This so much. I was diagnosed at 6, put on meds, and expected to function. Things improved enough for my grades to go up but not enough to have basic social function. I was still miserable.
Lmao I'm a grown kid who's helping teach my dad a lot and it's so funny to see the back and forth, to see him excited about his work softball team or messing something up. He's one of those "always need to look fully in control" types so it's refreshing to see him actually be human sometimes
Yeah, there's a balance of "I'm not perfect, but I will always be here to look out for you" that has to be struck. Too far one way and the moment you break, the kids are gonna be scared and confused at what's happening. And too far the other puts the responsibility on the child to take on a parent role (and believe me when I say that fucks you up)
I think kids come to learn this on their own. But at the same time, normalizing being open about emotions is a good thing, to help promote an environment where saying "I'm okay, I'm just having a rough day today" is something that's just normal.
But there's a sense of security to parents being infallible that can be dangerous to break. I lost that feeling with my mother when I was five, in a pretty major way to be fair, and for the next few years I had nightmares about everyone I loved dying and I wouldn't be able to stop them. Kids are powerless to the world around them in a lot of ways, and rely on adults to protect them and teach them how to protect themselves. So by seeing your parents as able to get through anything, you have a sense of safety at home.
So basically, normalize small challenges and openings to not be perfect, but be trying your best. Allow being human. But make sure the kid knows that no matter what, you will make sure both you and them are okay. Normalize the bumps in the road, and always reaching the end alright.
Lol I didn't wanna make it too dark or rain on people's parades but when your own mother has literally disowned you repeatedly and threatened to sue because you're telling people what she did to you as a kid and it's hurting her reputation stuff like this becomes funny in a kinda dark way
The content is facebook-oriented content. Idk if it would even really be the kind of audience that most of the fediverse would be able to sustain.
As it is, reddit was a concern for many people. Facebook? Not a chance.
Besides, large scale defederation discourages Meta from trying to weasel their way into everything like that. Don't encourage them. They want you excited, but overlooking the massive issues.
Personally I'm not great at reading people and I've found they get even more frustrated when you get it wrong than when you just don't do it. After a certain point I found myself miserable and I kinda stopped and went "wait, why is it MY job to know what THEY want from me?" And I eventually just kinda. Stopped. Most people hardly noticed because I got it wrong or overlooked it so much anyway but it was tons less stress on me, and now they knew how to effectively interact with me
Okay so you took a basic statement I made and turned it into a black and white extreme. Prioritizing your NEEDS above others is crucial because if you don't attend to your needs, you can't be sure anyone else will. You also can't effectively attend to the needs of others without first attending to yours.
I never said that you should act in a way that infringes on others' needs or boundaries, but your needs are not their responsibility and their needs are not yours. Anything beyond that is the application of empathy and connection, which is important, but not something to be shamed when there is a lack of it.
In a survival situation, you cannot reasonably expect people to sacrifice themselves for the greater good. That's just not a viable expectation. There is a grey area here in which some degree of self prioritization is necessary. Society is not a hive mind and I'm not saying "it's all about me, fuck everyone else" but you're also not responsible for how they feel or act. Personal accountability as well as caring for yourself.
I don't think any of that constitutes a shitty user. Maybe just a note so active one. Maybe they're anxious about it, or still learning, or prioritize their own needs above others (which isn't something that should be inherently shamed)
I don't thank every comment reply I get, am I a shitty user, or did I just make a decision where and when to spend my energy?
It's not the sort of user I would actively engage in conversation with, sure, but it's far from a shitty one
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(Know your meme is usually pretty good with that. I usually use it when transcribing)