LadyAutumn @ LadyAutumn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

Trans woman - 9 years HRT

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Are you under the impression that once your boyfriend is done assaulting you, you go back to normal? Or that after your husband beats you and threatens to kill you, that you resume normal life afterwards? Or that when you are sexually harassed by adult male family members as a teenager, once it's over you're able to continue growing into an adult without any impact on you? No, you don't. Being a victim of intimate partner violence is not something that ends once the specific act is done. Many women suffer the effects of it for their entire lives. An abusive relationship can also last decades. Most abusive relationships are long term ones. It is very difficult to leave an abuser, even moreso if that person is a member of your family.

This is far and away the most deranged response I have ever seen. Rambling, completely incoherent and entirely unrelated to the subject matter?

These studies are self reported as well. They're not account for violence against children under the age of 15, and by nature, they come in under the actual figures. The reality is that women as a class suffer chronic victimization of male violence. The overwhelming majority of women have experienced gender based violence at some point in their lives.

Don't let this information just exist passively now that you know it. Remember it the next time you hear a guy going off about his crazy ex-girlfriend who's accusing him of all kinds of stuff. Or when you hear a woman share her story. Or when you see a guy leering at a woman in a public space.

I'm not accusing you of not already recognizing predatory misogynistic behavior for what it is. But the context that the majority of women have experienced these kinds of things is important. When you are safely able to speak up you should. If your friend is abusive to his girlfriend he shouldn't get to be your friend anymore. Men should face severe social consequences for committing acts of violence against women. The reality is that they don't.

Have a read at my other comment in the thread then. I provide several links covering this exact thing.

Honestly, the fact that this is surprising to you is kind of incredible. Most of the women I know have been victims of domestic violence. Including family members.

This is just entirely ignorant of how prolific domestic violence against women is. There are communities of women where the victimization rate is over 60%.

This is not a conversation about cause of mortality. The purpose of highlighting the ways women are abused and murdered by intimate partners is to examine how widespread the issue of violence against women is.

Domestic violence is, statistically, something the majority of women will face at some point in their life. We are telling you that broadly speaking, the entire class of women is suffering the effects of chronic victimization by intimate partners, and you will do absolutely anything to avoid addressing it for what it is.

I live in Canada, so I'll use data for here. Before I do I'd like to point out that this is misogyny. There is never any degree of acceptability for the amount of violence women are subjected to. It wouldn't matter if men suffered literally the exact same amount. This is not a petty "who has it worse" contest. This is addressing the horrifying reality that the majority of women will be abused by an intimate partner at some point in their life.

The Canada gender-based-violence fact sheet shows some data on rates of violence against women for different groups. Crucially it shows an overall victimization rate of 44% for all women. It shows an unwanted sexual behavior victimization rate of 61% of women aged 15 to 24. It also shows 93% of all female victims of gender based homicide were murdered by a male intimate partner or family member.

There are other government of canada studies, such as this one, that show that men also experience intimate partner violence. It is notable that none of the figures can even be construed as equivalent, the rate of victimization is higher for women across the board. These studies are based on self report surveys, not on crime reports.

Then there is this aggregate of information page created by the Canadian government to show exactly the ways in which gender based violence against women is unique and horrific. Here's a couple key points but you can check it yourself as well.

• 10% of women have been forced by an intimate partner to have sex compared with 2% of men
• 8% of women report being made to perform sex acts they did not want to compared with 1% of men
• 7% of women have been choked by an intimate partner compared with 1% of men
• 37% of women report having ever been afraid of a partner compared with 9% of men
• women who reported being victims of IPV were twice as likely as men to report daily or nearly daily rates of victimization
• 33% of women reported having been sexually assaulted since the age of 15 as compared with 9% of men
• 12% of women have been sexually assaulted by an intimate partner as compared with 2% of men
• 32% of women in Canadian provincial regions reported unwanted sexual behaviors in a public place compared with 13% of men
• 29% of women in Canadian provincial regions reported unwanted sexual behavior in the workplace as compared with 17% of men
• overall 79% of people experiencing intimate partner violence were women

And there's lots of other data on this for other countries and even more for Canada as well. This is official stats Canada surveys. Their methodology and everything is available online. These studies show conclusively beyond any reasonable doubt that violence against women is a systemic issue at all levels of society and in all aspects of the lives of Canadian women.

