Why do people vote against their interest?
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I didn’t mean to come off as disagreeing with you
You did not, sorry if I made you think so ;)
My point was that I think there can be such a thing as a “perfect relationship”, as long as we have a realistic idea of what that entails.
The second part of your sentence make it so we can fully agree.
I definitely agree that the idea of a “perfect relationship” that a lot of media tries to sell us is completely unrealistic though.
It's so toxic. It was already a thing when I was a teen but it was nothing compared to what it has morphed into since the last 20-15 years or so. Today, I see so many young people not just completely lost, they're afraid to even try to live something, anything. More and more of them are also completely destroyed, crushed by that relentless bombardment of 'perfection' everywhere. Our society is killing humanity in its young, what kind of society is OK with doing that?
I'm not that old myself (in my 50s) but I'm old enough to not worry much about the impact of that trend on my own existence but I feel so sorry, and angry, for those younger generations as they have absolutely no idea what have been stolen from them. They have no idea what they're giving away in exchange of nothing but a mirage on a shiny screen.
A bit like with porn becoming the new normal way young people experiment with sex. I mean, I'm fine with people fapping at whatever they fancy but what's going on is more than just fapping. It's an over consumption of... human meat. And that over-consumption is depriving them of something much more precious. Making love was never about fucking someone or fantasizing about such or such anatomical detail or some fetish or another. Here again, I'm sad for them because they're the ones losing out. Badly... I was tempted to say "they're the one being screwed" but I thought maybe that would not be OK :p
Your english is great btw :)
Thx :)
As long as we accept that no realistic relationship is completely without conflict, I would say that a “perfect relationship” involves being able to work through the issues that inevitably show up. It’s something you build together, not something you just have.
Isn't it what I just wrote? Real question (my English is lacking so...)
Not sure to understand the question? How could you not know?
If you're thinking about finding the 'perfect' partner, forget about that. It's a lie. It's something fabricated to sell ads, page views and subscriptions to shitty services. Nobody (including you and me), nobody is perfect. So, no relationship can be perfect.
My spouse and I have been together for 25+ years and counting. It was quite obvious very early on we're fitting together nicely but that was far from being a perfect match and we had a few rough times and, all those years later, we can still have. But we've quickly realized how lucky we were to have found each other, and we valued that enough to get over any difficulty or hardship. And we still do.
So, to me that's a 'right relationship', just not 'the' right one as we could as easily have both been as happy with someone else if things had been different ;)
Why is this page not exposed more to the normal visitors
Maybe it's because most 'normal' visitors are just readers that aren't looking to republish anything?
A good question, though. That made me realize I had no mention of copyright/Free usage on my tiny (and uninteresting) website. Maybe something I should change. But I will not add that under each page, it will be listed in the About ;)
None. It's in my messenger bag, or sometimes in a small belt bag of some sort. Why? Because I don't need constantly access my phone as I seldom use it ;)
Thinking about it, I tend to keep nothing in my pockets.
You need to also use a standing mat to avoid your your feet/legs getting tired too quickly while you're standing. Get a good one, not some cheap knock-off.
Also, like already suggested: take as many walks as you can. Not just standing still. Walking will help you heart make the bllod flow better. Plus, it's great for the health in general, and for the head ;)
The pencil and the sheet of paper.
Zero surveillance. Zero AI.
Okay, how much effort should an end user be expected to put into learning how to use software?
As much as they're need to, as much as they're willing to.
If you need to use the software, then also you need to learn how to (properly) use it. If it's too much work because of the poor doc or because it's just something hard to use for you (which could very well be, I don't know but I do know I've failed myself to learn to use Emacs save that I don't blame the devs or the docs that's provided for free), then you need to either:
- Spend some more time (to learn it better).
- Spend some money to have someone make some digest version of a too technical doc that will help you. I decided not to do that with Emacs because I realized I could also not use the software and still be able to do my work fine.
- Find another app that will suit your needs better and time/energy availability.
FLOSS is provided as is. The user is free to use it however they fancy (which is amazing) but as a user we're entitled to no support either. And why would we?
I’m not Writing Their Fucking Manual for them. That is utterly insane.
No one is asking you to write the doc if you don't feel like it, and that's 100% fine: no one will ever blame you for not writing it either. I'm just telling you that if you think it's too much work for you you should not expect anyone to do it for you either. End of the story.
But let me ask you this: would writing the manual really be that much more insane than, say, writing the hundreds of thousans of lines of code to make the application itself? And if you think it would be more work to write the doc than to create the app (and offer it for free) may I ask you why? It's a real question, as I hope you realize I'm not trolling I'm just curious to understand your reasoning.
