While that is true, and the hate for any religious practice or belief on lemmy is a bit grating (I'm an atheist), my best friend grew up in the witnesses and was robbed of the only family and community she had ever known when she was excommunicated, because she accepted baptism at like 12 or some shit. Which is a totally appropriate age to be putting all of your support systems and your literal family on the line if you ever change religious perspectives or realize you're gay.
She's now married to her childhood best friend; they had a very cute gay wedding.
It is good that they are generally nice folks. It is fucked up that they think that is an okay thing to do to children. Robbing children of their families for accepting something they were too young to understand is frankly disturbing.
The trick is having people with whom it is safe to voice negative thoughts and opinions. Generally it's the same people who confide in you. There are also other ways to vent that pressure a little bit in the short term, but expressing that negativity to other people is not really replacable.
For guys (as I assume you are), this can be very hard to find, or to build these kinds of relationships for cultural reasons, but it is fundamentally necessary to being an emotionally healthy person.
You voice the small negatives on an ongoing basis so they don't pile up to the point that they're explosive.
Getting a therapist, so you have someone you're paying to hear your negative thoughts and feelings can make it easier to start. Its often hardest at the beginning because when you first start voicing the things you've bottled up ongoing, the intensity will generally be higher than is pleasant for people to be around, and you kinda have to let off enough emotional pressure for a while before the intensity comes down. A therapist could be helpful in doing that without having to unpack the culturally ingrained masculine discomfort with vulnerable or uncomfortable emotions (in some ways, in other ways therapy is harder. But it's private and comes without the normal social expectations of being positive)
Good luck! This is a really hard thing to work through for a lot of men, as a society we really set men up to fail in this way
Frankly I think it's also an intense reflection on the effectiveness of propaganda. I talk to my grandpa, a man I do not consider to be, in terms of his individual views, a racist hateful man, and the facts of the world he's working with are just 100% divorced from the reality I live in. They bare almost no substantive similarity.
It requires a painful amount of cognitive dissonance to talk to him, but at least the conversations usually aren't shitty (aside from the backdrop of him voting for a man who is amassing political power by promising to persecute people like me and the folks I love 🙃)
To my understanding (please take with several grains of salt), some folks felt like it would encourage toxicity since you can essentially mock something someone said without saying it to them directly, while sending your audience to the original post, and I believe for quite some time the plan was intentionally not to add it
On the other hand, I've heard folks suggest that by allowing people to have their own isolated conversation about an idea you can potentially limit some of the harmful consequences of people with large audiences or something, but I don't remember the exact explanation
Personally I'm happy to get quote posts and I'm happy that mastodon is cautious about implementing features that facilitate hostile interactions in the way that major platforms do for engagement
Hopefully someone can chime in with a more informed/detailed explanation, but I thought I'd share what I know in case I'm the only one to reply :)
Thanks for your input! I'll have to take a minute some time to go to the web interface and just look around db0 and see for myself whether it feels like a good fit for me, I appreciate you sharing your thoughts!
People who find computers useful should be using computers.
This weird idea from some linux users that only people who see their computer as a hobby and have mastery over them should be allowed to use them, and that computers should be designed exclusively around the needs of computer-as-hobby users, is absolutely nuts.
Its a tool. It should be designed to be useful as possible to anyone who needs such a tool.
Sincerely,
Another linux user who cares about UI/UX and is tired of this kind of junk. It's a dumb argument, let's all stop making it please. Linux supports all your "technical user" wildest dreams, let the average people have their features and design considerations too.
Huh, I wouldn't have guessed db0, interesting. I'd kinda considered exploring db0 as a future instance but maybe its not such a good fit for me. Thanks for the answer!
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If it helps they are also victims of cult brainwashing (I imagine it does not 🙃 personally it just makes me sad)