ArcaneSlime @ ArcaneSlime @lemmy.dbzer0.com

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Not too familiar with ADHD, are you?

Tbf the "antiquated sexist bullshit" is told to me by women themselves, not irl Cotton Hill.

Just the other week a coworker was asking how to get (some guy I've never met) to ask her out, I said (as I always do) "Fuck it dude ask him yourself, it's probable he misses the signals entirely or is worried about being creepy for misreading you just being nice," to which she replied "no, women want to be pursued, I can't ask him out." And it wasn't the first time I'd heard it, (even replied "yeah I know, but it usually works"). Sooo idk, maybe it's really just that they're afraid of rejection but saying that doesn't sound as cool as wanting to be "pursued," or maybe it is just nice to feel wanted for everyone and this is just an extension of it, but it is what it is, whatever that is. I'm just believing what they tell me for lack of evidence to the contrary. She's cool and usually honest though afaik, we're friends and shit, so, idk.

I'm also told it's creepy to approach people in public except at a bar, which I no longer frequent. Then I'm told "get a hobby" but also "women don't want to be approached while they're trying to play d&d (example hobby)," and I'm also told to go to the gym, but then told that women don't want another guy being a creep trying to talk to them at they gym (plus it feels disingenuous pretending I work out just to meet women, I'm also plenty active and just in shapeish from that I guess.) It's probably fine if you're not diagnosed as "literally does not understand social cues" ADHD and something something executive function (I have the paperwork somewhere. Somewhere..) or if you don't care if people think you're creepy. But for me it's too much to navigate it regularly.

To the playing hard to get people, you're probably right, but I've never got close enough to find out, because if I even ask to begin with, at the first no I say "ok" and never ask again.

Me too, but I'm told "women don't want to be the aggressor, they want to be pursued" and then there's the ridiculous concept of "playing hard to get," which I'm somehow supposed to be able to navigate.

Never fully understood any of it myself, so I can't help much. Much easier to just not talk to people, especially as a neurodivergent.

All that aside, just based on looks alone, way better flag. The other flag of the emperor with the chrysanthemum is cool too, but I'm sure that one is seen similarly.

Bugs don't stand a chance in my house. I've literally just started wishing them luck and finding their corpse in the morning, she's undefeated.

Yeah for real, men should be completely free from desire and entirely chaste, as Christ intended. Id bad, superego only. The catholic way, guilt for natural urges, that's my motto.

SO CAN WE NOW ADMIT SELLING DATA IS BAD?

You must have asked a woman, ime that's the "big hint" that I'm the idiot for missing. No if you're a dude you have to pursue them but also not do that at all.

As someone with crippling ADHD, if impassioned talking about my interests is cool, consider me Miles Davis.

Problem is, the same girl who finds it attractive will find it annoying in a week or two, and all of a sudden that thing she liked makes me a jerk.

That is odd, aaand now I have to do a deep dive on the Angolan civil war, great. Lol

The old one was better!

Mozambique for sure, I'm not from there, never been there, don't even really want to go, idt I've even met someone from there, but that flag with the AK goes so hard I want it on a shirt.

I've gotten it so cheap that there's almost no reason to quit! R(D)TA and brewing my own juice!

Same lol, vaping is so much better!

Still burning the green tough, vaping is insufficient there imo.

Personally, I am immensely turned off and weirded out by that kind of dynamic, but uh hey, if its consensual and there's a safe word, whatever floats your boat lol.

And thus, his face.

(Hell I only knew myself because I was kinda sorta forced to have that dynamic under questionable consent by my abusive ass ex. Shit happens, got real weird when she insisted on the pacifier after we became roommates and thus financially tied for a spell but she could leave me holding the bag since she wasn't on the lease, really slow boiled me on that one. Now though you can't bother me by calling me daddy, or...for related reasons...CNC....don't ask.... so.. I win? What I'm trying to say is ladies my DMs are open lmao.)

Oh lol I thought it was about DDLG, and he was like "dear christ."

Honestly, both fit.

I mostly agree with this, but apparently Leto is a giant worm was raping or assaulting people or something. While I do think "cancel culture" or whatever is dumb and believe separating art from the artists is an ok thing to do as a consumer, blacklisting someone from the industry for rape/SA is just about the only time I'm in full agreeance with "canceling." Can't be having that type of shit, idec if a Trump supporting actor gets work tbh but assault is a step too far. Liking things he was in prior is one thing, continuing to make workplaces unsafe by employing him is another.

As for consumers, I think they should be free to watch what they want and boycott what they want with impunity and no judgement (besides maybe taste lol), especially if they pirate. Still liking a thing you grew up loving even after something shady comes out does not mean you support the shady thing, especially if you're not literally supporting them monetarily.

(I also fucking hate Thirty Suckents to Mars and he should be punished for making bad music.)

TC afaik isn't dangerous in the same sense, he's just a face of a cult. Miscavige is the really dangerous one there and he should probably be shot, but TC just makes cheesy movies and has sex with fish. As such I don't think there'd be a problem employing him the same as it is for Leto, but also I'm personally not watching his garbage, whether you do or not should be left to you (and I won't judge, other than maybe your taste in movies! Lol)

Ctrl+f "Mark"

Cool, it's already here. Me too.

He beats up Asian people for fun you know.

Ehhhh no.

I can get behind "ban spying on me."

I can even get behind "ban social media, especially the kind that makes you sell yourself, though pseudononymous link aggregators are less the issue."

But "no more torrenting at work, no more reading digitally while pooping, no more encrypted chats, now have to carry a book, a camera, an mp3 player, my GBC, and a dumb phone, just to make up for the phone?"

No.

Ne digga

BRUH y'all can't just use my dyslexia against me like that wtf. Did not read this right at first!