Yeah, if I had to guess, she is currently trying to figure out what she wants. Or I could be completely wrong and the girl is just hungry for Linux knowledge. Which is also great because we need more of those kind of people.
This is a very good take. She had told me that she feels imposter syndrome and that she enjoys talking to me. It would also explain some of her behavior. As I work in the tech field, just about everyone has imposter syndrome, so I reassured her that she is great at her job and she's got this. She really is good at it and I hope she knows it.
I don't think she is using me in a malicious manner, I mean, I did technically offer that I would teach her. I was just surprised she took up the offer.
Although you reminded me of something. A week prior to me meeting her, one of my coworkers was learning under her when he went to go help out. Apparently a guy came up to her while this happened and asked her out. She turned him down for the reason it would be inappropriate for her to date someone where there is this power dynamic.
My coworker told me this and that might be the nail in my coffin. However, it is also possible she just used it as an excuse to not have to deal with turning him down more harshly. I could believe both things. Hense more confusion, why make an exception to hang out with me then?
That doesn't even make any sense, I don't work for her. I just offered to help. Even if she did need to talk to me, she would use teams chat as electronics are not allowed in the area, only work laptops. I didn't mention that earlier because it didn't seem necessary.
I also am hourly so nobody calls me when I am not working. She also isn't using it for that purpose either.
I appreciate both of your advice.I think you are right about the confidence thing. I will need to increase that. I just don't understand why she would set the idea her doing her own thing and then immediately abandoning it if she didn't need to do it in the first place.
If she is willing to ask for my number and meet me on my off days to chat, it is not a stretch to want to see what her motivations are and if they match my own. In our case it would likely be more frowned upon than firable. That's a chance I am willing to take if she is.
Also we don't really work together so she is not my boss. I just happened to help out for a short time. She may never see me at work again for all I know.
She is a lot of fun to be around so I would still want to be friends. Pulling the bandaid off is probably the best course of action. Although I am wondering if I should try to increase her fondness of me first to improve my odds.
Congrats, you hit the nail on the head. I am panicked because I have never met someone like her who also happens to be heavily interested in similar topics as myself. In my panic to not fuck up, it has a real great chance of leading to the thing I was trying to prevent.
Fortunately, I am self aware enough to not cause problems while talking to her. I am actually fairly decent with my social skills as I think that's what got me here in the first place. It is the time in between seeing her that has me worried. My mind starts to wander into intrusive thought territory.
I generally agree with that sentiment. However, it is easier said than done when you are lonely and you found a diamond in the rough.
We don't truely work together either. At the end of the month, I will not be going back to the other building. We will not interact in any capacity at work.
I don't want to be that guy because it is a big number. However, in terms of the human population, there are 8 billion of us and when it comes to the difference between a million and a billion. It is about a billion. So about 0.04% of the human population. Terrible tragedy, yes however it is true.
Yeah, if I had to guess, she is currently trying to figure out what she wants. Or I could be completely wrong and the girl is just hungry for Linux knowledge. Which is also great because we need more of those kind of people.