Apathy Tree @ ApathyTree @lemmy.dbzer0.com

I aim to be more human. I aim to be less apathetic as a human. Apathy grows

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That just means you need to have something more to offer them than money. Women want a partner, not a provider. They want someone they can talk to, who will treat them as an equal and defer to their expertise when situations call for it, but challenge them to learn and grow when it’s called for. Partnership is mutually beneficial. And they want this regardless of the culture/country they come from.

They want to be treated like equal people. If you can do that you’ll be just fine, I promise the bar is super low globally. You’ll find the right person for you if you treat them like people; that’s all they are and they like being treated that way.

That was a really fun read. I lost some faith in humanity but it was the wavering variety anyway that comes and goes with the social tides. Tide goes in, tide goes out.

Having been the “checks all the boxes they say they want” lady, this actually kinda checks out.

Because in practice, it’s not what a lot of folks expect. Heaven forbid you make someone feel dumb by talking to them as an equal. So you get rejected (after putting in effort) for being what they asked for.

My next Va appointment is on a game day right around pitch… it’s going to be a nightmare getting there since it’s like right next to the stadium… 🙄 ima have to go 3 hours early just to avoid that shitshow.

But yeah, I don’t do sports things so idk anything about our tailgaters with a few exceptions (below), however I have heard Wisconsin fans travel well for all our teams, college and pro. It’s a fucking shame we don’t have a hockey team, I’d be all over that and know a lot of others who would too.

My exceptions are having been to packer opening day a few years ago, and going to the cotton bowl in Dallas Texas back in like 2014 or whatever it was. I’m not a sportsball sort of person, but the former I got free tickets because my partner briefly worked for the packers, and the latter we got $15 tickets and used it as a road trip excuse to see the badgers.

My people know how to food and beer and social around it. Sadly that’s all many of us know.

Too bhe faaaair. Wischonshin hash sheveral ofthe the top drunkesht cities innn thse nashon. (just checked and We now claim spots 1-4 +6, 9, 10, 12, 15, and 20. I do not help this statistic but I don’t drive drunk.)

We apparently don’t care, as a whole. There are so many more bars than anything else in most rural/semi-rural areas because non-bar third spaces aren’t a thing. It’s just the only option for people to go to be social.

But we also have had a very regressive government for a long time so..

Having lived here most of my life and dealing with some of the traffic, yeah it probably is a challenge. Our drives are boring.

I try to avoid heavy traffic times so I can avoid reckless assholes. I’ve got a spotless record, and don’t use my phone when driving other than navigation, but have nearly been driven off the road or side swiped several times. Scary shit man.

But then I went to Indiana, by way of Chicago, and fuck was that terrifying. People weaving in and out of traffic with a cruise speed hovering around 80.. So while our traffic is bad for rural, it’s not actually that bad. :)

It depends what makes you tick, and how much you care about a particular thing.

If you like learning a lot of superficial to mid-level information about a lot of things, diving too deep will naturally result in a loss of enthusiasm, and that’s ok. You only have so much energy for each thing to take.

But if you really enjoy doing a deep dive into one or two things, more extensive knowledge is the best reward for the effort, so it’s a self-reinforcing cycle.

I’ll never be the latter person. I’ll never know all the lore for anything, or know every model of machine or whatever. That’s not what makes me tick. I do tend to get bored when I know too much about a thing and learning more means engaging other people’s thoughts (books/media), or using math, or whatever boundary I don’t feel like crossing. But that’s ok, my enjoyment is from knowing a lot about a lot, not from knowing everything about a few things. Both are good and valid.

You can fairly easily (with many routers) set up a personal vpn to have all your mobile traffic route back to your home network to use your pihole all the time.

Won’t work for like a work computer but all of your personal devices can go on it easy pie. Makes a world of difference, and keeps your traffic more private as a bonus.

Scientists have discovered that the diaphragm is not the only body part that aids in breathing; the other will blow your mind.

A building down the street from where I live has like 3 families with kids renting and they are always outside in a big gaggle. Like is the weather close to halfway decent? They are out.

I think because their parents are never around supervising them. But that’s about the only place with obvious kids. There must be more, but I have no idea where.

I also have to assume they probably do rotations, like watch/guard duty in the military, of control room and more active work, or it would get suuuuper boring real fast. Plus their skills would get rusty if nothing ever happened.

But maybe I’m overly optimistic.

I do the same thing, but you do realize you do it -because- it’s a problem, right?

Like you shouldn’t need a separate email for “I want to buy this/sign up for this, but I know I’m going to get a fuckton of emails so I need to use this separate email address to protect my main one from junk”. That just shouldn’t be a thing.

I lose them entirely too often for that to be an affordable option for me 🤭 I get like 80 clothespins for $1. I’ve gone through like 5 packs of them in 15 years, give or take.

But maybe I’d hit a level of saturation eventually (I find random clothespins all the time now) and it would work out.

Probably not - I have a habit of MacGyvering stuff from whatever I find laying around.. clothespins are stupid handy for that, and binder clips would be too.. so I’d definitely repurpose them.. :)

With health coverage being tied to employment, and employment taking up every shred of energy from large swaths of the population due to very low wages and long hours (a solid chunk of said wages go directly to health coverage, and many people work a bunch of overtime or a second job just to get by), I’m not really sure how people would, by and large, have an opportunity to really do anything about it.

Like yeah, everyone hates it and wants it to change, but if you take time to protest (even if you cover it with pto), you may lose your job for the effort, even if they just find out you went or whatever. It’s not protected action, employment-wise (thanks, union busting). And any other support for it also needs a lot of time and energy..

Basically employers have set it up this way to strap us over a barrel. It’s all intentional to take away our ability to really do anything about it. Keep us slaving, cuz the alternative might just be death.

Sadly I think it’ll need to be even worse before we see large scale risk taking by the population… when you have nothing left to lose you fear no loss.. until then you try to survive best you can.

Or the very first time you open the bag, the zip seal pulls away from the rest of the bag.

Or the seal doesn’t line up properly and can’t be zippered no matter what you do.

Or the seal is one of those cheap single layer ones that cross-threads and pops back open every time you think you’ve got it.

Or the zip opening doesn’t cover the whole bag, and you, moron you are, cut the top instead of the disturbing mouth hole they want you to use.

I end up clipping them half the time anyway.. good thing large packs of wood clothes pins are still commonly available at the dollar store :)

Their crispy potato taco is the only thing I still go there for. And that’s suuuuuuuuper rare, like once every year or two.

I’m not vegetarian or anything, it’s just the only thing worth getting imho. It’s been on their budget menu since forever.

This would absolutely flag me for something. I tend to have flat delivery, low pitch, avoid eye contact, etc. and when combined with other metrics, could easily flag me as not being a happy enough camper.

I mean don’t get me wrong, I’m never going to be happy to be working, but if I showed up that day, I’m also in a good enough headspace to do my job… and if you want to fire me for that… for having stuff going on and not faking vocal patterns…

This is why I don’t want to work anymore. It’s gotten so invasive and fraught if you happen to be anything but a happy bubbly neurotypical fake. And that’s wildly stressful. I’m not a machine, and refuse to be treated like one. If that means I have to die in poverty, well, dump me in the woods, I guess.

This shit should never be legal.

Alternatively you could buy a big bag of rice and a bunch of dried beans and lentils, and some frozen veggies and canned mushrooms with some cheap sauces, and eat decently for significantly less per calorie than eating breakfast cereal…. Which is expensive garbage.