AnalogyAddict @ AnalogyAddict @lemmy.world

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This is so beautifully put.

I've had to forge a path for my gender expression from the beginning, and I was lucky because I was born a girl. If I'd been born a boy interested in forging my own gender path, I'd have been super ridiculed and bullied instead of just slightly.

A world where people can just be is ideal, but until it is real, I support people being given the freedom to figure themselves out. Whether or not I agree with the methods is irrelevant.

My oldest kid shifted their identity weekly, if not daily for a bit, and while it drove me nuts, I told them my crazy level shouldn't change them doing what they need to do, so long as it isn't permanent until they settle down for awhile. Cutting hair, non- extreme binding, crazy makeup, or wearing fake nails doesn't hurt anyone so knock themselves out in a non-literal way.

I wasn't even in a dispute. I had full custody, and he had minimum visitation, which was still half the kids' free time. And he had been convicted of domestic violence.

That poor, sweet child. We are failing our children in the guise of parent's rights.

When I tried to report my suspicions that my ex was abusing my kids, I was told by DCFS to stop stirring up trouble or I would lose custody.

Years later, my kids are old enough to be listened to, and the DA office still chose not to prosecute because it's he-said-she-said. Both kids have mental health issues stemming from child abuse that I have to deal with on a daily basis, all while trying to juggle my mental health as a previous abuse victim from the same man.

And then they say that victims fail to report. Well, duh. It's often safer not to.

Take my cart from where people randomly left it or from the return and leave it in the store.

Tidy up my table and stack dishes when I eat out.

Park between the lines.

Put my cart on the side when shopping instead of leaving it in the middle of the aisle.

Pick up the dog poop other people don't.

Pull forward product if it is shoved into the back of the shelf.

Hold open doors.

Pick up stuff that people accidentally drop, especially if they have kids or are elderly.

Leave intersections clear.

Let people merge.

Not park on the street when it snows.

Be polite to anyone working public facing, no matter how bad my mood is.

Take my meds.

Teach my kids to respect rules, even the ones that seem dumb.

Keep my dog leashed when not in a designated area.

Leave accurate and fair reviews.

Return ebooks early if someone is waiting.

I prefer green and drive silver because I like to try to blend in.

Cereal isn't meant to be eaten in public.

I had that one for awhile, but the me-me-me-meeps won me over.

A Borzoi. They disassemble overnight, apparently.

This is what will happen to us if they ever figure out how to upload consciousness.

Close enough to a grey?

Because mine is the Muppets singing Ode to Joy. No further explanation needed.

The short and unsatisfactory answer to your question is that this isn't a hostile work environment. A hostile work environment is narrowly defined. You telling everyone about his rape of your friend is closer to the definition than him being a rapist.

An unsafe work environment applies only to physical hazard, so the same goes there. You'd have to demonstrate and prove that he is causing you current harm. Basically, unless he sexually harasses you or attempts to rape you, and you can prove it, there is no leg for you to stand on.

The law was built by men. It's built on what has happened, not what could happen. It doesn't protect victims, only inconsistently avenge. The bulk of protections in place are for accused/ perpetrators.

You should read Otherland by Tad Williams if you like that kind of thing.

I used to think I was stupid, but then Trump and Covid happened and I realized I'm relatively brilliant.

I liked the idea of Beehaw, but it ended up being rather like an HOA. You weren't allowed to ever disagree, no matter how gently, because it "wasn't nice." They ironically tried to reduce bullying by bullying people.

Ended up with a bunch of Karens policing each other, so I think that's a win for all.

Ah, you finally learned from Gen X?

Let's see how long that lasts.

They didn't lose track. People are now addicted to the salt and sugar bomb. They know it and capitalize on it.

You probably don't hate the smell more, nonsmokers have just learned to be polite about it.

Dated a smoker once. I love the man, but kissing him was like licking ashes. A major turn off. I never let on.

Always good to go back to medieval witch hunting in a pinch.

"Drop it in water, if it floats it gets extra tax!"

I have a compact SUV (CR-V.) It gets good gas mileage and has enough room for my very large dogs. Some people have reasons, just a lot of people don't.

I'd like to see a tax on ego trucks first.