Kintarian @ Kintarian @lemmy.world

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I hope the people that really need help get the help they need

That does seem like a nicer way of saying it

A lot of people who desire to help others don't really do so because they want a better world; they do it for the sake of their own fee fees, because they want to feel like a good person who helps others out. 

--Here you're saying that they are being disingenuous and glorifying themselves which means you probably think they don't really want to help people at all.

As such, they're willing to violate the others' agency and consent and force their "help" down your throat, even if they aren't actually helping jack shit but being just a burden; and they get really pissy when you correctly highlight that they are not helping and impose some boundaries. (inb4 "but I have good intentions" - go pave Hell with them dammit.

--Here you seem to be saying that they're forceful and arrogant and should probably go to hell

That is not just social workers, mind you. You see people like this in all professions and environments. However, I believe that there's a disproportionate large amount of those among social workers due to the nature of their job, simply because social work is all about helping others out. 

--You see this across the board in similar professions and bureaucracies which could be true, I'll admit

Couple that with bureaucracy. There's a high chance that your info is in some database as "refused help". Guess how someone who, unlike you, needs and wants help but declines it due to pride would get into that database? "Refused help". So the next social worker checking your entry will see it as someone who potentially might want and need help.

--Here you say that I probably could be put on some blacklist and every time I open my mouth they're going to come shove it down my throat again. 

Now, I'm not necessarily saying you're wrong, I just don't think I would have put it so bluntly.

Sounds good. I think I'm just going to not open my big fat mouth next time.

Thanks, I appreciate that

Good point. And I might have come across a little defensive, as someone else mentioned. My next strategy is simply not to ever bring it up again. It's apparently not a fun topic of conversation when it comes to doctors and hospitals.

For instance, she showed me a piece of paper where she put little yellow stars on all of the different resources. One of which was for $700 a month. I said that I don't want to pay money for rent and utilities. She then said okay well here's this place where you can live with a roommate. I said I'm not really a people person, I don't want to live with a roommate and she said well you might make a new friend. And it kind of went on like that for a while.

I see your point, but I'm currently sitting in an easy chair at my mother's house. I just had a shower, and a snack and now I think I'm going to eat some ice cream while I watch Wheel of Fortune.

Wow, I really need to keep my eye on voice to text.

In general I don't really like to hurt other people's feelings. But I also like to have my freedom to decide to do things the way I want. I can see your point but it seems kind of harsh.

I have clean clothes, I go to the laundry regularly, I have a portable shower, I have a portable toilet. I brushed my teeth, I clean my body, I get exercise everyday, I try to eat a low fat high fiber diet.

I had to have my gallbladder removed

Could be. I'll work on that. I tend to get a little annoyed when I'm offered unsolicited help I guess.

That sounds wonderful, I wish we could do that. Maybe someday.

I know I sure couldn't do it

I'm not trying to crush anybody.

A lot of people have jobs online. A lot of people have YouTube channels that they make money off of. Me, I'm on social security. I'm retired and I make a little bit of extra money online. I save up money in a savings account just for situations I might get myself into.

I was in the hospital and she didn't have very far to go. But I kind of get the point. I'm sure she had 50 different people to see that day.

I guess from this perspective I can see that point. The last one I talked to was actually arguing with me about it and was upset when she left, I don't understand that. I wasn't confrontational with her. I just simply said I'm fine I don't really need any help have a nice day. I thought I was pretty calm. I guess it was probably just her.

Good point. I'll definitely never mention it again.

There are a lot of nomads and van dwellers living in dispersed camping spots, traveling the country and enjoying the outdoors. We even have meetups. Others like me leave the sites better than we found them and follow all the rules. Everyone I've met so far is happy living this way. I know it seems strange, but enjoying the outdoors and not having to pay bills is wonderful to me and I get to choose solitude or community however I please. It's a very free way to live.