BTW, I'm no dev, I'm a mere (and non expert) user of FLOSS myself. So, I know quite well how frustrating docs can be ;)
“I don’t know how this works. I guess I’ll have to be the one to explain it.”
Nope, it should read: "I don't understand how it works. It probably means I should (make the effort to) learn how to use it, and then I may want to share what I learned to make it easier to others." And then, yeah, you're right:
How do we get the makers of FreeCAD to document their fucking software?
It's FLOSS. You may not like that but it's up to everyone of us to contribute to make things better. With our time, with our money, or with our expertise. And there is no fucking need to be fucking mad at anyone for not fucking doing it for you.
Or you can spend the money, time and expertise you don't have for FLOSS on shiny Apple or Microsoft proprietary apps so they can keep on not making good documentation and not giving a fuck about it. It's fucking up to you.
Listening (to one another).
I always work towards being better,
Imho, it's the only thing that should really matter to anyone willing to change. Looking forward, not backward and not judging anyone (including myself) but trying to understand. To me, that's what 'getting better' means.
I accept that this is the world, it is fucked up but it also has all of tgese amazing things in it
There are amazing things indeed, and they're priceless. And we're lucky to be able to appreciate them.
The thing is that what you call 'bad things' are also part of the package. Like all of us not being perfect. Not a single one of us.
Bad things are legit part of the world. They're not an accident. They're not an error. Like the shadow goes with the light, you cannot have the good bits without also tasting the shittier ones. No one can.
Like no one can be perfect either. As a matter of fact, I will say that we're all shitty persons and the difference is in how we teach ourselves (and kids) how to deal with what we are, the good as well as the bad, and how we learn to better control our worst traits (I call that "keeping the animal under leash").
this is just something that is out of my control but also directly affects me.
try to really think what is under your 'control' and you will realize it's not much beside your own thoughts, emotions and reactions to whatever may happen around you.
You did not control being born, nor who your parents are or your friends (working hard enough, you may be lucky to be able to pick your foes). You barely control how you look. You don't control with whom you (don't) fall in love. You don't control the weather or who is deciding what in the rest of the world. You don't even control if you're enjoying spinach, or not ;)
None of us control much.
More often than not, the need for control 'control' is a way to avoid facing our fear (fear of the other, of the unknown, of the uncertainty and fear of oneself). It's that fear trying to hide itself behind something seemingly actionable, and therefore so reassuring. Like little kids checking under their beds every night before going to sleep. Cute but also not the most effective way to fight a monster... when there is one.
The day I started welcoming that fear and doubt in my life (and in my head) is the day I started getting bett... less shittier of a person myself. At least I think so ;)
For example, on a really depressive day I might end up staying in bed for the first 4 hours, while with weed I might get up and clean and shift my mood towards a more hopeful one
Don't be afraid to admit you depend on that. I depended on my own addictions back then. Admitting it is the first step to effectively getting rid of it.
Imho, weed is not the issue as I reckon it does to you more or less exactly what you want it do? The issue is you not realizing you could get the same or a very similar result without relying on weed. Which would be cheaper and much healthier choice for you,. A choice without any bad side effect btw.
But what if you were in a situation where it did impact you? In a way that is part of your everyday. What if for years you are struggling with the internal conflict of “there is nothing I can do about it” and “I can’t continue like this”?
Let's imagine you do drug for that painful 'thing happening in your life' and then something new also painful happens, what would you do? Take even more drugs?
As an ex-addicted I know quite well the seductiveness of substances. And how easy they are to fall back into. They never helped me get better, they just... numbed me down and not even enough to not feel the pain.
What helped me get better, almost instantly, is to decide I should accept the world around me was something like a shithole (and that I too was an asshole) and work my way out from there and not from some wishful thinking about what I would do and how great it would be if those shit that were happening to me and had been for years were not a thing.
It's humility (I was an absolute turd and i was living a shitty life even if I earned good money, and I most certainly at least partly still am an asshole) and sweat. I literaly started moving my body to get back into shape (I rel-learned to walk, one step at a time painfully for a few weeks/months and nowadays I will gladly walk 10+ miles a day without breaking a sweat)
Edit: published too fast:
Don’t bother with telling me that even the individual has the power to make great changes, I believe it and I’m doing my best, but I am also aware of the fact that this situation will not be changed in my lifetime probably.
Well, that can be true but that should not impact your willingness to get better. I mean, I can't get back that body of mine I ruined years not caring about it but I can make it work as well as it's able to. and that's what I do. I can't get back all those wasted years either, but I can better use what's left. and so on.
