I agree, but, you'd be surprised how many people find many of these seemingly innocuous distinctions offensive (if only a little bit). For example, I was once chided by HR for saying 'no problem' during a seemingly friendly discussion.
IMO the protests are having an effect. I haven't been on there for 2 days (full disclosure: was given 1 week suspension under dubious pretense while I was mass editing + deleting all my comments), but, before then there was a huge undercurrent support for the protests but a lot of outright hostile naive complaints regarding them.
At this point it feels like the majority of those that are willing to leave have left, and the rest is a dumpster fire of increased hostility. Everyone is angry for seemingly ridiculous reasons. You can't post anything without somebody saying something absurdly contrarian within a day or 2. TBH I really think there's a 'instill anger' bot program (and its replicants) running amok now and the moderators can't (or are unwilling to) keep up with it.
The whole conversation is a facepalm. This should have been 3 lines:
"What's the last song you saved?"
'I am not comfortable sharing that information with you'
"Okay, if you're aren't willing to let me get to know your basic interests clearly this isn't the kind of relationship I'm looking for. Good luck and have a nice day" [ends transmission]
Moderators remaining are already showing signs of exasperation. I was mass wiping all my account comments and received a week suspension for 'inciting hate' by an admin for a comment that moderators ignored (it was a comment in a post about an article quoting Putin "claiming the West wanted Russians to all kill each other"). The comment was 10 days old, but apparently editing to replace the original statement with "deleting - because Spez" triggered the admins.
Well it was confusing to begin with. I'm still not sure how to search efficiently or whatever, and I don't know where you can quickly see the Instance themes. I've settled in though and I'm comfortable now. It really helps that **every **comment isn't replied to with someone outright hostile for whatever reason. Pretty sure that'll change once the bots realize we're worth their time.
I have my icks. I wish thread trees were more distinct. I'm still getting the hang of the interface. But despite them there is a pleasant vibe here where you feel like you're actually talking to people and not screaming to be heard amongst a hostile crowd.
r/food "Who would like a bite of my muffin?" [pic of a pair of giant boobs barely concealed in a flimsy lace bra, squished together by the arms holding up an admittedly good looking oversized blueberry muffin]
(proceeds to take a blowtorch to the comments)
r/cosplay "Who likes my take on Tiffa if she were in Dead or Alive"? (comments littered with filth and deleted by mods comments interspersed with the occasional "is a G-string really cosplay"?)
I was going to say 'a community full of really simple questions that should have just been queried via a search engine' (this post is a pleasant exception to what I'm used to ftr), but then I saw what community this was so my final answer will be:
Onlyfans ads poorly disguised as relevant material for whatever community.
Don’t we want these big platforms to adopt ActivityPub?
I certainly don't. I abandoned Facebook years ago because of how BS they were getting with privacy concerns and social manipulation. Last thing I want is to bring those dumpster fires here. They join the platform, I will migrate to whichever Instances defed them or leave Lemmy entirely if necessary.
Simply put, it's been a breathe of rational, civil air here. While it is early days keeping that hostile-to-humanity crap out of here is obvious minimum we should be doing.
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