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  • My trick to coping with that has been to seek out rooms or contexts in which I'm the stupid one, relatively speaking. I sometimes struggle with insecurity when doing this (especially as a bright kid who was "a big fish in a small pond"), but I never feel happier than when I'm learning from someone knowledgeable and enthusiastic about their little weird slice of the world.

  • Congrats! It feels incredible when a " ¯_ (ツ)_/¯ worth a try!" repair turns out well; I can practically feel your astonished jubilance through the screen.

    I've got to the point where I have enough experience fixing things that I feel completely confident in my ability to have an initial look at the problem (possibly opening the device), and to know whether I'm likely to break things worse by dabbling. Sometimes this means immediately closing up the device, but increasingly often I feel comfortable taking a crack at the problem, and sometimes it even works!

  • At one point, when I was a baby still in my mother's womb, I had cells in between my fingers. Had I been born like that, I would have had webbed fingers. I sometimes feel sorry for those cells: they were instructed to undergo controlled cell death so that I could have fingers. I'm glad that cells can't think l, but even still, I wish that I could explain, to these cells that I never knew as my own, that their sacrifice was worthwhile, because they died in service to me, an organism far more complex than any cell or tissue could be alone.

    I'm glad that these cells can't feel (at least in a way that I can understand), because I know that my explanation would not be enough for them: I know this because for most of my life, I have understood that people like us are acceptable sacrifices on the altar on the free market., and that feels terrible. I rage at being told that my suffering is worth it, for the Greater Good, because that posits that our lives aren't considered to be Good enough to be worth acknowledging beyond our instrumental value.

    When I think about the cells that used to exist between my fingers, there's a silly part of me that even feels guilty that they couldn't consent to the whole ordeal, but I suppose my compassion for them is part of that "greater good" they died for. I know that the free market feels no such guilt at throwing humans into the meat grinder, because it is closer to being a clump of mindless, cancerous cells than it is to a person. And yet, as you say, we're supposed to celebrate "innovations" — to celebrate ever more rapid "growth" that comes at the expense of people's lives? It's disgusting.

  • When I first started using Obsidian, I used folders too much because I felt like things were "messy" if not tidied away. I already knew that one of the weaknesses of hierarchical folder systems is how it can make having an overview of the system harder, but it took a while for me to properly understand that.

    As you say, it's necessary to be proactive with making links to things. I found that when I used Obsidian for journalling, I started to put square brackets around loads of stuff, because the inactive links didn't do me any harm, but they did highlight what might be useful as active pages. Something I picked up from the Zettelkasten crowd was occasionally having a "Map of Content" page, where I used it as an index of topical links. It always worked best when I allowed them to arise naturally, as needed. Once I got the trick of this, I found I was able to find things far more easily, because I was able to navigate via the links.

    Tags are a tricky one to use. I never found them useful as a primary organisation method — they were worse than both hierarchical folders and link based organising in that respect. They were super useful as an augmentation to my organisation though, especially when I used them sparingly.

    This is all an overlong way of saying that yes, I agree with you, using systems like Obsidian do require a switch in how you think in order to best use them. Something that I always enjoy pondering is whether pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone is something that's inherently good — something something cognitive flexibility? I don't know, but I enjoy endeavours of this sort nonetheless

  • There are plenty of Jewish people who consider "Jewish" as being both a religious and ethnic identifier. I used to think of Jewishness as purely a religious description until I actually met some Jews (I moved from a tiny village to a larger town that had a decently sized Jewish community, and one of my close friends was Jewish), who disagreed with my impression. For additional context, I live in the UK, so your blanket statement about Europe does not apply to the level that you state it.

    "the last people that tried to make it an ethnic description were literal Nazis."

    Given that there are many Jews who recognise "Jewishness" as pertaining to both religion and to ethnicity, in the present day, it seems quite inappropriate to make this comparison. I realise that you're seeking to denounce Israel's ethnonationalism, but it's possible to criticise Zionism without having to deny the existence of Jewish ethnic groups. Hell, one of the things I found especially powerful about my local pro-Palestine demonstrations was seeing how much I learned about Judaism by working alongside secular Jews and religious Jews brought together by anti-Zionism.