Hope this helps. Wishing you the best
Indeed but, to me at least, this is not Trump/UNESCO-related issue. It's a Western societies issue.
We have very similar issues going here in France. For me, it all begun back in the 80s so, yeah, it's not really something new. But things have been going worse since then. And it has been accelerating. Quickly. Badly.
In France, our educative system (it's called l'éducation nationale, aka a nation-wide highly centralized system deciding what kids are to learn and how they should be educated) and since the mid-80s the level has collapsed beyond belief. Kids aren't being taught much anymore, and math as well as reading are vanishing skills. Let's not mention history and civic education (which help in any working democracy). Things have become real worse in recent years. Like, a lot worse.
Obviously, it's not the kid's fault. It's us the adults, teachers, parents and elected representatives voting absurd laws who have failed. But it's them kids who will pay dear for our mistakes (like with the climate crisis, btw).
They already started paying.
I mean, who has the best chance of getting a qualified job between say a lower or, nowadays, even a middle-class kid barely able to open a book and to understand what's written in it (and barely able to spell their name correctly) and a kid from a family where knowledge and teaching are still considered valuable investments worthy of sending their kids into private schools in which, unlike public schools, they're actually being taught how to read (and how to properly use books), and do math, and learn some history, philosophy and so on?
Those wealthier and better-educated kids will get all the rewards, while all the others kids will be fucked up, for their entire life (but hey, they will know how to watch ads on YT and TikTok).
They already are being fucked up btw, they just can't realize it as we have not given them the basic tools required to understand what's happening around them.
But the real worse is yet to come. Here in France at least even our private schools are subjected to the dumbing-down of the entire educative system, as they also depend on nation-wide laws and controls... Controls that have been getting harsher and harsher and, unsurprisingly, even those private schools are witnessing a sharp decline. Sure, it's less sharp than in public schools but still very worrying. So, what will happen? Well, I can't predict the (very near) future but would I have school-age kids myself and would I have enough money to send them to a private school I would simply pack my things and move abroad in any other country but France, in a country that would not actively be trying to ruin our educative system.
France was rightly regarded as a country of readers up until the late 70s to early 80s. Books (serious books, I mean) were a popular discussion topic, it was in the newspapers, magazines, radio and TV, it was discussed between people (the Internet and social media of back then). It was popular. Nowadays? It's not rare at all to enter a house where there is not a single book to be found. A house where no one owns a library card either (or read ebooks). Kids are just not encouraged to read books. Even comics are starting to become a happy exception.
Once again, this is a failure that will cost dearly to kids growing up in those families.
Without any reading culture and habits, not only will they be at a disadvantage when competing against 'reading kids' but they're also much more vulnerable to the stupidest ideas floating around... provided those already stupid ideas are simplified enough for them to instantly grasp them without much effort.
What kind of adults and citizen will that create? I'd rather not imagine. That's a fucking nightmare happening right in front of our eyes and nobody seems to care.
If a zombie loses blood, they aren’t going to keep walking, their muscles won’t work without blood.
Isn't that the whole idea behind zombies: they need no circulating blood nor an heart pumping it? Soulless and heartless bastards, you know.
If you have a strong door, zombie arms will break before the door breaks.
One zombie no doubt, but like we all know those assholes are often moving in hordes.... Sure, the first zombies squashed against the door won't like that very much but then neither will the door and once it breaks under the weight of all the other zombies... Or if it is not the zombie-proof door, they will inadvertently press too hard on one of those nice large windows we often see in the hollywood type of houses, a window that isn't zombie-proof obviously and then... bon appétit, like we say in my country ;)
The only kind of zombies I really worry about is the quickly and very much non-fictional ramping up illiteracy among younger generations. To me, this kind of cerebral death is much more worrying than hordes of dead people suddenly wanting to take a bite of my sorry ass. That said, maybe I should see that as the latest kind of zombification? Pure brain rot instead of flesh rot?
So, what would I do if illiterate zombies were to try to eat me or turn me into one of them? I would be throwing all the books from my personal library at them, knocking them off one by one with some (not always that) serious knowledge I suppose :p
Or maybe it's time I learn how to pray? Because if those illiterate zombies become dominant we'll all be screwed once and for all I'm afraid.
An adult that refused to stop using diapers, while complaining that their their poopy bottom smells like poop.
I quite like this approach :)
Any suggestions?
Ignore the nuts, like we all do?
thx for the clarification :)
If they do that (it's your hypothesis) it could also be for a similar reason people ask AI to do the thinking and do the writing for them.