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I would love that! There could be emojis for good, bad, funny, sad, neutral, and wtf. Then, users could choose to see posts based on the mood rather than the simple up/down dichotomy.

I use baby naturally, some Spanish cutesy pet name, or a nickname that I made up because that's what feels good for me. Honey strikes me as weird or distant like some exhausted married couple on a tv show, so I have never used it. Babe also feels off to me too. But, I don't really care what other people call their romantic partners unless it's something interestingly different. I think that you should do whatever you want in your relationships.

Not acting like you're interested

lol! I used to think that everyone was acting normal in public, but really everyone was stereotypically autistic in private. Nope. Turns out that I'm stereotypically autistic in private and act normal in public, while everyone else is just normal all the time.

NTs are not acting like they're interested in the weather. It's their cultural form of building social connections and assessing whether they want to get closer with said person. Also helps some of them be comfortable because they have difficulty with silence, as if something were wrong if no one was talking.

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yep, still got it, bb 👉😎👉

hit me with the autism ones

Every single corporation is doing what they're legally bound to do: increase profits for shareholders. Companies don't and never have cared about the customer. They care about a customer as much as you care about an NPC. What's with people thinking that they ever cared??

Of course MS is using that data. Why wouldn't they?? Would they lose customers if people found out? Nope. If you were in charge of making that decision, you would use that data too. And if you're too held to your privacy morals, you'll never be in that position at MS because they only place people that will decide to maximize profits.

Here's how you know a company is doing something: Would it make them more money? Then theyre doing it. That's it.

Also, it's MICROSOFT!! lol Not Mozilla, RedHat, Canonical, or the Linux Foundation. Remember when someone shoved a pie in Bill Gates face?

The federal government didn't make prostitution illegal, so technically, a woman can be a prostitute in the US. Each state except for Nevada made it illegal, which is why anyone can't legally be a prostitute outside of the very specific places where it's allowed in Nevada.

Additionally, Roe v. Wade wasn't about bodily control. It was about a woman's right to privacy v. society's duty to protect life. The right to privacy argument was that government could not shove themselves in the affairs between a woman and medical staff. The duty to protect life argument was that society was ethically obligated to protect the life of vulnerable people. They found that life was more important than privacy, so it became a matter of when life began. The thing is that the beginning of a life isn't so clear.

According to science, life begins at conception. That's when the new DNA mix is created and a new being is created. Yet, that zygote cannot live on its own and is 100% dependent on the mother to exist, so is it really alive? That was the debate. The Supreme Court divided pregnancy into trimesters representing the incremental development of an individual human life.

Since a fetus was viable starting in the 3rd trimester, states could pass laws banning abortions then. Since a fetus had a heartbeat but was iffy on being viable in the 2nd trimester, states could regulate but not ban abortions in then. States couldn't do anything about abortion in the first trimester. That was what Roe v. Wade was about, and why many people were upset with the ruling. It never really addressed the fundamental issues of body autonomy from the government on one side. When it came to protecting life, it didn't really decide to do that either since they established periods in the life of the fetus during which it was legal to allow it to die. No one was happy with the decision because it was a negotiation that was hypocritical on both ends, which I guess is how you know it was a proper negotiation 😄

My personal opinion was that the judges were buying time to allow the legislative process to address the matter in a more democratic manner rather than allowing the court to decide. However, the topic was so politically costly that no one did anything to definitely address it, making the country depend on the ruling of 9 unelected officials.

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put me in the screenshot!

I think there is a major difference between chemical weapons and bombs that can be used for terrorist attacks versus nuclear ICBMs. One thing is to invade a country that can use chlorine gas against our troops, but placing the existence of our country and possibly humanity on the line is another thing entirely. Iraq could have potentially used gas attacks against it's population, allied populations and troops. However, Russia could nuke the hell out of NATO and cause a catastrophic worldwide famine for decades.

You're welcome! I also experience that, so I noticed it intuitively. Lately, I've been trying to navigate it myself by realizing that sometimes I say lies just to prove it right. Like, I will confess to intentions I didn't have or even behaviors I didn't commit just so people can think that. Like, I might go somewhere with a friend and accidentally forget my wallet. When it comes time to pay for something sporadic, I admit that I left my wallet at home to not have to pay. Or, I might admit to stealing something I payed for. I don't know why I do it, but I think it's related to the belief that I'm a bad person and want others to think that because it would be validating. It also gives the impression that I'm sneaky, so it serves as a warning for people to not try shady crap with me. I know it's not healthy and don't like that I do that, so I'm trying to work on it. I think the root cause is the core belief that I'm bad and don't deserve love. I'm freaking crazy lol...aww 🙁

I'm straight, but had a phase of special interest (♾️) in this topic, so here is goes.

