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I think the weird-ass names are an attempt not for the parents to be different, but a generally severely misguided desire for their kids to appear different in a "Wowee, that's special" kinda way. Everyone else has a 'normal' name. But not my kid; my child is so different and special and s/he's going places, s/he's gonna get out of here & do important things or be a famous athlete.

As we know, oftentimes that's simply not the case...and it's just a nightmare for the rest of us (and that child) to spell, say, etc. I find it incredibly frustrating, even though I know this wasn't their choice, but their parents'. If their last name is weird shit, I politely ask for the first name. If the first name is also weird shit, I politely make a best guess phonetic whatever & move on.

Fun fact, it's not exactly ghetto made-up name territory, but Oprah Winfrey.....isn't Oprah. Her given name is Orpah, named after a biblical figure in the book of Ruth. Very obscure, ancient name! Nobody knew how to spell or pronounce it properly, and they started calling her Oprah instead. 🙂 Now...we've got Oprah.

There are multiple factors to work, muh both sides, but MGTOW is very much a thing. You can rabbithole for weeks. 45% of young Gen Z men aged 18-25 have never approached a woman in person for a date. It can be argued that is an active choice, not even approaching women.

I remember early 2010s, people were making funny videos yelling "YEET" & throwing things super far.

Then there's 26, when in the US you get kicked off your parents' insurance & you can go fuck yourself! 🤗

Also going to give a bonus, that "smarter" comment was just a quick little aside thrown into the larger & not entirely connected argument against marriage. I was referring to not having children, a second argument that could have been a separate paragraph, but I didn't want to make the comment even longer. That's kind of a format error on my part, and I apologize.

And yes, there is also proof of that. Web search 'higher education lower birth rate', verbatim, and you'll see supporting evidence. All around the world, more education, overall less babies.

Now it's important to not be overly reductive and actually think, "Me smart, me have no babies. You have babies, you dumb ." Not true. But all the various factors surrounding being in a first world country, having access to resources, better work opportunities, and yes having a higher education & access to more information....very much tends to lead....to having fewer and/or no children. Again, it's playing out around us, we're below replacement rate like many other developed nations around the world.

But there's just no need to produce children like there is in developing or third world countries. In some countries, they're popping out all the babies they can because they don't even know how many will survive into adulthood. In countries with no law or support, children are the poor man's pension. It's a proven method that works, there's more at stake, that's all they know, that's what they do. And I get that.

I find myself in very different circumstances, with very different rules of engagement & on its face extremely limited payoff for having children. Selfish analysis aside, I personally believe having children (especially now) is a little selfish & I don't want to bring children into this world to be mere financial batteries for the state. Additionally, when polled, 15% of parents admit to regretting having kids. And if you ask me it's at least 15%, it's the 15% that have the balls to admit it. I have a friend like that, told me he regretted becoming a parent. And idk it's hard to say "what might have been" & whatnot, but given my personality & my beliefs I'm inclined to think that I would also be in that 15%. After I aged up & learned more than I knew at 18-26 years old. Young, dumb, full of cum & whatnot.

1.) Well, yes. It's reality, playing out around us all the time, for the reasons I listed. The evidence: web search 'marriage rates in the US', and see they are on a very steep decline. Women open the door to the bedroom, but it is men that open the door to the home, and marriage. Marriage rates are on a steep decline...because men are opting out of the institution of marriage (as it is currently configured), choosing instead to cohabitate or MGTOW.

2.) There is societal programming, and enough of it is good & right & leads to the benefit of society as well as the individual. But specifically marriage, I just don't know how much it benefits the man anymore, but it's still pushed. I think men need to be presented with all the facts, presented with options they might not have even considered & hard-checked like listen: have you really thought this through? One side is all pro-marriage, don't think about it just do it. Isn't it only fair to list some good reasons to....not? Men's lives are at stake.

Men aren't dumb; men are watching other men in their relationships, we know half or more of all marriages end in divorce, we know 70% of divorces are initiated by women, we see how it plays out in divorces, we see alimony & child support...we have more access to information than ever before. If you'd like to learn more straight facts & statistics, presented in as condensed of a form as possible, I recommend you check out "The Book of Numbers: Analyzing the ROI on the Pursuit of Women" by Aaron Clarey. What are the chances of getting married? Of staying married? Even if the marriage lasts, will you be, you know, happy and/or better off for having married? It's a compelling read that makes a rock solid case for MGTOW.

