I like the take in Phantom of the Opera better here. At first you expect it to be a beauty and the beast romantic story but Christine rejects the phantom not because of his appearance but because his soul is just as ugly as his exterior.
I prefer quotes to be as close to the original as possible. Hurtful as it is. That's kind of the point here.
Censoring the bad shit that happened before is a sure way to repeat it. See holocaust denial for the extreme. Don't deny talking about the past just because it hurts.
But if you just decided to never do it instead, your backlog would be smaller...