LadyLikesSpiders @ LadyLikesSpiders @lemmy.ml

I'm a lady; I like spiders. I like a lot of other things too, like other bu

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Hey now, that's not fair. They also had Extra Punctuation :P

I struggle to think what that channel even did besides ZP and EP. Is Cold Take them as well?

EP is him doing the same thing, but not as reviews, more generally discussing broad topics regarding games and the industry. I personally prefer it to ZP

Well that's an unsub. Literally the only thing from them I ever watched

In any case, I look forward to whatever he's got cooked up. Hope he keeps doing stuff like extra punctuation as well

DO you have some form of ADHD? I do, and it does make it that my mind wanders even when I should be engaged with something

I can't wait for finale trailer season 2 part 2 number 3 part 2

As if I didn't already feel too old -_-

I'm using "scare" a little loosely here, but I was waaaay to young to have seen clips of Alien when I did. It really fucked up to the point that I wasn't able to sleep in pitch black into my adulthood. Nowadays, Alien is one of my favorite movies, specifically because it's so scary, but I avoided horror movies like the plague at least up until high school

I can certainly watch that movie no problem now, and I wouldn't say it scares me in the same way it did when I was little, but I wouldn't love it as a horror movie if it wasn't still one of the most frightening pieces of cinema

There is a whole lot of misunderstanding here. I didn't even mention toxic masculinity, but I'm assuming you mean the asshole male Doms. The comparison begins and ends with too many of them being wholly unpleasant about it, and so when I hear someone say either of those things, I approach it with caution. That's it. That's what a yellow flag is

I've already clarified on this and other comment chains how I do recognize the bias in how the annoying vegans are the ones I know about, and how I don't know the vegans that don't make it my problem. I do not think that vegans existing. There is no "whether or not they've said something"; it's explicitly ABOUT them saying something. That's the problem

I don't know how to make it clearer than that. I don't care of someone is a vegan; If someone goes out of their way to talk about their veganism, I raise an eyebrow; If a vegan brings it up to insist their way of life is better, that's a red flag

Edit to add: Reading back on the comments, I wanna add further clarification that the original commenter who was "the annoying vegan" stereotype was such because I mentioned my green flag, and they insisted that veganism should be a part of that green flag. It isn't to me, and one does not get to tell me what my green flags are. That's that vegan moral superiority at work. I didn't bring up my diet, and the implication sure felt like "If you aren't vegan, your 'empathy towards animals' isn't real"

-Tabeltop gaming

-Videogames

-Playing Guitar

-Walking/hiking. Just casual stuff, I'm not hoofing it out in the middle of the forest

-Worldbuilding and story writing

-Watching anime, other cartoons, shows

-Not so much a hobby, but a probably unhealthy fascination and love for the victorian era. If a subject counts as a hobby, this is one of them

Pixel art is an underappreciated form. I'm a sucker for good pixel art. Recently took a trip down memory lane (revisiting some PTSD) by rewatching the last mission from Metal Slug 3, and those NEO-GEO graphics were something else. The sprite work is incredible

I don't know why, but a hobby like this is kinda cute

You misunderstand my "intolerance". I don't care if someone's a vegan. I'm annoyed that I stated my green flag, and then a vegan came here to assert that my green flag should be something different and vegan. I was defensive because I was defending my position. In my experience, people who go out of their way to make the conversation about veganism are as preachy as Christians trying to convert you. It's a yellow flag, meaning it's not a red flag, but it makes me watch out, because it's associated with behaviors I don't like. It's like men who call themselves Doms, and people who are just super into WW2 military history. There is a non-neglible chance that it's gonna go from something innocuous to a red flag

I don't hate vegans; I'm not saying someone is a bad person because they're vegans; I'm saying that too many times a vegan has come out of nowhere unprovoked to act like they're morally superior. I am just as annoyed by meat eaters who go out of their way to talk about being carnivores and how great they think they are

Stop 👏 pretending 👏 you're 👏 making 👏 a 👏 difference

There is no ethical consumption under capitalism. It sucks, but we all have to pick and choose what parts of the system to support and which parts to avoid. You can make your own goddamned shoes if you feel so morally superior to avoid paying for child labor. Maybe avoid using your phone or a computer to grandstand so you stop supporting the exploitative labor that goes into mining the materials that make them