This is ignoring the fact that not every women who is a victim of intimate partners violence is murdered by that intimate partner. Those who die are a very small minority of those who suffer. Women absolutely have to be concerned about being physically or sexually harmed by intimate partners. It is so common that we have to for our own survival.

I think the point of studies like this is to show that violence against women is overwhelmingly perpetrated by people they know. People love to characterize the epidemic of physical and sexual violence against women as though it's because of random horrible men targeting women in dark alleys. This directly shows that this is not the case. It's overwhelmingly men that women know directly. The vast majority is committed by intimate partners and close male family members in women's homes.

Women who speak out against this violence are very frequently met with shame and further violence. Even in cases where the man is obviously in the wrong. I would know as I and several of my friends have had this experience ourselves. Society is only sympathic to women who have experienced violence in mass media. When it comes to women in their hometowns, in their local communities, they often face outright hostility. The problem of misogyny is far more widespread than people are willing to acknowledge.

Yeah. It will probably suck for Canada too, but hopefully our government does the right thing and strengthens our ties with other markets in Europe, South America, and Asia. Really sucks how the past few years the Canadian government has torpedoed a lot of good international relations that would be really beneficial to have going into the Trump administration.

What a pointlessly cruel thing to do to children.

I've always believed that sex work in all its forms should be subject to regulation. Amateur pornography was very much touted as the response to corruption and sexual exploitation in the porn industry itself. Ignoring, of course, that women are sexually exploited all the time, most often by people they know personally. The pornography industry was and continues to be a gigantic mechanism by which women suffer sexual exploitation to produce content for which they are unfairly compensated.

Platforms like OnlyFans are difficult to regulate by design. They offload the process of sexual exploitation (which they absolutely know exists and knowingly benefit from) onto private citizens because it allows them to procure many of the same kinds of content as traditional pornography platforms while maintaining a distance from it's production.

There's a lot of ways it could be better. Making creators paid employees would be a start, which would subject their employment to the same regulations applying to any other kind of employment. Requiring creators to routinely meet in person with company representatives and have conversations with some kind of financial auditor would help as well. A lot of exploitation, like mentioned in the post, takes the form of financial exploitation. Which is easier to understand and help with if there's kind of clarity on where money is going.

This would turn OnlyFans into a completely different company. I believe similar things should be done for doordash drivers. The whole concept of a "gig company" is built on worker exploitation. They won't legally hire their workers because it allows them to function outside the bounds of labor regulation. In the case of OnlyFans it's just. You know. Partly the sexual abuse of women that they are profiting off of.

Three things.

1. Democratic party is not "the left". They are neoliberal conservatives who support American capitalism and imperialism. There are socialist factions in the democratic party, but they are small and have no actual power in the party.
2. No one said anything about not voting for Harris. You are having an argument with ghosts you've invented in your rotting skull.
3. "It's awful what is happening in Gaza" What is happening is the Palestinian genocide. What's happening is ethnic cleansing. What's happening is the mass murder of children. What's happening is the Israeli state and the IDF colonizing Gaza and the West bank. They are committing crimes against humanity with American guns and money. It's already at the utmost extreme. They are shooting children in the back of the head en mass. IF YOU ARE ANTI-GENOCIDE STOP PRETENDING ITS ANYTHING ELSE.

You are a conservative. You are the exact type of person that supports token progressive politics while women lose rights across the board and the DNC does nothing to stop it when they absolutely could. Same with trans rights. Same with black rights.

You are not the left. You never have been the left. If you disagree with genocide then you should be denouncing it with us, not playing interference tactics for genociders and genocide supporters. The election is over. The DNC failed. Get over it. Accept it. It's done. Time to address the many problems that got us here.

