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Freedom from the voluntary prison that my memories keep me in. That or a best friend or something. Either of which kinda cancel themselves out since they had to be purchased :/

We're taking it back at !autismplace@lemmy.autism.place

To my Hispanic ears, "n---o" sounds like an Anglophone saying "black". Even when used derogatorily, my immediate first thought is that they pronounced it incorrectly, then the rest of the associated matters kick in and I realize what they are really saying.

Imagine if in the Hispanosphere , the word "black" was almost synonymous with the n-word.

But yeah, don't use n---o in English to refer to or describe anyone.

What about something related to the indigenous peoples of the Americas?

I'm not really into this stuff, but from what I can tell, liberal became an insult purely because conservatives wanted to label liberals as inferior. That's about it. Some leftists also use liberal as an insult, though to a lesser extreme.

How conservatives use it, liberal means someone that is too sensitive, accommodating, weak, and evil (especially in Christian terms).

How leftists use it, liberal means uneducated, hypocritical, insufficient, and turncoat/traitor.

It's about to get worse with Blinken's prediction that Iran will attack Israeli within the next 24 hrs

So what was the error? That they published a story 4 hours before the US Fed Govt had authorized disseminating the info?

I meant it as what do you think would take the least effort. So for example, shooting might be easier for some people since it's not as physically demanding. Others may find that diving would come naturally to them since it's about spatial awareness and precision of body movements. In contrast, all around-gymnast would be much more difficult because of not only the physical demands, but also training for several events.

Well if you're like 15 years old and join an athletics club tomorrow and train like a psychopath

That literally made me lol 😆

Espionage has really gotten ridiculous. Either these swimmers were assisted with doping by their governments and people inside of the WADA, or they're being sabotaged by Americans. I have no other explanation for how 23 swimmers could have popped as positive for doping by their own country's organization, then cleared by international ones. Something is fucky. The shit winds are blowin, Randy Bobandy 👴🥃

I appreciate her openness, but it's a confusing report to me. I'm wondering the intent/purpose of sharing that info because this seems like one of those things that I would likely misunderstand, then repeat and get into trouble fordoing so. What would likely be the point of the post? Relate with others, seek validation for her appearance, be funny, or something else?

The dude didn't convince himself he was gay. The dude convinced himself that he convinced himself he was gay. To keep it going, he is now trying to convince the public that he convinced himself. "If everyone believes it, it must be true." He is gay af because he not only remembered that experience, but wrote about it in a book.

To JD Vance:

Come on, bro. Just be gay. Like for real. You're wasting your life and your wife's life with the charade. Y'all could be having awesome sex instead of pretending. If you're still resistant, fine. Just try it once to prove you don't like it. It's just once. You'll probably cum too fast to get it over with and then you can say you didn't like it or take a 5 min break and do it again to make sure. Haha. Omg, that would be crazy, right?

Yeah, that's a weird thing to make a press release about. Who tells the press that they were asked if they have a secret family? And why is the weird part, according to him, of this that he was asked with his wife present? I think the weirdest part of all this is that they thought that was weird. But actually, this whole thing is weird. Something about this is off. Weird af 😬

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The ♥️ distribution is the chef's kiss 😗👌

Ah, that makes sense. Thanks for explaining. What's the relevant story with JK Rowling?

Honest question: Why does it matter if he's a transphobe when choosing which Fediverse software to use? The software is FOSS and anyone can make their own instance. I don't understand why his social views outside of sharing the software and protecting it from becoming proprietary matters when deciding what Fediverse software to use.

I'm not arguing my stance. I really want to understand what I might be missing.

I finished watching Quiet on Set: The Dark Side of Kids TV available on HBO Max. As the title suggests, it's about the experiences that child actors had when they were working for Nickelodeon in the late 90s and early 00s. I found it very interesting and informative. Beware, it's not just about child labor...I wish it was.

I feel I must give a trigger warning. ::: spoiler It interviews many child-actors that are now adults, and they discuss first-hand experiences with predatory groomers, abuse, and resulting impact on their lives. If you have children, this documentary may be extra difficult to watch since they interview parents of the victims as well. :::

A phone uses a rechargeable battery.

The car uses a supercharged 5.0 liter Dual OverHead Camshaft 8-cylinder engine running on 93 Octane.

Which one has more power, oorrgh??

• 1 upvote = more power, Al
• 1 downvote = more I don't think so, Tim

I saw a semi-famous abuse therapist (Dr. Rhoberta Shaler^1 ) 1.5 years ago for 7 sessions. She is known for trademarking the term hijackal. Hijackals are people that hijack relationships and scavenge them relentlessly for their own desires; they are what most people call toxic or abusive. Everything she told me in those 7 sessions has been on point, even the stuff I thought there was no way she could even have a judgement on because she didn't have enough relevant information. Since then, I have caught myself saying or thinking, "That's what Dr. Shaler said!" Here were some of her claims that I eventually realized were true:

1. She straight up said that there are humans and there are hijackals, but unfortunately they both look the same from the outside. At the time, this view of humanity seemed too simplistic by using an all-or-none/splitting thinking style. I thought she was either traumatized herself or exaggerating to help me see my abuser as all bad so that I would escape. The more I learn, the more I see she was 100% right. There are humans, and there are hijackals. Yeah, people make mistakes, but people that purposely abuse others do that every time everywhere with everyone. That's all they do.
2. She asked me about my history of romantic relationships, and I gave her maybe a brief 5-10 summary. She straight up told me they were all hijackals except for my high school girlfriend. At the time, I thought she was overconfident or testing me to see my response. I eventually came to realize that she was 100% right.
3. She asked me about social relationships. She said they were hijackals too. I argued saying that wasn't true. She didn't fight me. She just said something like, "Well, it's been my experience that wherever there is one hijackal, there are more." I ended up cutting off a few people and blocking numbers since.
4. Hijackals are exhausting. Some of them are very good at manipulation, so it's almost impossible to consciously notice them for a while. However, your body/intuition picks up on it somehow, and you feel exhausted being around them. There are people that seem chill and caring at first, though they are exhausting and I notice myself needing to take breaks from them or having to brace myself for being around them. At first, I can't find any major reason to label them as a hijackal, but eventually it comes out.
5. Hijackals do not change. They are permanent. What fuels it is toooo strong and deep. Less than 99% of hijackals ever change.
6. Do not tell a hijackal you are aware they are a hijackal!! This will blow up in your face immensely. They will either use your levers against you or sabotage your reputation so that no one else will believe you. In no way will they have a reckoning with themselves, acknowledge their unhealthy ways, and work on the underlying problem fueling their behaviors.
7. I will know I'm healing and strengthening once I learn to trust myself. To trust myself, I will have to set boundaries beforehand, then stick to them. The longer I go without placing true boundaries or not adhering to them, the longer the healing process will take.
8. The other step to healing is to grieve whatever I lost with my childhood. It's over, and I'm not going to find it anywhere because that time has past. I need to accept that at an unconscious level rather than try to find it.
9. Everything my father and other hijackals have told me is a lie. I seriously thought this was splitting on her behalf, that she was exaggerating like saying that there are only humans or hijackals. Nope. Over the past 1.5 years, I learned a lot about narcissists. One thing that hit hard was a confession that a narcissist wrote about how they think and behave. That confirmed the statement she made. Everything my dad, sister, and exes have told me were lies. Everything they accused me of was what they were doing. Everything they accused me of being was what they were.

1: She has a famous podcast. Unfortunately, she died recently. She was a loss for humanity.