BonesOfTheMoon @ BonesOfTheMoon @lemmy.world

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Well I've had a lot of fun here and almost everyone has been quite nice to me, that's what I know.

On Livejournal back in the day you could list interests in your profile, like if you liked music or sports or whatever and you could search each other that way to find new friends. One Christmas an LJ friend had a "naked Christmas party", where we all posted photos of ourselves naked, so I submitted my first and only topless photo online ever, minus my face, and a bunch of my friends made up an interest category for my "(username) incredible rack". That was 25 years ago, and I'll say with modesty that they still look pretty good. That was a fun time.

What if I came over and cooked crack in your air fryer.

It's so weird to read this, because other than a dork messaging me saying they were going to report me to the FBI I've had nothing but a lovely time on Lemmy.

I have a therapist. But there's really not much I can change without leaving. I can't bear to leave my dogs, and a lot of people live in tent encampments in my city and I'm scared to be one of them. My therapist is sort of at her wit's end with me because I'm actually fine, the situation is not.

Apparently so! Decolletage injection it's called.

If a terrorist held a gun to my head and ordered me to get on my knees, I would simply have to let them blow my head off because that is no longer possible. Also I have that slight wrinkle at the top of my cleavage, which apparently I can get Botox for. But I'm not going to.

Web pages didn't exist. I remember when Netscape began and it was such a surprising idea. We would use telnet talkers, which basically meant opening a telnet session and entering an IP address which you had written on paper, and there were all of these people there, mostly from a university, that you would talk to. I still have several as friends 30+ years later. It was super benign by and large, although there were sex telnet talkers that were sometimes full of pedophiles if you didn't realize it. Nobody has the Internet at home unless you were in higher education, but there was what was called Freenet, which like it sounds was free internet, which you could only connect to for small amounts of time each week, and it was a question of whose modem got in first. It was super binary and full of ASCII art that was a marvel.

Later when web based social media became a thing, we migrated to Livejournal, and as far as I'm concerned everything that was good about social media ever was there for a brief shining moment, and I still have friends from there and we know EVERYTHING about each other. Nothing has ever replaced those deep friendships. Before it got enshittified it was an absolutely beautiful place. I'm convinced that the earliest Russian forays into weaponized disinformation happened there because it definitely helped give birth to the crunchy parent movement, with mild vaccine disinformation (pre Wakefield), unassisted birth (the wildly dangerous birth stories I've read!), and silly things like claiming shampoo was bad and how you should clean your hair with cider vinegar, or things like extreme breastfeeding. I think it was Russia's first steps into seeing what the west would buy into being manipulated with, and it was extremely successful. The Russian government bought Livejournal as a propaganda tool, thinly veiled by a company called SUP, and used it to disguise what they really do. Reply All did an episode about Russia disinformation on Livejournal.

I am fanatically polite, helpful, and very friendly in person and go out of my way to make people feel welcome and helped. My church friends and my patients absolutely love me, and I genuinely would give a kidney to most of them (well not every patient because some of them aren't nice no matter what you do but I try to be very patient and hold space for what troubles them). I go out of my way to be generous in other ways despite the fact I have extremely little money, I'll babysit your kids so you can go on a date, for example, and would never think of being paid. The kids at church adore me and I'm always sitting with a pig pile of them on top of me. People say I'm like a light in their lives. I genuinely want to do everything I can to make their day good, and I'm very funny and genuinely interested in other people.

But life at home is simply awful. My spouse is a violent manipulative narcissistic sociopath who I am only living with because he's wrecked my finances and my ability to cope alone, and I cannot afford to leave, and I think he'd hurt me if I tried. My ability to cope comes out of amber bottles, if I didn't have meds I'd be hospitalized and ripping the hair out of my head. My spouse only speaks to me about bare necessities. I have no control over money at all, I work two jobs, usually 12 hours a day save for Sundays but that's still 8 hours, have almost no time to myself and he judges me for what I do to relax (which is reading, television, and church). Underneath it all I feel like a black hole because of what he has done to me, I'm not even scratching the surface here. I feel like five different people sometimes even though I have a very good sense of self, but I feel like I have to keep these parts of my life separated so I don't emotionally bleed on anyone. I really don't know what will happen to me.

Imagine romance and marriage being that simple!

I don't care about using Reddit because I don't, but if they paywall things people use Reddit to deshittify Google searches for, that'll be bad.

Apparently if you send him mail he answers.

Youse were getting squeezers from your big city slams the whole time.

As sure as God's got sandals.

Can I have your number? Oh never mind I'll get it from your mum.

No thanks. Anything that requires that much work to have sex is not appealing to me.

I don't understand anal at all. It hurts and there's poop.

The drag queen Vanjie says she uses a teaspoon of mouthwash to douche with. O.o.

Best of luck. I'm just glad you got out! Was it hard to do?

I'm so happy for you! Well done getting the hell out of there.

Did you move to the UK Squid?