Openly acknowledging being aware you have trouble being emotionally available is being vulnerable so you're already making progress. You don't need to openly cry or always reflect your feelings. The first step is to be honest even if it's vague. If that's just a "how are you?" "I'm good, just stressed" or "just trying something new". In a relationship? Just try asking for a hug when you want one
I'm smart in some ways and dumb in others. I'm not gonna say I'm smart with my qualifications because I have one of the worse social senses I have ever met and there are some topics I am abysmal at
Pronouns are just your preference for what you should be referred to. If you don't provide them people will assume. The logic is that if only people who want to use specific pronouns suggest them, you are essentially outing yourself so even if you associate with your birth pronouns, it's polite to present them so it's less awkward for others.
The actual use is more awkward. The expected use is that you use it when the person in question is discussed but a pronoun isn't really used unless that person is not around so again it seems to just be a polite way to present yourself.
For added context a good use case of announcing pronouns would be a research paper where someone would be described to another person
Edit: Ive been made aware about another obvious use case. Talking to people online where you might not have a way to identify any other way
No tears for a long ass time but I basically had a no-tear cry when I realized I was struggling so hard to keep up with cleaning, cooking and excercise mentally which is literally what nearly all adults do and many do it on autopilot. Made me feel like such a child.
I was smart enough to recognize that was just imposter syndrome by the next day but it hit hard at the time
Twice. As a teen, I was extremely sensitive to the point someone made a joke and I couldnt stop crying got called home and hid on the bus the next day because I couldn't go in. My mum was trying to cheer me up because she's great and she casually said " why do you care amongst a bunch of other things' I'm not sure why it clicked in my brain. It obviously wasn't the first time that had been said to me but after that I became incredibly desensitized to emotion. I couldn't care about others outside of a few people, I enjoyed company but any problem people had would go in one ear out the other. Because of this I lead an incredibly selfish life. I never even considered dating or hooking up with people because it was too much effort. I only cared about my own amusement and stopped cooking, cleaning, etc.
One night in during COVID I was lying in bed and the thought of death crossed my mind and I felt that switch again and I realized extremely vividly I am afraid of dying. Had a panic attack, was constantly stressed, realised in the next week that I want more of life, I want to get married and have kids. I want to improve myself. At age 29 I have decided to try push myself into the dating scene even though it will be stressful and I'm scared, I have created a cooking and cleaning regiment, I have been working out. I have been planning, and my empathy is starting to return.
The idea behind using a credit card is to earn credit for when you actually need to borrow money. You should be using credit cards as proof you can pay back what you spend so you should have that money. An ideal use case is having the money on a debit card, opting to use a credit card and paying it off before it incurs a cost. Doing this would be free for you but could help greatly in the long term when you borrow for something like a mortgage.
But you shouldn't do this if you are already bad with money. I just use mine to pay for online subscriptions and have them automatically paid off because I know I can't be trusted to remember to pay them off
This is what I use. It's 30cm to cook everything up to my weekly meal prep, flat sided to make mixing easier at the edges and the a handle to make it a little easier to keep steady.
Live service comes across as life service. A game made to monopolize my time and become a significant part of my life by using addictive systems. By the very nature of enjoying the variety of games, it will immediately turn me off a game.
There was a point I used to turn down SFX because I wanted to listen to the music. At some pointed I started to turn down the music so SFX was more punchy like it used to be.
I think they do learn, just learn the wrong messages. Areas spreading misinformation usually are very accepting of those who agree with them, it's an easy way to feel accepted. Doom scrolling is a very easy way to feel included and feed your dopamine receptors, but when the rush is gone, it just leaves you depressed.
How much do you think I'm talking about? You'd be spending more going to the cinema then a swimming lesson. Obviously it may not translate but if so then at least we've found a cause
Ever indoor pool I've gone to in the UK has offered Swimming lessons. Not having natural bodies of water isn't a great excuse for basic swimming. Seems to just be a culture difference since everyone I know had lessons at an indoor pool as kids
Openly acknowledging being aware you have trouble being emotionally available is being vulnerable so you're already making progress. You don't need to openly cry or always reflect your feelings. The first step is to be honest even if it's vague. If that's just a "how are you?" "I'm good, just stressed" or "just trying something new". In a relationship? Just try asking for a hug when you want one