Well your initial post seemed alien to me, hence my first "wtf?" comment. Imho this fact changes the story considerably, see my second post. I can explain in detail, if that still does not click.
Our mileages apparently vary, but with some things/behaviours inherent to my personality, things that make me me, I am not prepared to emulate different behaviour just to fulfil s/o other's expectations. They can take that or leave.
This is ofc just my personal opinion, and you can subscribe or not.
You are correct that this usually does not belong in an Android forum so please accept my profound apologies if I overstepped.
Ok, this changes the story considerably, you might have mentioned that initially.
Same with me, but without the ADHD. When I have to do shitty jobs I hate, like accounting, I let the family know that right now I'm motivated enough to do %task and that they should leave me alone completely for that, cos otherwise that will never be completed. They learned to accept that.
So maybe instead of emulating sth that you're not made to fulfil to nobodys fault you ever thought about explaining that facts to her so she can accept that?
I do think she is rewarded with her own focus time afterwards, as compensation.
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