going really, really well; thanks! w

Weirdly enough, I actually care more about framerate on "pancake" (non-vr) games than I do on VR games. I can deal with 10fps in vrchat in a crowded instance. I need more like 20~30 for non-vr games.

That said, I get mentally exhausted when the framerate is <30 for an extended period of time in VRChat.

Yeah, uh, that hasn't stopped them from going after people in blue states.

Edit: that's a valid question, though. However, I'm concerned that it won't be enough.

God I'm so tired of this shit. I swear the intent is to downplay the danger that many of America's marginalized communities are in. That way trans people don't have anywhere to run. People with disabilities have no where to run. POC have no where to run. Most, if not all, of y'all have laws specifically forbidding refugees from the US. This is because the US has traditionally been considered a safe harbor for refugees. However, the US government is now sending immigrants to Guantanamo and threatening to do the same with trans people, people with disabilities, and so on.

We need your help. Not by stepping in and correcting course, but by giving us safe refuge. Most of us are already in very serious danger and sweating bullets while we watch the gun slowly move to point at us, but we have nowhere to run because no one accepts US refugees.

I'm trans. I'm living in Texas. I voted for Harris. I'm watching the gun as it attempts to murder my friends (I have some birthright citizenship friends) as it slowly drifts ever closer. We need your help, because right now I'm expecting that our expiration dates are less than a year away. They gotta find something to do with us once they start running out of space in Guantanamo c::

or hangs from the ceiling

I may or may not get to live that life soon. She has beams along her ceiling and likes to demonstrate that she can climb the walls and hang from the beams while in VRC.

And we're kinda into each other.

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The entirety of MBV's Loveless. Like, damn, turn that shit up and let it take you away.

Kay's Cooking. c:

I don't think she even understands how badly she fucks up, lmao. I think she actually believes she's doing it right, she's just too British.

laughs in bnc

Supposedly 0-4Ghz passband and can carry 500v. No idea what that translates to in terms of resolution/framerate, only that it's A Lot. Biggest downside is that it's analog.

Edit: for comparison, iirc my CRT monitor runs somewhere around 20~30Khz for a max of 1280x1024@75hz. I may be comparing apples to oranges here (I'm still learning about analog connectors, how analog video works, etc), buuuuut that suggests that a bnc connect running at its highest rated output would potentially be able to run some fairly large displays.

I may be misunderstanding what you're saying, but it absolutely is not an obligation to remember one's family (unless we're specifically talking about chosen family and not bio family). I have many friends who have been disowned, kicked out, physically/emotionally/verbally abused or even raped by their biological families as a result of being gay, trans, bi, pan or something else. It would be abusive and highly immoral to force them to keep their biological family in mind when making decisions.

They have no obligation to remember the trauma inflicted on them by their family members, except, perhaps, in a legal context against said family members; but once said legal context is fulfilled, they have no obligation to continue to remember. To state otherwise is to demand that they relive their past trauma, and for what? So their tormenter(s) can continue to torment them?

No. They have no obligation to continue to allow themselves to be tormented. Nor do they have any obligation to remember their biological families.

Now, if you're talking about chosen family, then you might be onto something, but as long as their chosen family is taken care of and does not need assistance from them, should they not honor their loved one's desire to one day be forgotten? Should they not allow the photos, keepsakes and whatnot that document a person's life, someone else's life, to be destroyed once they're no longer in use by anyone? To do otherwise would be selfish; if I am going to die and my best friend wished to not be remembered, I would allow them to go through my things and remove themselves once I had passed. After all, it is unlikely I will remember them once I've hit my expiration date and my things will no longer be of any use to me. If they wish to purge themselves from my mementos, then they may do so.

The only exception I can think of is if someone was exceptional in some way. The kind of person who gets a paragraph or more dedicated to their life in a history book. In that specific case I believe they should be remembered, but done so respectfully; perhaps with a pseudonym.

Honestly, you might not have to move back with the rate things are going.

How'd you move to the UK without having a job lined up?

Edit: also on the subject of her friends, where were you living before you moved away? I have friends in a number of states, they miiiiight be able to help, no promises tho.

Edit 2: I'm dumb and can't read.

"You're complaining about a genocide that hasn't happened yet when there's genocide going on right now in Gaza!" The reaction to that link: "That isn't genocide and you're making light of genocide if you call it that."

Oooo... I got that one from a furry on discord. My jaw hit the floor when they said that to me. Granted, they were European so they may not be keeping up with the news, but it was still shocking to hear that from a furry of all people.

In my case, the most recent fuckwit told me to never move to Europe because I wasn't wanted there.

(Do you want a furry trans-girl pet? I'll be your pet if you move me out too c:)

(I'm joking. Unless...)

Careful, people might try to tell you that you share responsibility too. I've had waaaaay too many people try to tell me that I, a trans woman who voted for Harris, must somehow share responsibility for my own oppression and the oppression of others at GOP hands.

Fucking disgusting.

Edit: one person has gone far enough to compare me to Martin Niemoller, a Nazi supporter who switched sides after his face got eaten by leopards.

Damn, that sounds awesome. I'm gonna have to try that.