Age range
Age range
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Happily married but from what I’ve encountered in the wild, I wouldn’t/couldn’t do anything under 28 or so. It’s a completely different worldview.
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As I've gotten older, it's not even just the worldview anymore, the body can look attractive but one look at the face and if the woman is young enough it's an immediate turn-off.
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but one look at the face...
The old paper bag trick does wonders.
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Different phases of life, different priorities, and different perspectives. Someone in their 20's is still trying to figure out what they want to do with their life. I've abandoned the search and am now stuck somewhere between raising my kids and trying to buy myself some free time before I die.
I also think you have to be friends with your spouse to have a successful marriage. Lucky for me, my wife is my best friend. It's pretty difficult to build any sort of meaningful relationship with someone you have very little in common with.
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My wife and I tried a poly phase (neither of us ended up liking anyone else lol) and while on dating apps I found 27 to be the minimum and upper 40's to be the max. I realized that there was no real way to connect and relate to someone in a totally different phase of life.
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Why are we infantilizing adults? Interpersonal relationships are complex and nuanced; we can acknowledge and even warn against the potential dangers of severe age-gap relationships without insulting the autonomy and choices of those involved. These neo-puritanical bullshit tendencies creeping in on the left needs to stop; it's a trojan horse for the next generation of conservatives. Reject non-nuanced conservative-bate thinking.
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I get what you're saying, but often the age gap isn'tthe problem: the men are.
When a 40 year old man dates a 20 year old, often times the man is an absolutely toxic child. That's why the relationships are bad.
If both people were actually decent then things are okay, but that ain't the case.
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I agree that the way we socially condition and, more importantly, hold men accountable are the real issues, which only reinforces my point. If the problem is men rather than age gaps, why disparage age gaps and not male behaviors instead? It's like trying to focus on getting the blood stain out of a carpet while somebody has an open wound on their arm and continues bleeding out; it's focusing on the wrong part of what's wrong in the scenario.
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Absolutely. There’s a reason why 40 year olds are going after teens - they know that women their age wouldn’t put up with their bullshit but the younger women will. They’re predators through and through because healthy relationships are equal, there is no power imbalance.
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Serious question, who do you think is being infantilized here?
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Subtext. This meme isn't about the image, it's about the culture upon which it is commenting. And a large reaction to that culture is beyond discouraging of age-gap relationships, it's prohibitive of them. This reaction wants to redefine adulthood as post 25, label anyone above 25 who shows interest in those under as automatically and inherently predatory (as opposed to potentially predatory), and in doing so severely infantilizes anyone under 25 as "incomplete" adults, as if adulthood is some kind of clear journey with a specific and obvious destination, who they deem incapable of evaluating risks and circumstances and making autonomous choices.
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Because while it may result in a stable, positive, loving relationship (or just mutually great, harmless sex that's what they're after), it's a strong predictor when people are actively seeking a relationship with that kind of gap. Think about the likely reasons someone would seek that kind of thing, and the likely outcomes. I think it's reasonable to look at this sort of thing with suspicion, but not to immediately dust off the pitchforks and light the torches.
Not all middle-aged single men distributing candy from the back of their windows van are paedophiles, but it's both reasonable and responsible to look at what they're doing with suspicion.
It's interesting you'd bring politics into this when conservatives seem so wrapped up in protecting child brides, child beauty pageants, fetishise youth, and appear to be massively over-represented represented in paedophilia stats.
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If you thought I was defending conservatives, you're wrong. There's nuance to this; the topic is sexual dynamics but the purpose is dominance. This is a conservative kind of principle because it's about limiting autonomy of consenting adults, enforcing social morals, and boogyman logic. We should be embracing and striving for a better, freer, more autonomous world, where everyone, women included, are empowered rather than limited, not just settling for a slightly preferable version of the patriarchy.
Which means embracing a nuanced world. Which is why I said acknowledge and even warn against the potential dangers of severe age-gap relationships; we don't have to be blind to real world dangers, but that we shouldn't let fear of those dangers drive us into blind ignorance again or else we're just repeating the same cycle. Hence the trojan horse. We get better when we accept difficult concepts rather than accept simplified extractions for the masses.
edit: just in case my position is somehow still unclear, yes I'm using conservative as effectively synonymous with "bad" here. I'll consider caring when they consider better conduct and positions.
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Found the older dude dating a 19 year old.
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I'm 39, in a 10-year long monogamous relationship with a woman who is 35. Prior to her, my previous relationship was with a woman 6 years my elder.
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Half your age plus seven.
Shit’s not hard, guys.
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I don’t judge the age difference as long as they’re both adults. What two consenting adults do is up to them, it’s none of my business.
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It depends on the relative power imbalance at this point. If a 20 year old is out at bars going home with 50 year old dudes, then slay queen. If it's 20 year old secretary with 50 year old boss, then there's a much higher chance that the situation is fucked, though still not 100% I suppose.
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Oh, I judge, particularly the older person, but not in some moralistic way. But in a "if at 50 you can have a romantic or sexual relationship, even temporarily, with an 18-year-old, I have some unflattering views of you."
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Hey is that Oyasumi Punpun?
I couldn't remember the name and I am amused that the search string "sad bird manga" worked.
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Unless you're 20.
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Some US state lawmakers would disagree
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If I recall correctly, over here once the person reaches the age of consent (16) it's considered legally acceptable if the different is + 4 years, meaning a 20 years old couldn't be accused of being a pedo if they were going out with a consenting 16 years old...
They just need to remember to not be idiots and not to share pictures...
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I dunno I had a girlfriend who was 34-36 when I was 21-23 and it wasn't weird or anything, still friends many years later even though we have our own families now. She got carded buying alcohol more than me so it's not like it was obvious though.
