I cant say for certain, but I do know that it's likely card number algorithms can be compromised in one way or another. I had a credit and debit compromised one day after another, the credit card having never been used at all. I had them both cancelled and reissued immediately, and after activating the new credit card it was done again the very next day. These were from the same bank, a small credit union based in Eastern Washington.
Again, it was cancelled, they told me it was an algorithmic attack, and the next card that arrived was activated and had no further issues despite use in person and online until it expired.
Maybe they were saving face after a breach, but that kind of attack felt far more likely given my lack of usage.
Thank you, I really appreciate it. There's a LOT left out of the abusive conditions I lived in leading up to that, I was forced to sleep on the floor for a couple of years, forced to physically abuse myself for her amusement once I was well and truly broken. She used my kid as a pawn to manipulate and control me and it worked. She used my size to intimidate other people to get what she wanted. Burned down our home.
Cut me off from all of my friends and family.
I'm doing a LOT better these days, it's been a few years now. Through therapy and giving myself space I uncovered memories of being sexually abused by a priest in my youth, which surely didn't help, and the legal ramifications of that are still turning as we speak.
I'm still a broken human, but I'm a much better version of myself than I was a few years ago. I struggle, and fight the constant feeling that I should cease to exist, but as long as my kid needs me I have a thread holding me down.
I have the most amazing partner now, who has shown me what it is really like to be loved beyond being a parent. Something I never experienced until the last couple of years.
I'm writing a letter to my kid, that I will give her when they are much much older, outlining what those years were like. I know they can see the evil in their mom, but can't name it yet. I haven't said a word about it to them, and have no plans to until much much later or until they start to ask me about based on their observations.
I had intended to just say thank you, but .. it feels good to let it out. Very very few people who know me have heard that much of the story. Thank you for hearing me. I truly appreciate it.
I don't want to downplay the racism that is absolutely rampant in situations like these, they treated me, a very white guy in the same way. My now ex-wife and young child disappeared while I was in meetings. I came out of my home office, tried for a while to contact her, and after getting no reply called the police. Neither vehicle was gone, no notes, no indications of where they went.
They searched my house, my vehicles, even threatened to break into the camper we had to search it when I couldn't immediately find the key.
It took them hours to locate them, and after wouldn't tell me anything other than they were found.
Turns out she had taken my kid to her family's cult compound, I immediately started court proceedings, then COVID helpfully came along to drag that out for years. I now have 50/50 custody, moved us all far away from that cult so she is less likely to take her back there, paid out the nose to get my ex to agree.
I did put my dog in the bathroom before they arrived, cause I know how that goes...
Something to be aware of, some devices will straight ignore your DNS settings in DHCP if they can't get to their ads. My iPhone 13 did that. I had to block port 53 udp/tcp for everything but the piholes.
I'm sure eventually we're going to see DNS over https doing the same and I'm 100% ready to mitm all devices that pull that bullshit..
Thank you for such a detailed writeup of your experience. I have twin 32 curved LCDs and one frame is starting to crack so I've been mulling over my options.
I'm in terminals all day long for work, videos and games when I have some downtime. It sounds like an OLED TV is going to be the ticket for me. I've been hesitant because the perceived loss of real estate losing a whole display, but that's clearly more mindset and habit than reality.
Sharing is a concern, I do a lot with coworkers and customers, but I'm sure I can find a way around that. Even if it's something silly like a VM that I run shares out of. Just sharing single windows won't do the trick as I'm often sharing a web UI alongside terminals and notes.
Not of the US anyway, he isn't a Natural Born citizen and that is a constitutional requirement. As I understand it, changing that would require an amendment and as it stands, I can't see any way for that happen with the chaos in government.
That really warms my heart to hear. I'm trying to be one of the good dads.
Just today my 9 year old and I had a conversation about how I'm always the first to step up and admit when I make a mistake, and communicate what I did or will do to fix it, where I have colleagues who will try to hide their mistakes and front like they never ever make them. Going so far as lying to clients, bosses, and coworkers all the way.
I think part of the unpopular reception is that those of us that suffer intractable sleep issues are told this constantly by people who just don't understand it or are just out to shit on people they think are lazy.
From my parents convinced that I was useless and lazy, to co-workers who are sure I'm just too stupid to be able to sleep well, to partners I've had in the past... Always explaining to me how I'm doing something wrong, and surely if you just try to sleep you can. No. No I can't. No matter what I do, even sleep aids are only effective for a week or two at the most.
It's insulting to constantly hear people tell me that I just need to do this, or that and I'll be able to sleep. Yes, I see it says many of us, but decades of being shit on for something we can't control takes a toll.
I've struggled for 30 years to sleep 'acceptable' hours. At best, I can wake up early if I have to, and I do a lot because my child's school starts way too damn early on the weeks she's with me, and I'm on-call every other week when she's not. That means I get 3-4 hours sleep most week nights. I'm too old for this shit, but I have no choice and no options. We know that not sleeping enough can have severe effects on physical and mental health, but if you aren't on a 'normal' schedule that goes out the window.
This attitude is maddening. I am diagnosed with delayed sleep phase syndrome that will turn into a non 24 hour rhythm if I let it. I've worked with sleep doctors all over the country, most recently Duke.
I'm lucky that my work lets me start at 11am, I don't get enough sleep those days but better than it could be.
Unfortunately I'm on call every other week, so forcing my clock to reset isn't an option. It takes me 6 to 10 weeks to get to societies ideal sleep schedule, and a single night of interrupted sleep to undo all that work
The weeks I'm not on call are my weeks with my daughter, who has to be at school at 730 and there's no bus for her to ride.
Either week, my schedule is fucked and I'm in a haze all the time. Helpfully anyone who finds out about it just tells me to excercise more (makes no difference, ive done a lot of testing and exclusion), stop caffeine (tried it), stop using screens of any kind after work (been there), or any other thing that they think I am doing wrong and causing the problem.
I did not expect to rant that much... I completely agree, science means nothing in the face of feelings and preconceived notions.
I cant say for certain, but I do know that it's likely card number algorithms can be compromised in one way or another. I had a credit and debit compromised one day after another, the credit card having never been used at all. I had them both cancelled and reissued immediately, and after activating the new credit card it was done again the very next day. These were from the same bank, a small credit union based in Eastern Washington.
Again, it was cancelled, they told me it was an algorithmic attack, and the next card that arrived was activated and had no further issues despite use in person and online until it expired.
Maybe they were saving face after a breach, but that kind of attack felt far more likely given my lack of usage.