What in God's name are you on? How on earth is criticizing members of the democratic party in any way considered to be support of Trump?? You guys are really taking the term "partisanship" to heart. I'm entirely convinced you'd petulantly support anyone if they were a part of the Democrat establishment. The way you come out of the woodwork to spout off this kind of deranged nonsense, it almost sounds like you WANT the genocide in Gaza to worsen. Like if it didn't, you'd be deprived of the opportunity to pompously rub someone's nose in it.

Have you no principles? Have you no morality? Are you a doomerist or a pessimist or what? If you have nothing worthwhile to add to political dialog other than "criticizing Joe Biden for literally protecting genociders from international prosecution and also continuously arming them is exactly the same thing as supporting Donald Trump" then maybe turn off your phone and go back to plugging your ears and closing your eyes. Your liberal friends are all waiting for you.

Conversion therapy is a crime against humanity. This is what the American evangelical right wants to do with us.

What are you even talking about? Have you ever seen the things they say amongst themselves? Have you not paid an ounce of attention to Trump's rhetoric or the white supremacists who support him??

The fascist furvor continues. Republican voters are all claiming it's a hoax. They don't even need to be told by anyone it is. They're fully trained to believe that violence against minorities isn't possible. It's always a conspiracy to make wealthy white heterosexual men look bad. Always.

If you feel like experiencing the sinking crawling feeling in your gut that is realizing you are surrounded on all sides by indoctrinated fascists, read a Fox news comment section. The comments are genuinely horrifying. There is nothing that would cause them to challenge their unwavering support for Trump and his ilk. They will cheer as the military rounds up Black and Hispanic Americans.

I don't even know if we'll make it to January before we start to see republican states make moves towards actually doing these things.

There are ways to move millions of people. It's been done before. If they have the resources to do it (its the US military, they definitely do), there's nothing really stopping them. He's the most powerful man in the world. Legal process is kind of out the door if he says so. He said he was going to enact emergency powers. Doesn't that essentially mean a suspension of the US constitution? If so, there's nothing preventing him from doing that.

This article isn't about an escalation. They have been actively committing acts of genocidal mass murder for over a year.

Thank you. I'm glad to be here, too. Affirmative care allowed me to become the woman I am today, and for that I am very thankful.

By politically isolated I'm going to assume you just mean conversion therapists who will try to convince children they are not gay or trans. Because if you're not giving them affirmative care and listening to them the alternative is denying them.

Conversion therapy kills people. That's what it does. That's all it does. It is NOT possible to stop someone from being gay or trans. It has never been shown to be possible in any fucking way. Conversion therapy does not work, has never worked, and is equivalent in mental distress to severe psychological torture. It frequently involves physical and sexual assault. It involves emotional abuse and manipulation. All in service of forcing us to conform. This is the alternative. If you're against affirmative care this is what you're for. Think about telling these people that what happened to them was right. Think about going to the lived ones of people who took their lives while undergoing conversion therapy. Think about telling them that what happened is right and should be legal. This is what you're advocating for. This is the side that you're on.

I was a transgender child. Going through forced puberty led me to attempt suicide at 14 15 and 18. Parts of my body are covered in self-harm scars due in large part to the utter repulsion I felt at the effects of testosterone on my body. I became an alcoholic at 16, and an oxycontin addict by the time I was 20. The day my voice cracked was one of the worst days of my entire life. For reference I started counseling when I was 13. I was receiving therapy throughout all of this.

I am extremely lucky to be alive. I have had to spend tens of thousands of dollars undoing the harm testosterone did to me and some things I can never fully undo. I could have avoided all of this if I had had access to puberty blockers. If I had been offered puberty blockers, I would have taken them without a thought, and I categorically would not have regretted them. I knew I wanted to be a girl when I was 4. I knew that I didn't want to go through testosterone puberty when I was in grade 4, and they taught us what that was.

Is forcing us to go through what I went through humane? When a real treatment exists right there? When studies show a less than 1% rate of regret for gender affirmative care for minors? Do you realize you are forcing children to go through what I went through? Do you realize not every child will survive? Do you realize you're supporting causes that kill children? For no fucking reason? Because you don't fucking understand what we go through and have no fucking interest in listening to us? How about asking trans kids what they fucking need? How about asking trans adults what being a trans child was like for them? No you have no fucking interest in any of that.