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  • Look to the way bodybuilders train; do only 1-2 days each week, max, per general body part. I would suggest something like doing back and biceps on one day, chest and triceps on another. (Back exercises usually involve pulling, and that uses the biceps, so you would start with large compound movements--like bent over barbell rows--and progress to more isolating movements, like preacher curls.)

    The general concept of 'toning' is a serious misnomer; you need to either add muscle mass or cut fat; both of those will make the muscles more prominent. You can't realistically do both at the same time without significant chemical enhancement, and I'd recommend against that.

    As far as cardio goes, I think that 5-6 days/week of cardio is fine, depending on your intensity. LISS cardio can def. be done daily, but you should have at least a day between any HIIT sessions to allow your body time to recover. If your running is all at a conversational pace (you can talk fairly easily; I've never been able to achieve that, even when I was bicycling 30 miles/day), then daily is great. If your heart rate is >75% of your maximum, then every other day. You might want to add in other forms of cardio as well, like rowing, which is going to also involve upper body.

    Soemthign else to consider is getting a personal trainer. If you do that, look for one that has a certificagtion from the American College of Sports Medicine or National Strength and Conditioning Association, in addition to at least a BS in a degree like exercise science of kinesiology. Most PT certifications are absolute bullshit, and in the US, none of them other than ACSM or NSCA are worth a damn. If you choose to hire a personal trainer, be very, very specific in your goals, and make sure you get programming for all the days you aren't working with them. Most PTs will try to sell you as many sessions as possible, which is great for them, and not so great for your wallet, so set your expectations accordingly.

  • Weird. I've gotten oxy for a surgery, and it was just meh. Didn't make me feel tired, didn't really do a lot for the pain--which wasn't really that bad--def. didn't get me high. OTOH, I'm allergic to at least one opiate, so IDK.

  • So, here's a thought to mull over.

    Most crimes committed with firearms are pursuant to drug trafficking. Gangs fight other gangs to control drug territory, because it's extremely lucrative. When I lived in Chicago, the gangs were hyper-local; the police had dismantled the leadership of the large gangs, leading to the fracturing of the gang structure, and creating more, and smaller gangs, all fighting over turf, and where and to whom they could sell drugs.

    When you move that off the streets and anonymize all of it, you remove the motivation to commit violent acts. A gang on street A is no longer competing with a gang on street B for customers; now they might be competing with someone across the country, or in another country entirely. Not only that, but you de-motivate adulteration of drugs; if you sell low-purity trash, or cut your percs with fent, your customers now have a plethora of other options to try.

    The Silk Road made drugs and the drug trade safer for everyone. If this had become the norm, instead of p2p sales, we could have seen significant drops in violent crimes associated with the drug trade.

  • Just to note, charges dismissed with prejudice means that the prosecution can't correct the errors and re-file the case. It's usually done when the judge has pretty compelling evidence that the charges are garbage, or there's really egregious prosecutorial misconduct.

  • I don't know for certain, but I believe that my ex-spouse told people I knew that I was abusive to them. My ex- didn't want me to tell people what was going on--they said that it wasn't anyone else's business--and I found that over a very short period of time a large number of people that I knew had suddenly blocked me from contacting them. At this point, I only have a single mutual friend from that time period. I've never asked him to make a choice, nor have I asked him what my ex- said or did, because I don't want to put him in the middle of that shit, even though it's been nearly ten years now.

  • My first marriage.

    I realized it had to end after I had failed to complete suicide, and was in mandatory intensive outpatient therapy. I was listening to everyone in group therapy talking about how awful their relationships were, and how miserable their partners made them, and the really, really obvious answer was, well, just fuckin' leave.

    And it hit me that this was true for me also.

    My spouse had been resisting going to marriage counseling for over a decade, controlled all the finances even though I made most of the money, had largely cut me off from the few friends that I had, was verbally, emotionally, and sometimes physically abusive, had been rejecting any attempts at intimacy for over a year (to 'punish' me, I guess?), and then blamed me for all the problems. I'd started spiraling when they threatened to leave me, had a couple really bad days at work, and then gotten fired for my "bad attitude". And from there, I got forced to a hospital.

    The divorce was... Unpleasant. They lied to all of our friends about what was going on, and I ended up losing all of the friends I had remaining. The only positive was that I got the house and car.

  • No.

    No.

    And also, no.

    Long before I was diagnosed as being autistic and having ADHD, I knew that I would be a shitty parent. I'm often wrapped up in my own world and busy doing my own thing, and that doesn't work very well for relationships, and considerably less well for raising a child.

    I have cats, I have a spouse. That's enough.

  • Damn straight they do.

    The extra-shitty part is that the lens in your eye gets less elastic as you age. I'm myopic; if I had gotten LASIK years ago, I would now be hyperopia, and would need glasses to read anything.

    I would 100% replace my eyes with cybernetic ones if it was possible.

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  • The laws for incitement of violence are supposed to be pretty narrow; see Brandenburg v. Ohio, 395 U.S. 444 (1969). OTOH, prosecutors tend to overreach frequently, and fighting it in court is expensive, even if you would otherwise prevail and have charges dismissed.

  • Crypto can be used at regular merchants as well. It's very handy for avoiding interchange fees, and annoying bank rules. For instance, my own bank will not allow me to make any purchases with a vendor outside of the US, even if I call them and try to pre-authorize it; their excuse is that there's too much fraud. That means that if i want to buy, for instance, military surplus apparel and equipment from Czechia that I have to find a company that uses a US payment processor, or find someone that's importing the surplus that I want, rather than going directly to the source. If I want a surplus Czech OM-90 gas mask, it's about $400 new through a US distributor, and about $50 or less (...plus shipping) if I buy one directly from Czechia. Even allowing for the relatively small mining fees with crypto, and the costs of shipping, buying direct with crypto ends up being much cheaper than using a US distributor, or trying to find a bank that doesn't either prevent foreign transactions or charge usurious fees for them.