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Imo, from my experiences on Grindr, while I've been hit on by pretty much every ethnicity, the people who disrespected my boundaries the most were white guys. This isn't to call all white guys bad ofc, but just to say that the "creepy Indian man" experience just isn't universal

Popheads circle jerk, where it's just my soapbox of shitty memes! 😍

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Dope! I remember growing up seeing Raj from Big Bang Theory (a very misogynistic show in the first place) being basically a caricature of this phenomenon. Unironically glad to see representation of non-South Asian characters being creepy as fuck and yet also comic relief; anyone can be a villain (even me)!

How extensive are the varieties? I'm a big fan of lots of cheeses and I'm trying to have less animal products, but I'm only human

Glad you were able to provide such a detailed reply! I'll try and elaborate on what I mean:

I haven't seen a single Anglophone man get called out and made fun of in the way South Asian men are made fun of for the same predatory behaviour. If you have examples, I'd love to see em. But there was an entire subreddit on reddit basically dedicated to specifically South Asian men, and IIRC there wasn't one that was generally making fun of gross people online (or maybe I just unfortunately saw the wrong circles).

Also to clarify, I get why South Asian men might show up in larger quantity, but my question is primarily: why is the emotion primarily ridicule as opposed to disgust (or sadly, occasionally defense), as we tend to see with Western men making the same creepy advances? Once again, this doesn't even scratch the surface of other genders!

I'd also like to say that I'm not South Asian (but I am a man, and I am Anglophone). I just notice this and it kinda ticks me off bc I feel like I wanna be angry at these guys for sexually harassing women but I also feel like the fact that people solely posting about brown guys is trying to sell a narrative that only brown guys are creepy and that they're creepy in a harmless "open bob show vagene" way when some of those very same men might be doing real life harm to people.

Also yea I agree we should probably prioritize just calling out sexual harassment, but in terms of "meme culture", funny is currency (hence my focus on comedy, trying not to be a total buzzkill just a partial one!)

I was worried of coming off in a patronizing way and I apologize that I did so. My goal was to try and pinpoint the ideology of sexism in different cultures rather than justify it or brush it off, with the larger goal of trying to discuss the interplay of cultural dialogue, western notions of race, and aforementioned sexist behaviour. It seems that I was unclear; that's totally on me. My bad!

I do think that your last paragraph kind of points to one of my exact issues: we tend to diminish the intelligence of ESL speakers if they get the grammar incorrect. Those South Asian (S.A.) men were fully harassing you! They were being gross! But they are getting brushed off for what white supremacy (as an ideology) might call "sophisticated countries". I think these memes diminish the severity of sexual harassment while also seeking to emasculate S.A. men. It's like an oppression double whammy where no one wins.

Anyway, sorry for essay #2; glad to hear your thoughts on the matter! I just hope this discussion at least gets people to be more mindful of what they post more generally.

Wow that's so funny I wish tumblr were real

Feminism is always a slay! (Esp intersectional 😍)

May you please explain this for the bimbo pop girlies! Thanks 🧚‍♂️💅

I always felt these memes were a bit racially motivated. Lemme explain (sorry for submitting a thesis on a fuckin meme):

Many societies (not all) in this internet age exhibit patriarchal sexism, and the manifestation is different based on culture but it generally leads to the sexualisation of and entitlement to women's (and fem's) bodies.

South Asia has hundreds of cultures but most of them are of this form. As a result, sometimes a brown guy will sexually harass a woman online! It's terrible but unfortunately expected.

However, these cultures aren't the only ones in which (some) men are pigs! In fact, it happens in Western countries too, and even in other highly populated regions with unmitigated internet access, English language education, and patriarchy (e.g. most Asian countries meet all four requirements, people in China have VPNs, Brazil, etc.)

So, assuming women are probably facing sexual harassment from all angles, why South Asian men? Yes it's the most populous of the named regions with unrestricted access, but why so many jokes when Western sexism is taken more seriously?

I think these memes serve 3 functions:

1. Paint South Asian men as inferior and emasculating them (and almost infantilizing them as well). "Oh look, they're harassing a Western woman? No chance in hell that'll work." Leading me to
2. Stereotype South Asian men as uniquely sex pests (as opposed to unremarkable sex pests)
3. Make fun of the intelligence of ESL speakers. All the memes rarely focus on the sexual harassment and largely focus on a misspelling or grammar mistake.

I think I've made my case pretty well, it's OK if you disagree, but then the question is: is this a real problem and if so what do we do about this?

I don't want to be the fun police so keep doing the memes, but maybe we also try and have a separate place where we take all forms of sexual harassment more seriously, and make fun of the audacity and grossness of all sexual harassment (even from women and other genders, which I didn't even touch on)!

Tl:dr; meme is low key racist, you can still do it if you wanna but I do suggest that we make fun of other sexual harassers as well* (*preferably in a funny way).

Sorry for the essay once again ik I'm a buzzkill

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Explain this for the bimbo girlies now please!

Bestie that is just fem4fem

This is the first time that's happened to me, I feel honoured!

I just looked it up for my country and the law is pretty complex but here's what I gathered

• 16 is the age of consent for sexual activity
• romeo-and-juliet laws for 14 and 15 year olds (up to 5 years their senior, imo this is too much)
• 16 and 17 year olds cannot consent if there is any power dynamic
• 18 is the age of consent for pornography

Imo it should probably be that the age of consent is 18, with 14-17 year olds under romeo-and-juliet laws (and maybe like 3 or 4 years their senior). High school is just such a different stage of life, and social acceptance into adulthood is at 18 anyway (though I personally didn't feel like an adult till I was 21)

He's in his otter DL masc4masc era

Thank you! I forgot "listen to all my pop girlies' albums" but yea if I hit all of these in my life (along with traveling and some career advancement) I'd be satisfied

Everyone would serve cunt

Here's my tentative bucket list:

• twunk era
• learn some sick narsty gymastics
• become a cinephile
• try to gain a cursory knowledge of every academic discipline via pirating textbooks
• do drag (drag specifically bc it's such a multi-faceted art)
• date someone long term
• volunteer regularly to try and make the world a better place