Pigeon @ Lowbird @beehaw.org

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I wish we could federate our own user accounts on unrelated instances with each other, separate from the instance federation? So beehaw and lemmy.world can be unfederated, but if I have an account on beehaw and another account on lemmy.world, then I can connect those two accounts so that I can see the posts from both accounts in each one? Is something like this possible?

That way individual users wouldn't be so inconvenienced, but beehaw would still be isolated from lemmy.world's unrestricted signups/different culture in the same way.

I'd be interested in one, too, provided we're careful not to let it become like some support subreddits did where people in pain ended up venting to each other in circles, nobody knowing how to help, and all just feeling worse (I don't think r/cptsd in particular had gotten this way, though. I just mention it as a potential risk to watch out for, for the neurodivergence hive too maybe.)

Anyway, I think CPTSD posts should be welcomed here in the meantime, imo.

I think if one of them goes sour it'll be easier for people migrate to another mastodon instance, and for that instance to grow. When Twitter goes bad, there's not just a convenient alternative exactly-Twitter-but-run-by-different-people around the corner. But those small Mastodon instances could grow if they had an influx (to a point, and probably better so if the influx was gradual).

Edit: especially because federation means that the people who move to the new instance can still see and interact with everyone on the old instance, so they can't be held to the old instance merely by the presence of their friends on that instance. Unless the old instance blocks federation with wherever people start moving to, but still.

I like them sometimes, but there should ALWAYS be a way to turn them off, for people who don't have fast reflexes or have problems with their hands, etc.

It's not that we don't think ADHD is a disability; it's that we're more convinced by the social modal of disability than the "there is just something fundamentally wrong with your brain" modal.

For me, it causes me a LOT of problems, but I think most of those problems are looped around each other and exaggerated by society, and by the resulting secondary, problem-compounding problems that tend to pile up on top of adhd like depression, anxiety, cptsd, low self esteem, poor diet and sleep, and so on and on.

I see it exactly the same way I see autism. Not fundamentally bad, even though it absolutely causes issues. Autistic people, for example, run into heaps and heaps of trouble because of the difficulty they have communicating with more neurotypical people. They might miss subtle social cues and be ostracized, or be very direct to the point of being seen as rude, and get ostracized or fired from jobs and so on.

Meanwhile, off meds, I miss subtle social cues because I can't always look at someone's facial expressions and talk at the same time, and maybe there's a song or an anxiety loop or a previous conversation topic stuck in my head. Or I can't talk coherently because I think of a whole wordcloud of an answer all at once and can't pick a linear route through it fast enough. It's not so different, imo. The reasons are different but the resulting problem is the same, more or less.

And both ADHD and autistic folks experience sensory issues.

I suspect if there were meds that helped autistic folks the way meds can help many adhd folks, people would probably view it more the same way. Or if ADHD meds didn't exist and we just had to exist without them.

Even as it is, autism is so much more stigmatized than unmedicated ADHD. If ADHD is an illness, and autism is not an illness but is a stigmatized but normal brain difference, why do autistic folks usually seem to have the harder time in the world? Why is society's shitty response to adhd "ignore it, it doesn't exist", while its shitty response for autism is to widely adopt a child abusive "therapy" invented by the guy who invented gay conversion "therapy"?

I get tired of the people insisting we don't have huge struggles or count for disability help, too. But tbh I also get sick of being told my brain is broken and that my adhd is an illness, because I don't think mine is. I think it's just different, albeit in an often very inconvenient way. But I see upsides to it too. I don't think I would trade-in for a neurotypical brain, to be honest, despite all the problems. I like the creativity and the non-linearity of thought and the outside-the-box thinking and the hyperfocus adventures. I like my neurodivergent friends and the way our socialization works amongst each other. And I do have the meds, which help a lot with the problems.

For my, and my own adhd, it's both a positive neurodivergence and a disability. Not an either-or.

All that said, I kinda don't think "neurotypicals" per se actually exist, especially when accounting for the really dramatic plasticity of even adult brains, and the way experiences and thought patterns can and do continually change the structure of the human brain. And ADHD folks share symptoms with a lot of mental illnesses that aren't considered neurodivergent normally.

Talking about neurodivergence is helpful because it's a more positive and less medicalized lens for looking at things, in my opinion. I like it. But the neurodivergent/neurotypical binary idea can also become a problem.

Anyways. Different peoples' experiences with adhd can differ a lot. If you see yours purely as medical disability, that's a-okay with me, and you don't have to describe yourself as neurodivergent, but I don't see mine that way.

Perhaps on all sides of this we could benefit from being more careful not to describe other peoples' adhd in authoritative tones based on our own. Like, I agree not to call your adhd neurodivergent, and you agree not to call mine an illness? (Tbh I think you did a good job in your post of talking about yourself rather than talking for others.)

/ramble I half-feel like deleting and might later but at this point I've committed too much so here you go I guess

Edit: also there's so much overlap between autism and adhd I've heard some talk, sometimes, about whether they might be best classified as two forms of the same thing. shrug The science is still sciencing on this one.

Ditto. I'd call myself a socialist, but they're so far "left" they're far right again, imo. Pro-dictators and forceful subjugation and whatnot. Tankies. Not really sure what makes them left at all, really, except by virtue of the word communism and the fact that everyone seems to have agreed they are.

At least, assuming this crowd is the same as similar crowds I am familiar with - I'll admit I have not explored lemmygrad much, and I don't particularly intend to.

I love the faceplant cats do sometimes like this. Adorable.

I have a book about math across different cultures that has a lot of really cool descriptions of different calendars in a variety of cultures - I particularly remember one that had to do with when the fish would start showing up to spawn near their island, iirc - and I'd recommend it here but I can't for the life of me remember the title right now. I'll try to remember and dig it up later when I'm less asleep.

Ravenlok is dope. It's easy, and button-mashy, but my god the visuals and music make up for all of it. It swept me away. I think it would be especially fantastic for kids, but definitely enjoyable for adults to.

Valheim is great in single-player, to my surprise.

I like Redfall. ducks But seriously, I do. I like the big open world, the over-the-top vampire thing, the feeling of finding the best way to sneak up on the enemy and take them down. The guns feel satisfying to me. I get excited every time I find a better one. I'm curious where the story is going. Some of the set pieces and environmental storytelling moments are really cool.

I haven't encountered many bugs at all. One time some enemies appeared out of nowhere, but honestly that just fit in with the vibe of the game anyway.

The AI is dumb, but... I'm finding I don't care. They're numerous and still manage to kill me sometimes. I'm ignoring it entirely the same way I ignore it in the original Deus Ex.

It's not a Dishonored or a Prey, but it's not trying to be, either. It's great if you just want to explore an interesting map and do some sneaking and shooting and looting.

I'm obviously the minority in this opinion, but also, it's on gamepass, so it doesn't cost anything to try if you haven't. I almost didn't because of the reviews and I'm very glad I gave it a chance anyway.