Infodump on LGBT Rights in Cuba

Cuba is a bit odd with gayness. Ernesto "Che" Guevara was openly homophobic. Relations with the Soviet Union also resulted in strong control of sexuality in Cuba following the revolution in 1959 and slowlyyyyy starting to ease up in the 1980s. In the 80s, Cuban agencies started advocating for sexual freedom, such as the Ministry of Culture stating that "homosexuality" was valid and homophobia should be opposed by the government. In 1986, the National Center for Sex Ed (CENESEX) supported that sentiment and argued that homophobia should be countered by public education. In 1993, a Cuban film called Fresa & Chocolate (Strawberry & Chocolate), which argued that being gay wasn't anti-revolutionary came out. The movie was internationally praised. The major implication was that the Cuban government was changing it's tone because nothing with that level of of production can be made in Cuba without approval from major political players. In fact, the Cuban military started officially allowing service members to be open about identifying as LGBT (yep, even trans!). Still, there was a push back in the 1990s. For example, people weren't allowed to dance together in same-sex pairs, and several night clubs known for LGBT clientele were raided by police. Around ~2010, Mariela Castro (Raul Castro's daughter) started organizing an LGBT rights movement that even carried out major protests in Havana. Fun fact: Raul Castro is known amongst the Cuban population as the la China de [un lugar] (the Chinese Woman of [someplace]; I can't remember where exactly, but maybe the Orient of Cuba) and known for being gay. Around the same time, Fidel Castro also took some responsibility for the oppression of LGBT in Cuba. Finally, in 2018, the Cuban assembly voted to legalize same-sex marriage, and in 2022, it became official.

Personal Input

I was born in the US to Cuban parents, but have been to Cuba a lot and my Cuban father was a major proponent of Cuba who taught me a lot about it. I have gone to Cuba over 20 times from around 1993-2018, always staying with family and one trip was a month long. During the last trips, I would stay with my dad's cousin who was gay. As someone that is naturally curious, I would ask him a lot about the Cuban revolution and sexuality, so we had a lot of conversations. One time, he pulled out gay porn and told me that it was highly illegal to have in Cuba, so he hid it really well. For those of us that live in the US, imagine how you keep your house deed, passport, social sec card, or other documents. That's how he kept his gay porn. So while there has been progress in sexual liberation, there is still control as well.

Here's What He Told Me about Being Gay There

The population understood that there always were gay people in Cuba. Most people were at least tolerant of it, but the government supported homophobes, so they had the power. However, since there was a sense of general control by the government, some people learned to informally unite in solidarity with the understanding that they were both oppressed despite being for different reasons. So while two different people may have felt that they were oppressed by the government for different reasons, they knew to support each other for mutual benefit. Luckily, his parents, brother, and sister-in-law were very accepting and supported his sexuality. He said that there are cool people everywhere, and it's a matter of learning how to identify them while also making sure you protect yourself. This is what he said he did to be gay in that environment:

1. Other people of the same sex that are extra friendly to you might be saying that they find you attractive. There are well-known places for meeting people with romantic and sexual intentions in Cuba. In these areas, if you see a lone person that is well-dressed, walking around slowly and without purpose, and giving people of the same-sex long friendly glances, they are looking for other LGBT. In these cases, you find a way to strike up conversation, with something simple and mostly pointless. If that person stops everything they are doing to give you full attention, then they're down. So for example, if you see a dude that fits that profile walking around, you ask them for the time, and they stop walking, face you, and wait for more conversation, they are interested. If they quickly respond and continue walking, then they are not.
2. The gay underground: self-accepting gay people unite in solidarity and introduce other gay people to each other. This is done without explicitly telling either of them they're gay. Rather, the coordinator says something like, "I think you guys have a lot in common and will get along well. You should spend some time together."
3. Act gay/flamboyant while at the same time openly denying it. This creates a visible record in your neighborhood and amongst your social network that you are not gay should you get persecuted by the government. Yet, it's obvious that something is up with you. Basically, you're telling everyone you're gay and defending yourself from government persecution. Another gay person would see this as being a safe person. If you're ever taken to court, you'll have lots of witnesses as alibis. The government would also have infiltrated LGBT allies, so when they see this type of case, they know what's up and can manage the situation in a safe manner. The open denial is merely denial, not hate. They will claim that they are not gay, but will not promote anti-gay sentiment.
4. Your social network will hint at it. For example, one time I went to my cousin's apartment to chill. When I got there, his mother told me he went to the beach with a friend and made a little gesture to imply there was more to the story. When he came back with his friend, I was introduced to him. I know knew that his friend was gay.

