Bennettiquette @ Bennettiquette @lemmy.world

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“with this handy rent-a-cart system, the dirty homeless wont be able to get their grubby hands on them!”

i fucking hate this. i’ve not so lucidly clicked the idea together before that world leaders would and have prolonged conflict, suffering and death abroad for meager and ephemeral political points back home. what a disaster we are as a species.

that hair is weirding me out. thin, receding hairline in the front yet solid black on the side? must be using the same stylist as giuliani.

this is blowing my mind

gross. go back to reddit.

might be more fair to say “women in the US are becoming less inclined to support a dumpster fire like the self-identified modern Conservative Party”.

he was also paid to speak on behalf of Amway at conventions all over the world with the intent to spread the unsustainable business model to other countries… and directly ensured that MLM operation(s) could continue to expand in the states, repeatedly calling it the embodiment of american enterprise. he basically built the framework for the protected Grift class.

Reagan.

100%. it seems to me that the broad scaling of community played a critical factor, being born out of the privilege of personal vehicle transportation. now we live in one place, work in another, play in another, eat in another, etc. in some cases sure, maybe that could theoretically give you 3+ different circles of orbit and thus 3 different communities of fellowship and support. from experience though it looks more like an incongruent/lacking distribution of the kind of important ties between others that would otherwise develop organically within in a given community. ultimately it seems to reinforce our isolation and undermines a sense of belonging.

thanks for the insight, which makes sense. stupid cars.

think you might be in the wrong community here, bub.

“start an exciting, fulfilling career with sears”…

i’m not positive that would do it. i know nothing about the physics of an explosive detonating on the sea floor, but the very term “cable” is a bit misleading. these things are seriously thick and intended to last for over 25 years in the corrosive undersea environment.

gross. i bet even when he peaks and is in a state of pure bliss, the best anyone could hope for in terms of good company is that he rambles about how great and positive and beneficial and necessary all his ideas are.

i wonder what the association is between the size of a parking lot and the frequency of its stores buggies not being returned by shoppers. from the pictures of beautiful european cities and towns i’ve seen, walkability seems to be an important development concern. i’m sure not everywhere, but by contrast, many shopping areas in the us are concrete wastelands with stores wrapping around massive, massive parking lots. perhaps parking 1/4 mile away from the store you just left makes it easier for people to excuse themselves from doing the right thing. i guess we don’t have a great track record with doing the right thing in any context though.

sounds like a potentially effective piece of performance art if we can find a skilled impersonator.

I might reframe this pursuit (finding stuff to do merely because you find pleasure in the activity) as self care-in a very practical sense. I’ve tried before, especially during stretches of time without medication, to pick a specific time within a given week, say Tuesdays and Thursdays after dinner, to meaningfully allocate my focus towards an unspecified non-productive activity. Sketching, jigsaw puzzles, taking a walk, reading a book, etc. By keeping it unspecified I can easily swap out one activity for another when the time comes and by viewing it as block of recurring scheduled time that is tied to my existing schedule, it’s much easier to remember to incorporate it into my day. As contrast, if I planned “to take a walk next Thursday after dinner”, chances are I’ll end up forgetting beforehand or get caught up in something else.

I suppose if I squint I could say adhering to this schedule change could be considered exercising discipline, but to me it feels like an ambiguous and pressured oversimplification.

i’m so sorry you live under that pressure of others expectations. having the capacity to take a disciplined approach and self moderate your behaviors is an important skillset, no doubt. but that is not the same thing as feeling and nurturing intrinsic motivation.

from what i understand, dopamine plays a massive factor in contributing to motivation in most people.

made a todo list? here’s some dopamine. finish a task? have another drop of dopamine.

meanwhile, the dispensing system in an ADHD brain is faulty and thus does not deliver the same sense of accomplishment that would generally fuel an NT to continue their productivity.

warm take: while i agree finding strategies for “manual mode” are import, so is, imo, learning how to sit comfortably in that unproductive space. counter productive as it may seem, sometimes it’s the weight of that pressure to feel motivated that’s the stressor, not the lack of motivation in and of itself.