It's a red-pill movement, but not a black-pill. As outlined in Aaron Clarey's book The Menu: Life Without the Opposite Sex.. Enough of society tries to tie marriage/family with life itself, and how if you fail to marry or have children, your life is meaningless. Men internalize this bullshit, and are killing themselves at record rates. Men account for 80% of suicides, and suicide is the #1 cause of death for men under 50. MGTOW teaches that regardless of whether you can't get into a relationship, or you choose not to, or you got into a bad one & it failed, that's not a reason to end your life. You can have a happy, strong, fulfilled life sans marriage, significant other.

As an American & living in IL, double whammy, enough of my tax dollars are stolen & repurposed for....anything they want, really, besides improving society and the lives of citizens. So that's lost on me.

We needed to legalize gambling in IL, "for the children & roads". We need to legalize marijuana, "for the children & roads". With the last one, they legalized it (yay) and the money does indeed go into the fund for education & roads...but then they move that exact amount out of the fund & take it elsewhere, like it's their own personal piggy bank. 😆 The corruption is so obvious, it would be funny if it wasn't ruining our lives.

It's like dealing with a bunch of morally bankrupt children, "You said it has to go into the fund...but you didn't say I couldn't take it out & spend it on other stuff!" Bitch, do I really have to?? It's kind of implied, when we're raising taxes for the children & the roads, that you spend the money on child education. And the roads. Like George Carlin, I am inclined to think this is by design.

Technically true, but if you're not a piece of shit & you financially support, physically be there for your own children, you don't just cum & it's over.

Fuck I'd love that

Respect, and idk what your pipe is, but I want to take this moment to spread the good word of DynaVap. Seems like a receptive audience.

DynaVap is a maker of small metal pipes that bakes the weed via convection, instead of destroying it via combustion. It's gentler on your lungs, no smoke. It allows for a fuller extraction, more high. You can even use it inside & the vape dissipates relatively quickly, even still your gf could use a boof tube. You'll spend $40 to $240 on a piece, but let's be real, it's more like at least $75-125 minimum because you don't want the $39 B model. On sales they sometimes throw those in for free. Have some respect, don't buy it.

The best part of all, besides being healthier for you, more discreet, better flavor, and gets you more high times -- you can blow $230+ on the all-titanium HyperDyn & if you're a heavy user, I can personally guarantee you will save $400+ buying flower. Once you stop burning that shit like a caveman & switch to convection bake, the flower lasts so much longer. To buy a legit ounce from dispensary where I live, that's $280-300. It'll last quite a while if vaping with a Dyna.

Any convection method will do, but if we're talking Apocalypse/off-grid options, consider the Dyna -- small, all metal, battery-free. Got an o-ring in there. Provided you don't just lose it, you will die & your great-grandchildren could pick up your used Dyna & vape weed with it.

Louis Rossmann is correct: there is no reason to let your printer connect to the internet. They're never going to release an update that makes the printer insanely better or more efficient. It might improve the program & functionality, just slightly? But every time it connects there is a very real possibility they push an update on your purchased goods to fuck you over. It's not worth it.

Broad strokes & bad wording. I'm mainly pointing that bad wording comment at the title, and the author. It's obviously not a problem of figuring out how to breed, it's just that men are looking at divorce rates, divorce courts, alimony, child support, etc & they're saying, "Yeah...fuck all that, I want nothing to do with that." Enough of the smart, smarter ones aren't producing children. Technically you could say "that's a big problem for the country".

Hence...they need help/incentive to decide to pump out babies. A one-time $5K baby bonus is on the table, which to his credit as the author points out, is nothing. A one-time $5K payment isn't going to flip the switch for men.

Now Hungary is offering tax exemption for life, for women that have 4 or more kids. Again, there seems to be no mention of the men, I guess they can go fuck themselves....but all I'm saying is now there's an incentive!! At least for the women. Fuck taxes.

Yes, Feelzgoodman420, you may indeed smoke the grass.

