Lumidaub @ Lumidaub @feddit.org

she/her, A(u?)DHD, German (linksgrünversifft), fanartist. Likes Doctor Who

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In most cases, I guess. So? What are we arguing here? That ADHD can't be "cured"? Sure. But it can be managed and some people profit from learning how to self-regulate, possibly because their life circumstances are beneficial, others need the store-bought help.

I'm not a medical professional but based on what I've read (and experienced), I don't agree that it is. Both usually work best in tandem.

Yes. "Just" a misbalance in dopamine levels in the brain. Dopamine reuptake is too quick, there's too little dopamine available, so the brain's reward centre doesn't activate properly. That's pretty much what they're saying. Drugs can inhibit the reuptake, making more dopamine available longer.

Wall of text incoming, sorry, I get anxious trying to explain myself and I ramble 😅

My specific situation is that I have serious trouble organising myself (planning and acting on plans) due to mental health and I am chronically exhausted. I'm on disability because of these and some other issues.

I can't find affordable loose-leaf tea in any store nearby. Ordering something I need regularly online is difficult because I need to remember that I need to do it and then also do it. I know it sounds weird to someone who doesn't have that problem but it's just far easier to just go to one supermarket, once a week, and get all the stuff that I'm going to need (and even that isn't easy when you're exhausted simply from existing). Add to that decision fatigue where I get thoroughly overwhelmed by the sheer number of options when online shopping - I actually like having just a handful of options because it makes deciding a lot less exhausting. (I also wouldn't know where to get affordable tea online that isn't amazon and I'm trying to avoid that but that's a different topic)

It's not the manipulation of tea bags that's difficult for me, I fortunately don't have problems using my hands other than being clumsy because I don't pay attention.

Tea bags:

• get tea bags
• put tea bags in thermos
• pour water in thermos
• throw tea bags out
• drink tea
• wash cup
• done

I do actually own a tea infuser ball and a reusable tea bag and there's more steps involved, including having to clean them. I used each a couple of times and then I just couldn't do it anymore because the thought of going through these steps was overwhelming.

• measure out tea
• try not to spill half the tea all over the counter causing more work (!)
• put tea bag in thermos
• pour water in thermos
• take out tea bag
• clean tea leaves out of tea bag, thoroughly, because tea leaves cling to the bag
• clean the bag of tea residue
• hang bag up to dry

What ends up happening is that I just want to drink my tea and even the maybe 5 minutes it would take to clean the thing are too much. So I leave the used tea bag lying somewhere, I forget that I have to clean it, and it takes me days to remember - worst case scenario is the tea starts getting mouldy in the bag. Even if I remember, I can't work up the energy to clean the thing so I postpone it (and don't drink tea in the meantime).

Sidenote: I have a Huel subscription because if that package didn't arrive like magic on my doorstep every two months, I regularly wouldn't eat anything but toast for days because everything else is more than two steps and thus too much.

I know it's not like anyone is asking me to run a marathon and I feel silly just typing all this. I'm the first person in line to chastise myself because I just have to pull myself together a bit and stop being lazy and get over myself and I have the hardest time accepting that I am ill. If tea bags ceased to exist tomorrow, I suppose I could deal. As it is, they are a small thing making one small act a little easier, adding to a bunch of other small things that are inconsequential on their own but make small acts a little easier so I can feel like half a person.

Maybe for it manifesting. There are certainly very lucky people who grow up and live in environments that just so happen to not clash with them and who never even think they may have a neurodivergence.

It's still not exactly nice to have that be the first thing you say to a person.

Since medication and therapy can help, getting a diagnosis makes sense. ADHD is unfortunately not just a different way to think.

Which part of that are you saying is outdated?

I don't have easy access to loose-leaf tea, unfortunately.

Also, this is not specifically directed at you but it's on my mind lately: loose-leaf tea is more effort than tea bags. This is not a big deal for healthy people but please don't shame chronically ill people for using tea bags.

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Consumers are advised to ...

Consumers are advised to check whether tea bags in their region are even made of these materials.

Edit: Also, "billions"? The cookie warning is borked on the foodandwine.com article so I can't read it but: https://www.dpa-international.com/trends-and-features/urn:newsml:dpa.com:20090101:250109-99-540705/ "Tea bags releasing 'millions' of microplastics into tea, study shows" - where does that difference come from?

polymer-based commercial tea bags

This is important. Tea bags can be made from a variety of materials, in Europe that's usually plant matter. So literally keep calm and drink tea.

Word of caution: an entire NAS may be a bit of overkill if it's JUST to get pictures from one device to another. Also consider that, if you get a small, cheap one, you may be tempted to tinker around with what else it can do - which will quickly become frustrating ("If only I had invested a LITTLE more, look at all the shiny fancy things I could do with it!"). Yes, I speak from experience (Synology DS 720+).

"The quiet girl who is clearly not stupid and reads A LOT but has trouble organising herself will be fine, she'll be able to sort herself out, especially with the help of her parents who are both teachers - no cause for concern here, there are kids who very obviously need more help."

• my teachers, probably, in the late 80s and 90s.

I don't exactly blame them, there really were kids who needed all their attention so I fell through the cracks.

"Having an influence" and "causing" are two different things. You seem to imply that what mum eats during pregnancy might directly cause the kid to have ADHD.

Same. It just screams "feed me ALL your time!"

Just like video games don't make someone a school shooter, tiktok does not make people have ADHD. Both can exacerbate existing problems and people need to be aware of this and look at WHY kids in particular seem to spend a lot of time gaming / scrolling brainless videos. But the causes are more complex and inconvenient so society jumps on easy answers.

... is... is this loss?

Ask your parents to take you to a psychiatrist and have you tested for ADHD. Throw things at them until they say yes.

Ah yes, I should've figured.

Any explanation why the elk did that? (Other than "because he can", of course)