I used to get up at 5am and had to get ready for work in the dark so I didn't wake my family. I'm a klutz and fumbling with my phone's flashlight constantly just got annoying.
I ended up making a little script so that between 5am and 5:30, shaking the phone turned the flashlight on. After 5:30 the sensor turns off to save battery, since I didn't really need it at that point.
You can do all kinds of handy little things like that
Frankly I'm not sure either of those things would help, the US would always find another excuse for all this death and destruction. I'd have be careful that whatever measures I took to stop Bush would become the new excuse for some atrocity we were already going to commit.
But if my 8yo ass could manage it, I'd stop Bush. Then I'd play toys. It's 2001 and Ello Creation System is about to hit the market. I won't lose all the small pieces this time. I've learned from the previous timeline.
The worst part in my experience was actually getting numbed. You can't see the needle going in so a lot of people with needle phobias won't have any problem, but for me the feeling of a needle is repulsive. After that it was smooth sailing, just a bit boring.
The pop culture reputation of dentists as literal torturers is pretty outdated. Medicine has improved a lot in a short amount of time. Just look up reviews before picking your dentist, and don't cheap out if you can help it.
I usually hibernate just because I usually have several projects open at once and like to dive back in quickly. But ever since upgrading to Windows 10 a million years ago, my computer is possessed and turns itself back on, eventually goes into standby, and won't come out without a hard reset.
In the years since I've neither identified and fixed the problem, nor remembered to shut down instead of hibernate. I just do hard resets a lot now.
Honestly it'd be horrifying to wake up in the 90s again with an adult awareness of where the world is heading, and that it was already headed this way because we were knee-deep in capitalism and colonialism.
Still rough. I know I've talked a lot about walking away from a toxic friend group. I stayed in touch with one guy and we've been joined at the hip. Well, we got into a fight that felt (to me) sudden and unfair. I thought I could make peace because I know we're both under a lot of stress and don't actually want to fight, but he stopped talking to me. It's been a little over a week and I'm not really at 100%, still getting used to being lonely.
I have a hangout planned with my niece so that should be fun at least. If anyone knows any good crafts for a second grader, let me know! She wants to be an artist so the more room for creativity, the better.
I don't think that's quite right. I'm a basketcase and they know it. They're always pretty rightfully annoyed with me for catastrophizing. I also used to try too hard to reassure them— eg, someone would say he feels like a bad person and I'd remind him of the good things he's done— and they had to explain to me that that's a dick move.
Its certainly harder to explain over text since we can't hear your tone. Do you put in a lot of effort when you speak ? Does talking come naturally, or do you spend a lot of energy trying to be polite ?
It definitely takes a lot of energy. Using the right tone, making the correct amount of eye contact, listening to what the other person is saying, and not talking so long to come up with a reply that they get mad at me, feels like multitasking. I really try, though.
Also a two day argument is a long argument. Who kept it going? Who would bring it up first?
I guess we both kept it going. I should have dropped it but I hated leaving the conversation with him thinking I was lying. That's another problem I know I need to work on.
Edit: I see in one comment that you are autistic. Have you talked to your friends and family about what this means in a conversation ? At some point its on them, honestly.
I've talked about autism before, but two of my friends are autistic and the other has a TBI, so they told me it wasn't really fair for me to expect them to hold my hand and explain everything I was doing wrong, which I think is fair. As for my family, there's no talking about psych stuff with them.
Either way I'd rather learn social skills than ask everyone I meet to let me be rude since I'm autistic. No one's going to want to put up with that.
Eh, I've gotten that feedback from two different friends, plus my sister. And I know I'm autistic. So at some point I have to accept that I'm sending messages I really don't mean to.
One possibility is that it's how you phrase things? Everything seems fine here but people tend to write and speak differently, so just throwing out a possibility here.
Maybe? I feel like I try too hard to be polite sometimes. My last therapist told me I was allowed to ask my friends for better ways to phrase things, but they got mad and said I was putting them on the spot.
Last time I explicitly said, "sorry, that was my fault," and explained what I did wrong, and my friend still took it as me calling him stupid.
I'm beginning to think it's just too complex for anyone to explain to me how to be nice
Also some subjects are sore as you experienced with your unemployed friend, so having this habit of taking a step back might have helped with realizing that in advance. It's not always doable of course, you can't know everything.
What do you do when you accidentally bring up a sore subject? Last time, I apologized and said I should have realized (I should have), and my friend and I got into a two-day argument about whether it was a sincere apology or not. I finally asked what I did to deserve being accused of lying and he just said "well if I had said that I'd mean it manipulatively, so I assumed you did". So apologizing in that scenario is taken as manipulative, right?
I used to get up at 5am and had to get ready for work in the dark so I didn't wake my family. I'm a klutz and fumbling with my phone's flashlight constantly just got annoying.
I ended up making a little script so that between 5am and 5:30, shaking the phone turned the flashlight on. After 5:30 the sensor turns off to save battery, since I didn't really need it at that point.
You can do all kinds of handy little things like that