  • This, a thousand times. Also echoing what someone below said that a physiotherapist may be best, but in my country, the doctor refers to a PT.

    The reason why getting proper medical input is important is because often back pain arises because of long standing, complex imbalances e.g. I had a weak core, which caused my legs to lock in a way that sort of compensated, which caused me to have an odd gait and to fall lots. Generally improving your strength was a good step, but if you're experiencing pain like this, you may need help in identifying any underlying weaknesses.

    Especially because injuries don't just come from heavy or intensive exercise. I knew someone who had upper back pain that likely stemmed from poor posture. They identified the muscles that were painful and started doing stretches to that area. Even though it was only light intensity stretching they were doing, they were inadvertently exacerbating the root problem, which they didn't learn until they had to be seen by a doctor urgently.

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  • Something that helped me to feel more comfortable wearing crop tops was when a friend was complaining about her mum being iffy about my friend wearing crop tops; "Yeah, I get it, I'm chubby!

    <Grabs her stomach rolls>

    People can see that regardless of if I wear a crop top. Anyone who would think I look gross in a crop top already think that of me no matter what I wear, so I don't care about dressing up for them".

    This helped me to realise that because of my misgivings about my body, I tended to swamp myself in clothes that I hated, making myself look and feel worse. People being assholes can make it scarier to dress in ways that make us happy, but I can guarantee you that there are people who would find your body in a crop top to be distractingly hot/pretty.

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  • Depending on where the rubbing is worst, stockings can help with this (not hold-ups — ones that use a proper belt to keep them up. A good suspender belt should have at least 6 clips, and the clips should be metal). If you wear underwear over the top of the suspender belt, then it's easy to remove it if needed

  • I appreciate your helpfulness. It's only a small thing, but it speaks to your character that you have found it necessary to save this, to streamline being helpful.

    Bouncing onto a different topic, I first learned of using backslash as an escape character in the context of the shrug ( ¯_ (ツ)/¯ ) kaomoji. If you type it as it's shown there, its left arm gets lost, like this ¯ (ツ)

    I find it funny that if I wanted this comment to show what I typed to get that first correct one to show properly, I'd need to do ¯_ (ツ)_/¯ . That has four backslashes. It can get very silly.

  • I don't think duplicate link protection is what I mean, unless I'm misunderstanding how that feature works. I.e. if I had bookmarks "example.com/a" , "example.com/b", these are duplicates even though they're at the same site. But if I visit the page "example.com/c" and I went to go bookmark it, I would like to be able to see a thing that says '"from this site, you have also bookmarked: "example.com/a" , "example.com/b".

    I don't imagine this is possible. I was probably going to make something to give me that functionality at some point, because I haven't seen anyone having the same problem as me.

  • I have a question which may turn out to be a feature request

    The question: How easy would it be to use Linkwarden to check whether I have already bookmarked something from the site I'm currently on? To clarify why I'm asking this, I have been generally trying to be more mindful in what media I consume, which means the things I enjoy reading are fragmented pieces that I may stumble upon through word of mouth.

    For example, I read post 'a' on blog 'A' and I enjoy it so much that I bookmark it ('Aa') so I can find it for later sharing. Many months later, I am linked to post 'b' on site 'A', but I don't remember whether I have been to this site before, and knowing that I had previously enjoyed post Aa may prompt me to actually read post Ab (or properly set aside for later)

    Native Firefox bookmarks don't do this, I know that much. It's something I've been meaning to figure out how to solve, because one of the delightful, if somewhat overwhelming parts about floating on the 'small web', is the trust that builds up gradually after seeing sometime put out consistently good coverage

  • Probably smart, because I'm already pretty smart and the prospect of giving up what I already have seems scary.

    Plus, I've lived most of my life thinking I was repulsively ugly; part of overcoming that anxiety involved understanding that "you can be the juiciest, ripest peach in the world, but some people just don't like peaches". If there's anything I've learned from that, it's understanding that attractiveness is even harder to "objectively" quantify than intelligence