This strikes me the same as saying, "No matter what I do or say to myself, I feel deeply in my soul that I am a bad/flawed person."

https://www.liberationhealingseattle.com/blog-trauma-therapist/ptsd-core-beliefs-trauma-survivors

https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/12386/im-a-bad-person/

Thanks! Everything went smoothly. I must've been funny under anesthesia because the nurses were looking at me funny when I came back to reality. I hope I didn't embarrass myself 😬

Okay, risky topic, but I'll give it a shot. Disclaimer: I'm trying my best to be forthcoming and just with special effort to being socially sensitive. If I offend anyone, it's purely unintentional and would love to hear about it so I can improve. We can't get better as a mishmash of ethnicities without having these discussions openly and respectfully, so here it goes 😬

For stand up comedy, African Americans are the reigning monarchs by far. Their ability to assess and critique culture is unmatched and their position as an oppressed community gives them freedom to speak freely without worrying too much about backlash. A Black dude can go on stage and point out all sorts of ridiculous things other ethnicities do, and most people would not be too offended. If a White person did that, they'd likely run into justifiable problems because of the implications. Allow me to illustrate:

Black comedian: Aren't White people so entitled? There's a reason she's called Karen and not Aisha!

Audience: lol that's so true 😂😆😅🤣🙂

White comedian: Aren't Black people so

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. There's a reason...and it's because of 400+ years of brutal oppression!

Audience: Wtf 🤨😠😧😳😬

I find women stand-up comedians validating and informative. Because I have difficulty with gender norms, hearing a woman talk about matters that most men wouldn't is validating to me. Like when they talk about men being bros, I love that! Or how they discuss matters that imply perceptive and emotional sensitivity, which most men stay clear of. They're also informative because I get to hear about their experiences and adaptations to being female, something that I would otherwise not have any idea about. It's almost like hearing the perspective of another reality because their experiences are quite different from my cis-gendered male experiences.

As Latino myself, I like Latino stand-up too because they express things that I agree with, but generally aren't discussed in public forums. So when someone says it in a show, it feels like I exist and am not crazy or alone in those matters. Like when they discuss how much more enmeshed Latino families are compared to others. Or like when G-Lo (George Lopez) said that as Latinos, we don't care what the price of gas is, we're still only gonna put $10. Omg, I laughed sooooo hard at that! However, they're not as funny to me as African Americans because I mostly already think like them. It's not new. Also, since Latino is actually a pan-ethnicity of many other distinct ethnicities, there's a lot of variation.

With Asian-American stand-up, I value their perspectives on matters. I find their discussion on family topics interesting and informative since I have no experience with them. I guess it helps me empathize. I also like their perspectives on other ethnicities because it's fun to hear how they perceive social matters, then compare them to how they are navigated in Asian-American communities.

White comedians are funny too, especially when they focus on matters that have to do with accountability or contradictions. I find that hearing them helps me understand how to navigate daily life since they are the dominant culture, so it's not only funny, but informative.

In my daily life, I love autistic people because they're so unique in their style of thinking...almost as if they were a different species in the same body. Just as a matter of survival, they have to assess social matters logically, which grants them an opportunity to point out things that no one else would even think about. They also have a strong tendency to consider justice, which makes them extra sensitive to social bullshit. I must be forthcoming that I am autistic myself, so I have a bias here, and find their perspectives quite validating as well.

Again, I'm solely sharing my preferences and opinions rather than claiming to describe universal reality. I hope I didn't offend anyone! If anything, we could at least use this exercise to improve our ability to have these risky discussions.

Metallica swore to never sell out

They tricked me too. Then that Napster thing happened.

That's one of the few scenes from a book that I regularly think about, and I read that soooo long ago

I bought a military grade backpack on a Marine Corps base in 2001. I used it for 3 years in the military, then all of undergrad, masters, and phd school. I use it on almost all of my travels, and I use it daily in town. It's still going strong. Hope to get another 23 years out of it.

Dude, foaming oven cleaner is similar. If you have a jacked up oven, get the foaming stuff and you'll have a nearly brand new oven.

edit: oops, misread the parent post as the scrubbing bubble cleaner. going thru a colonoscopy prep, so im all funky. the foaming oven cleaner is good af tho. also, get melamine sponges. theyre the same thing as the magic sponges but much more cost efficient.

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