I know someone personally that was outed by a YouTube channel. Guy was definitely in the wrong, I think he was 24 chatting up a "15" yo, maybe even "14"? The guy has a slew of mental health issues including schizophrenia. He definitely should be in trouble, and not allowed to use the Internet. My point is, it was really awful for his family when he was outed. Definitely real.
I just started Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb. So far a delight! By a therapist about therapy, and just the kind of humor I like in non fiction :)
Once my phone breaks, I spend $150-250 on a "new" old pixel. a couple gens behind, but honestly when I get the next one, it's always basically the same, so I don't know why I'd buy new. My current 4S's battery is pretty shot, so it's about time to upgrade again, but I'll be sad to lose the tinier size and headphones jack. I never use the jack, but I like that it's there as a backup.
As so many others have stated here, I watch much less porn than men, but that's because I read porn. And I read it almost every time I take care of myself. Often a picture here on Lemmy will get me turned on and I'll decide it's time, and then I open lit erotica on Duck Duck Go
This took me a second to understand (it's 4AM) and for a second I was like wait, this cannot be correct. No one is walking around with a 25 inch penis. Then I got it
I mean.. with all the negativity in this thread, every single person here is consenting to be alive every single day. While there are a number who choose an early exit, the vast vast statistical majority overwhelmingly consent to live another day every day. With such stats I feel like it's fine to assume the default status is consent in this context.
Plus, speaking of morals, we're just dumb little apes. You give us too much credit if you think we can fight the greatest biological urge of all life over something we've completely invented in our minds : morals, and the morals of the unborn is like double hypothetical.
It's almost like our collective experience is so boring and gloomy and so stressful for our little bodies and brains that we as a species are prone to mercurial outbursts where we act recklessly as a way to prove our existence to ourselves
After a year and a half unemployed, my husband has finally gotten a job he's excited about. Total career change. I'm home alone with the baby for the first time, but I'm really glad he's found something!
I think a big part of it is that they're dangerous. It's fun to experience just a tinge of fear from how big they sound, or even just from being near the little street versions. It's a (relatively) safe way for us to experience something that would otherwise be terror inducing explosives.
my husband and I both have ADHD. typically, we fight, I'm over it pretty quickly, he needs until he can sleep to get over it, but I think this is because we usually fight "My way." I need us to talk it out and dissect what's actually the root of the issue (usually past hurt, ongoing pattern, or misunderstanding at the onset of the fight). Once the issue is dissected and we commit to a resolution, or even just commit to acknowledging the issue and working on it, I feel loads better. If our flight is interrupted or he gets his way (ignoring the root cause, taking a short break from each other for a walk) then I'm simmering for ages and not that interested in being friendly again whereas he is back to normal.
Are you better at arguing? Do you typically "win" the argument? Or do arguments usually go along your ideas of how a fight should be structured? This may have something to do with it.
I second the above recommendation for the Nonviolent Communication book. It's a short little read / work book and it can get you both using the same language, as well as kind of force you to take responsibility for your own feelings and needs.
In my area you get a gift for donating. Usually a T-Shirt, but often a T-Shirt and a movie ticket, or a $10 gift card or once I got an insulated lunch box. The movie ticket era was nice because you could donate blood with your significant other and then go to the movies together, and feel good about donating. A good but weird date every couple of months
Kids! I thought when I was a kid I wanted them no matter what. In my early twenties I decided I only wanted kids if I could find the right partner. Now I have one. Sometimes my partner is great, sometimes he sucks. I don't care, because my kid is great. She's a joy to be around and gives my life purpose in a way I didn't realize was possible. My whole purpose is just to enjoy reading her a story in that moment. My whole purpose is to feed her when she's hungry. My whole purpose is to look into her eyes. My whole purpose is just to enjoy the moment I'm in, and she accidentally causes me to be fully present so often. It's amazing.
That said, I would say if you're not 80% sure you want kids, don't. Figure out what would get you to 80% first. Financial stability, a good partner, a solid career field, etc.
Or just keep adding lamps. My bathrooms have lamps now instead of overhead lights. My Livingroom has 4 lamps. Someone please send help.