Tbh I think most people on Lemmy need to touch grass more often ¯°_o)/¯ Your friend sounds alright, for someone who pulls "facts" out of his ass. 😂

Horse-fucking jokes aside, gonna be real here: actual horse girls are fucking crazy. I've known a few of them over the years, and all of them care more about horses than hours of their free time, space, money...

One guy had an unemployed wife with a horse. 🙄🙄🙄 Got their horse when he was 9, IIRC. So she's not bringing in any money, this very normal & unimpressive horse is just eating through his finances & stealing an inordinate amount of attention of his wife from him. I think that fucker lived until he was 26 or 27, so do the math, he was financing that horse for 17 or 18 years. DDG's AI assist says: "The annual cost of owning a horse can range from about $8,600 to $26,000". Eh. Just assume the cheaper end of like $5-6K and still...$85K+, wth, right?

It should come as no surprise this regular-ass man seemed to be financially poor, despite working two jobs.

Another fun little anecdote, though, that may or may not be true -I'm inclined to think it is true- I hear horse girls that ride a lot naturally leads to very very very good sex, because frequent horse riding develops very strong core & pelvic floor muscles. Balance. Organic movements, rocking back & forth for hours on end. Basically they ride a horse & you can bet they can ride the shit out of you while fucking; the position is called cowgirl, after all. You just have to decide between a few hours of happy-happy fun times & having any serious amounts of disposable income, financial security.

I've come to the conclusion that you don't marry a horse girl, but perhaps if you've got a girl you like you take her to ride horses sometimes. As a treat. Hell searching prices, assuming high end $80/session, you could do that twice monthly 24x80=$1920 annually. Or she could get herself involved in equestrian care & shovel the shit or whatever, and probably ride for free/cheaper. Idk this is just a mental exercise for me at this point, but personally I haven't found a horse girl attractive enough, worth pursuing. Just some things for you to think about, good luck to you & your girlfriend, never ever ever let her talk you into buying a horse. That's dumb AF. Rent instead!! 🙂

It is gloriously pedantic, and it's good to be specific! Thank you for the additional info. 🙂

1993 sounds about right, because I feel like I've seen it & it didn't feel like an old or retro episode (neither was I thinking, "Why is that black man sharing a foot pool with a white man?" But I think my parents carefully explained why this was significant, what racism was (/is), and I thought it was ridiculous. Because it is.).

That's a good obsession to have, raise them right. Mr. Rogers was a good role model with great messages.

Eh, longer than I've been alive. It can take a while sometimes, but there was a lot of resistance to overcome. That kind of racism wasn't something that could be easily overcome with a law, certainly not with screaming/fighting, or murder, or stealing & burning shit down; this racism was inscribed on the hearts of others by their parents, families, communities...things done in anger & blind hatred only perpetuate it. This lingering racial discrimination required public actions like this to erase it. Humility, acceptance, quiet persistence, love. Qualities & traits that don't exactly abound in today's so-called "culture", if you ask me.

This is not a super popular thing to say & it doesn't map onto this racial discrimination at all, but generally speaking you wouldn't want a society that's quick to change. Prone to flights of fancy, turning this way & that in the wind. You want society to be strong, cohesive, truly united, and defined/driven by a set of agreed upon values. I see a lot of people pulling a lot of different directions. We can't agree on anything, and sometimes, our goals are even in direct opposition. It's hard to build & maintain a strong society when we can't agree on a sturdy foundation, the things we stand for.

And this will not fit all requirements of all people all the time. Nor does it intend to. But my god, trucks are such a practical platform & they used to be a lot smaller. The Asians do the tiny utility trucks....so well. But noooooo, Americans simply can't have anything small, or affordable, we won't allow small trucks to enter market. 🙄

It fits most cases, and a change 60-75% in the right direction is better than a 0% change in the right direction, cranking out oversized & overpriced trucks that don't fit our lifestyles.

There are lots of men not entering relationships, lots of couples not having children. This is perfect for daily living & daily tasks. Long-distance trips? Fuck no. But how often are you doing that? Price is right, if it's cheap-running & simple & reliable -- what are we waiting for?? Let's go, the Toyota Stout isn't coming to save us anytime soon. Let's go with this tiny truck until then.