Agree for sure, but in the spirit of fairness, I suppose I should clarify that when I say "vegan" I'm specifically referring to exactly the kind of person you mentioned. Though I don't know any, I'm sure there must be vegan organizations out there that DO push for systemic change, and that they remain largely unseen by non-vegans because they don't make it anyone else's problem. This goes for any vegan. You only know about the ones who are loud about it. I mentioned my bias in the comment, and I just wanna make sure it's pointed out because I've had to clarify, like, 30 times already 😅

But yeah, I'm with you on this. veganism gets used so much simply for moral grandstanding without the chance for any counter examples that any time someone mentions they're vegan, unless it's in some explicit context, I have to brace myself for dealing with someone who acts like they're the pinnacle of morality

Yes, I did mention the bias in my comment, and again in someone else's reply. To clarify, veganism is a yellow flag specifically because if I know about it, there is a decent chance it's because they were annoying about it. If vegans were actually just all like that, it'd be a red flag

Alright well my point is nobody asked you. Without massive legislative and systemic changes, and improvements on meat substitutes, you'll never end factory farms. Not enough people will ever care to put down the hamburger, no matter how annoying you are about it, in order for a consumer's wallet vote to make a difference in the industry. You can sit up there on your high horse, talking about how only vegans actually have empathy, while people roll their eyes at you fulfilling the stereotypes that discredit veganism. By all means, be a vegan. I fully support that. I even encourage it, but that is a lifestyle choice you make for yourself. I don't believe the efforts of veganism are at all effective, and capitalism, horrendous though it is, has successfully alienated me from my food source that I am able to still have empathy and love for animals while consuming meat. The cow I eat was gonna die anyway

You're not some moral paragon; You're proving exactly why veganism is a yellow flag for me

If you go around yelling at people to put down the hamburger, people are gonna tell you to mind your own business. That's why people think vegans are insufferable. The ones who don't do this, you never know they're vegans because they mind their own business. Really fucks with the numbers, so I'll clarify and say that someone who makes it a point to steer a conversation to how they're vegan is a yellow flag. Veganism itself is not at all a problem

I welcome a world in which factory farms are gone. The amount of actual cruelty needed to sustain our population and capitalist demand is insane and depressing, but we are nowhere near winning that fight with boycotting animal products, and we never will. It won't make a difference. The improvement of substitute meat with systemic and legislative change will do that, and that's what we need to push for

So yeah, I'm not offended because a vegan told me not to eat a hamburger. I'm annoyed because a vegan went out of their way to steer the conversation towards their own moral superiority

So I'll apologize for having reacted so defensively, but I don't think that eating meat and having empathy for animals is mutually exclusive. It sure just seemed to me like you were telling me that veganism should be a green flag for me, and it just really isn't. It's whatever. If I find out a person is a vegan, I'm not gonna be more attracted to them; I'll just now know not to offer them a chicken nugget

Completely agree. It's a yellow flag for me. Veganism is also not a core component of empathy towards animals, but if someone comes into my comment about the subjective colors of my flags to tell me what should be a part of green flags, I'm gonna hold my position. This was my comment

Although perhaps I reacted to defensively. Maybe I mistook the intention of the other commenter, so to clarify I will say that I do not think that veganism/vegetarianism is required to be an animal lover, but I do not think that veganism in itself is a bad thing, only that someone being a vegan is not some kind of go-ahead that attracts me

No, I see vegans who think they're better than everyone else by virtue of their veganism as insufferable. I've no issue with vegans who keep to themselves I would welcome a world of impossible meat should we get to that point and encourage a switch to more sustainable diets as allowed by our infrastructure, but we're simply not there

Vegans are a yellow flag to me because most of the times, when someone comes up to me unprompted to talk about how eating animals is bad, they're assholes about it. I was approached here, unprompted, in my comment about liking animals in a post about green flags. If their veganism comes up when I offer food and they just say they don't eat that, that's no problem. That's why it's a yellow flag. Veganism isn't bad, it just has a bunch of annoying pricks in it that make 'em all look bad

So yeah, just to be clear, I do not oppose veganism. Veganism is a yellow flag because very often they bring it up out of the blue just to get on their high horse