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  • So, there's this issue that there is a significant fraction of indigenous people who aren't interested in being called Canadian, in no small part because every interaction indigenous groups have had with white Canadian institutions have been done on the white Canadians' terms.

    White Canadians lobbying them to get on board the Canadian Unity train is... just more of that.

    White Canadian political leaders stepping all over indigenous land and consultation rights is just more of that.

    Nothing about the current discourse around national unity and inclusion is signalling that white Canada is looking for any kind of real partnership with indigenous people. It all just screams of an opportunistic shot at forcing indigenous people to get on board and shut up.

  • Voting like this is a bit of a dark pattern, though. Especially downvotes. They come from places where the platform owners want to download the responsibility of community management to the community itself. This has a nasty tendency to silence valid criticism while simultaniously supporting brigading behaviour.

    At the very least, we should be having serious, design-focused discussions about eliminating or highly restricting downvotes.

  • So, are you a bot, or a liar? Because Carney was still in England when the carbon tax was implemented.

    You can not like the Liberals, you can not like the carbon tax, and you cannot like Carney, but it's deeply and openly dishonest to link Carney to the tax.

  • I wonder if the upcoming release of SF2e opens the door a little more? Instead of "this is different, let's try it" it can be framed more as "I'm excited about this new thing, want to indulge me?"

    And then suddenly, Skittermanders everywhere!

  • My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.

    This is the reason why. Your ex has managed to control the narrative and has manipulated the social atmosphere to ice you out. Emotional abusers are often very good at this. They mamipulate everyone around them.

    And they are really good at choosing their abuse victims. They know who they can love bomb, who they can isolate, and who will keep their mouth shut.

    I have been there. Watched people I thought were friends just evaporate, choosing their relationship with my ex over me. Realizing they were never my friends, they were "ours", and ij the end they stuck by her, the more openly social and boistrous one.

    It's taken a long time, and many different therapists, but I've come to accept my experiences as abuse, as not my fault, and... sometimes... that I am worthy of love, friendship, and happiness.

    I have found the books The Body Keeps the Score and Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (available as audio books), as well as videos on toxic shame and attachment by Heidi Prieb, very helpful.

    I know the words feel hollow, because they feel so far the opposite of true, but you are not alone. Many others have been through what you've endured, and have made it out the other side. There are people out there who will, one day, be so very glad to have you in their lives.

    Some day, when you're ready -- and much earlier than I did, I implore you -- you should join some activity groups. Take up a recreational sport, join a gaming group, take group acting lessons, join a choir... anything that is a) casual and b) a group activity. Bonus points if it's something you always enjoyed, buy your ex tried to excise from your life. This will help you rebuild your social network, and let you reconnect with yourself.

    Physical activity and a healthy diet is also important here. It may be the last thing you want to do, but it actively helps fight all of your worst psychic injuries. Not only is it physiologically good for you, it's psychologicallly good for you. You know that it's good for you; your brain knows it. Doing healthy things means choosing to care about yourself. You need to actively choose yourself at every step of the way. It trains your mind to see yourself as worthy of care.

    Oh, and ritually burn things that were hers, or that were shared and tied to your relationship. You don't need them. You don't need her. You're going to be better off without her.

  • Yes, because ultimately it is nothing more than a redistribution of wealth from the wealthy back to the poor and working class, and it's the people on the bottom of the income ladder that actually drive the economy -- especially the local economies -- instead of just hoarding wealth.

  • Talk to Americans - they’re embarrassed by how their government is treating Canada

    Maybe they shouldn't have voted for the guy that treated us exactly the same last time, then.

    America, as a country, is a fascist state, and an international bully, and has been for a long time. The USA is what a fascist representative democracy looks like, and Americans should remain embarrassed by their country until they come to terms with that and fix it.

  • The game isn't balanced around multiclassing, either. If it were, everyone and there dog wouldn't have difficult to explain backgrounds that involve blood magic, mysterious patrons, and devout faith in something.

  • No, the idea is that 4e basically imploded the brand, so they pushed some unfinished stuff out the door before the axe came down and suddenly and unexpectedly they discovered that the brand was printing money.

    Rules aren't restrictive, because every rule is optional. A lack of guidance is WotC asking you to do their work for them.