HardlightCereal @ HardlightCereal @lemmy.world

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You and I have very different ideas about the moral responsibilities of people in authority. I think it's essential that leaders be held to a higher standard in all cases.

Protest is a fundamental part of a functioning government, a functioning society, and a functioning community. I've been a mod on queer forums, and I always gave people a way to argue their case so long as they were engaging in respectful debate. I would tell people the boundaries and make sure they followed them. For example, if someone wants to say I'm not really nonbinary, I'll argue the point with them because it's my duty as a community leader, but I will establish they must gender me correctly and not use slurs for the duration of the debate, even if they disagree. They're welcome to make their disagreement while respecting me, and usually they couldn't manage that balance and I banned them. They would run out of patience before I did. It is absolutely essential that community moderators have an abundance of patience.

You shouldn't have been banned permanently. I think the appropriate duration of ban for that kind of fatphobia is a month.

Scientists have well documented the negative effects of stress and shame on health outcomes. Positive pressure to get motivated and improve one's health can be effective. But mean-spirited speech, insults, and shaming or blaming statements do not, statistically, have positive outcomes. They're more likely to result in stress eating, panic attacks, and depression, all of which increase your risk of heart disease. The idea that fat shaming works is pseudoscientific misinformation, and if you look at the consequences scientifically, it promotes an unhealthy lifestyle. Fat shaming does work for SOME people, but on average, it will make people less healthy. It's not supported by doctors or scientists. They would recommend more positive and encouraging ways to help someone lose weight, not just slinging insults.

So when we're talking about hateful pseudoscience, banning people who engage in that behaviour is appropriate, but I don't think it should be permanent unless you've been fatphobic in the past.

If you approach things from a scientific perspective, the meaning of harassment is just "political speech I don't like". Some kinds of political speech, like protests and appeals, are important and should be allowed, but can easily be labelled harassment. Other kinds of political speech, like sexual harassment or hate speech, are bad. "Harassment" as a word isn't a useful one. Two people having a fight are harassing each other, regardless of who's right. We have created a society that hates political speech and welcomes the use of state and corporation violence to suppress dissenting politics.

I don't say this from a place of callousness. I've been a victim of the most vicious harassment and it's given me PTSD. And what I learned from the experience is, talented manipulators and people with social power will always benefit from being able to call political speech harassment.

And get re-banned if you post on the first instance from the remote. You can still be kicked out of communities because of misunderstandings and power tripping admins.

Well in this case, my best guess is I've been banned because I contacted a mod team that doesn't want to hear from me. Problem is, they're leaking sensitive chats from back when I was a mod and using them to attack me on other platforms. I asked them to stop. I'm a victim of harassment, but they probably reported me and the Reddit employees don't care enough about doing their jobs to investigate. I've been in situations like this before, and I was able to resolve it through the appeals process. But that's not going to happen if they don't tell me precisely why I've been banned or let me appeal it.

To be fair, I'm not aware of any fediverse instances or other reddit alternatives that even have an appeals process. Reddit might be throwing away its best features, but it is a feature its competitors don't even have yet.

"I don't like Star Trek" is just code for "I don't like Star Trek yet"

I was watching Rolling With Difficulty, and they had to pass through a portal that you can only enter if you're genuinely despondent. So Dani, the ship's engineer, imagines a world where everything is working and there's nothing left to fix, and she immediately drops through the portal.

It's hilarious because they were fighting a villain whose whole ideology is "entropy is inevitable, stop struggling to live", and he keeps trying to tempt Dani to his side, and he just does not understand her as a person because every time he says "everything is going to rust and fall apart", she says "great, then I'll have more stuff to fix".

Anyway Rolling With Difficulty is basically a Star Trek D&D campaign. They sail the astral sea between planes, seeking out strange new worlds.

I've been playing though Prey and seeing people refer to Morgan Yu as "M. Yu" always throws me for a loop because I think they're using an honorific. Doesn't help that Morgan is already designed to be a gender-ambivalent character so the player can choose their gender and the story will still be the same

Why don't we just replace honorifics with pronouns?

She/Her Smith, please find enclosed your Kmart rewards card

That solves the problem of where to put pronouns in formal settings

Mx (pronounced "mix") is getting more common

Also, Dr

Was something wrong with my application last time? I had the top voted comment out of the applications so it can't have been that bad, was it?

I applied last time and I'll apply again. Same deal, I'm neurodivergent and queer as all hell and I have experience in queer meme spaces.

https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/1258374

Only by people who haven't seen Lower Decks or Prodigy

Geordi's visor gives him constant pain

You should walk around the house on your phone

I think the current batch of AIs and the Kardashians are bad at using language

Do we have to bring up the slaver?

Back when I played D&D I followed the adventuring day except for during overland travel. The key thing is that not all encounters are combat. A riddle door, a trap, and a stubborn NPC are all encounters and the game is designed for you to include those too. I see kids these days saying 7 combats in a day is too much and I'm like "I agree, you don't understand the adventuring day". Instead of trying to learn, kids these days just ignore everything except combat and then complain combat is too slow