Azzu @ Azzu @lemm.ee

Creator of [LULs](https://greasyfork.org/en/scripts/469273-lemmy-universal-

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In the 90s, I barely even knew what the English language was.

You could probably call it some kind of disability of executive functioning... Many people with disabilities manage fine without a personal assistant.

So lucky this is only mild. Imagine if it was anything really really bad.

But I'm just sitting here, genuinely wondering what the slur is she used, because I have no idea. I'm not well versed in trans slurs. Idk, news reporting should at least give me some way to find out... Like a spoiler tag to click on. Just... something.

There is no way to invade you.

Your military is 37% of the whole world. It would require literally you vs the whole rest of the world, and even then with you being a literal island, an invasion would probably still not be possible because of the supply line advantage.

What an incredibly helpful comment.

I've got backups. Haven't updated or looked at my server in months. If I'm ever compromised by missing security updates, I just load a backup and regenerate all keys.

I don't put any critical data on public facing servers.

It's not about defeating tracking of yourself, but who you share the link to, your relationship with them.

Without that tracking parameter, if the URL is common among many people (which it usually is, since usually one thing has one URL for everyone), then it's impossible to know who shared to who.

If you have the tracking parameter, then the service can know that you shared the URL, as well as who you shared it to, being able to put that information together and thus built more of a profile on your social connections.

What do I do to get rid of the tracking now?

You stop using these services.

I'm a programmer, and if they generate page URLs that are unique to you with your tracking baked in, do not allow you to view the page non-logged in, then there's no way to get rid of it, short of hacking their servers/databases.

If you can view it without an account, then you just browse without an account, without using a browser that has a unique fingerprint. So basically use something like the Tor one. Unfortunately for Instagram, I think both is not possible.

Of course it might be like the other comment says, it's only the special share URL that is like this, and the one you browse around normally isn't. Then you just use that one.

You've already taken the first step. You want to.

This is not some thing you can just adopt whenever you want, like putting the plates on the right side of the dishwasher instead of the left. This will require some serious continuous practice.

Basically, to retrain your reaction to things, you must 1. understand why your current/natural reaction is undesirable 2. understand which reaction you think is desireable 3. Repeatedly expose yourself to the situation that triggers your reaction with the main goal to change your reaction.

1 and 2. requires you to continually remind yourself of these beliefs. You will forget when you slip back into your natural reaction.

3 is not easy. You can't just manufacture adversity. It has to be real. It's very easy to have a specific controlled reaction to something fake. So essentially, you just continue as normal, risk things, always keeping in mind that you can face adversity. You mentally prepare yourself for it so you can notice when it happens. "When I start this new job, people might be offended when I tell them I don't want to talk to them. That is fine. I accept that they can be offended, because rejection is not a nice thing to experience, and that is what I do to them. However, I prefer this to having to suffer through their rambling. I know that this will likely cause them to help me less or actively oppose me, and I am fine with that outcome."...

And then you just do it anyway. When your setback happens, you will first feel frustrated. But then eventually you will get a rational moment. See what is happening to you again. And then you can remember what you've been thinking so far. That it's ok for this to happen. That being frustrated by it achieves nothing. And whatever else you figured out with 1. and 2. Each thing you remember should help you let go. Taking deep breaths and other relaxation techniques help with letting go.

And the result should be that you're slightly less frustrated, for a slightly shorter time than you would've been without doing all this. It's still essentially the same strength the first time, but it should be a little less.

And then you have another disappointment. That time, doing the same thing, it should sting even less and for even shorter. And so on and so on.

For me, I'm not sure how long and how many things it took. I know it was quite a few and over quite some years. Now, when I feel this frustration, it's just a slight tinge for a few seconds at most, when I remember what I believe and that I'm fine with this, and then I can already completely let it go. Like others said, it's a completely natural reaction, you might still feel like that. But eventually you're so good at letting go that it takes mere seconds and then you're completely fine.

Please don't post fake tweets. It's not helping.

There's a simple reason why reposts will always happen, never stop: different people have seen different things. Your reposts are other people's never-seen-before content.

I'm pretty sure there was some tool to populate instances with content, I think by creating an artificial user that automatically follows communities or something. Don't know how to find it though.

It doesn't rub me the wrong way because it's incredibly understandable. People are generally jealous, people have hangups with trust, people want to feel powerful.

Whatever the guy's reason is exactly, he is essentially not fine with what his wife wants to do, and even if she is completely fine with not doing something to alleviate her husband's uncomfortableness, the need to do so in the first place is simply sad. It would just be optimal if everyone could do whatever they want at all times.

I make it a point to figure out my issues (why am I uncomfortable with something?) and if it makes sense to get rid of it, to get rid of it. It'd be nice if everyone did that but people are often just not in a mental place to be able to do that.

So in the end, I do very much understand what you mean, however I don't really get upset by this. It's incredibly common to "restrict" your partner like this, I mean, monogamy itself is already a restriction. So like you said, you should just let people do what they do, and be happy that it's not like that for you.

I just use the qbittorrent "search" feature. Add some of the search plugins for different sites that you can find when you open the search options.

*Arrs are nicer, but a lot to setup imo. qbittorrent you just download, open it when you need it, and then you're done with it. If you don't torrent a lot, it's more time-efficient.

Yep, as long as you don't visit "local" and no instances are defederated, you simply get the whole fediverse, there isn't any other experience available at that point.

There are people around me enraged/supportive of it. I want to be able to be a voice of reason, and I can't do it if I don't know. I don't want to be just "generically" informed.

In general I agree it's pretty shitty that it's so much, but I care about people, and people care about this shit.

I like to be informed about the stupid shit happening, so yes, I enjoy it. It's basically 5 minutes each day where I look at /all, the rest is subscribed stuff which doesn't have politics.

I'm sorry, but if you have this problem, it's entirely caused by who your players are as people, not by the games itself. Even cooperative games leave people that get pissed, pissed at each other. For example, if one person wants to do something that another person finds suboptimal, and then the cooperative game is lost some time later.

I love Deep Rock Galactic, Terra Mystica, Mysterium.

I think you either put teenagers down or give these people too much credit. Even non-grownups do this.