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Nah on tinder it's 18 to 118 for me. Keep it legal, don't hurt anybody, have fun.
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You want to avoid the 18yo, all the bots are there.
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Divorced? Who the hell can even afford to get married anymore...
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That’s one way to lower the divorce rate.
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How do people deal with getting older when the hottest girls are out of your age range.
I was hoping as I get older women I'm most attracted to would get older. Seems my standards are just lowering but a 20 year is still banging.
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Disclaimer: I'm old and retired. My wife is 7 years younger than me and we've been married 37 years.
You will always stop and look at and admire a pretty young lady. You might even think to yourself, "If I was 40 years younger!" And then immediately think to yourself "But any way".
As you get older you will become more attracted to older women. Not because you think they are prettier than younger women, that's biology for you. But, you will find the personality and cultural reference points of age far more compelling than plain beauty in your relationships. Turns out, shared life experiences and culture means more in the long run than the smell of bubble gum and all the drama of youth.
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You're still gonna be attracted to 20yos physically. There's over 100k years of evolution that wants you to mate with the fittest, most attractive mate that you can. But is that a person you actually want to spend time with outside of the bedroom? So, yeah, your standards in regards to physical attractiveness are gonna drop as you age, but your other standards will likely change too.
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How do people deal with getting older when the hottest girls are out of your age range.
There are certain qualities a man needs to consistently attract hot women. Age does not matter as much as one would think. It certainly doesn't matter in a way that is fair to women.
So as the hottest girls leave my age range, I don't much think about it. I'm turning 40 this year, and I'm worrying about how old I'll be at my kids' graduations not what any 20-somethings think about old man me.
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One aspect: I feel once you start thinking about having a family (and not being a farting old decrepid mess by the time your children are 20yo) you really start looking for someone who can be committed and would be interested in starting one, and that really doesn't include hot 20yo girls.
Another: People who age gracefully show they can take care of themselves and look amazing any age. That is powerful. Combined with the fact 25+ have a much better sense of style and manners, and understand the world so much more in a nuanced way.
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You pivot from being attracted to physical attributes towards being attracted to personality.
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That, and people who see you with all the warts, scars and more... And see it as just part of you.
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IDK hot women are hot not based on age, if the have good common sense and intelligence, already above 7. I'd rather date an 18 year old who can think critically and not believe dumb nonsense on Facebook than a 40 year old who talks like a spoiled elementary schooler believing in essential oils and qanon shit. Plus no random kids from Father's they don't know💀
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Is that even a serious question? It's literally biology. Humans are in their prime between like 18 and 24 years old (just made that range up so could be +/- few years but likely close). Same concept as why a fucking tomato will look worse 4 days after you bring it home from the store. We are organic beings. Organic materials degrade. Just accept it ;-). There is more to a relationship than looks.
You may wanna bang a 20 year old when you're 40, but would you want to date/marry a 20 year old? I certainly fucking wouldn't.
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In my experience, it doesn't matter what you set your age or distance range to in Tinder, because you're going to get people 10 years older or younger and a hundred miles farther away than you specify anyway.
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You mean 18-99? Haven't used tinder in ~7 years or so, but I believe there was an upper limit. Found out by trial and error that apparently some women enter their year of birth instead of their age, when I matched with someone who was allegedly 97 years old.
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I'd be okay if it filtered out that "97" year old.
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Yeah, that sounds like a good stupid test. "You must be at least this smart to date me."
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I thought this was the default setting until the user goes in to edit preferences. It was doing that to me until I went in to stop it from flinging my profile at literally everyone.
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No. I tried. They're 40 year old man children who are marginally better at hiding it, except these daughter fuckers won't grow out of it.
It takes a special kind of toad to seek out a much younger spouse.
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If you're rated X, you're some kinda gold even men turning silver try to make
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Well it may seem outlandish, but this is the age range that guys truly think about. At least it's honest. I know everyone will say "I don't," well done for putting forth the effort to maintain a social mask of being above it all - but you're not. In the west, we associate youth with beauty and desirability, so it's no wonder men go after school girls (or younger). Shame, shame on them for being so human! The rest of us are above this sort of behavior!
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I mean yeah you can think young girls are beautiful while also recognizing that for several reasons, dating them is a bad idea. You're trying to completely normalize thinking only with your dick and claiming anyone who doesn't do that is a snob. Weird.
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Luckily tinder is only for finding committed relationships so nobody would ever have ANY REASON to do this.
Swipe left, swipe right, fuck your neighbors daughter, whatever as long as it's consensual. It is nobody else's business.
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Actually what I'm trying to show is that almost all men think with their dick and all men have some attraction to teens. That's just human nature, we try hard to pretend we DON'T have those feelings, because we're taught it's evil and wrong, but it's really just normal. Not to say you should act on those feelings, I'm just saying that it's normal to have the feelings.
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I like that reply. Best so far!
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I mean, it's the age range popular media tells men they should be thinking about.
The problem is we're too enured with maintaining a status quo that many men never decide to think differently.
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I don't think there needs to be anything telling men to go for the age range of 19-54
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You and I must be listening to different "popular" media then: https://youtu.be/fIIon1S1Das?si=6Em5XMUIGQopoe-j
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What on earth is going on with that picture? Apparently the main source is this picture here.
Who processed it and why?
Looks like someone replaced their faces with Jennifer Aniston and Brad Pitt
That makes some kind of sense. Internet logic perhaps.
I'm pretty sure only Paris' face was changed
Ohhh hmmmmmmmmm
Before it was boring. Now i kinda wanna fap
I don't know what the impetus is, but some people seem compelled to put face filters on pretty much everything. I saw a post a while back with a historical photo that had been processed for some reason. It's absurd.
Holy shit. They were children. These chicks were older than me back then and looked like adults.