Why is it so lonely in the fediverse

Here's the thing though:

If we don't defederate, the users can subscribe to our communities and get involved and make them stronger as they become the official go to places. We can always crush it later if it becomes a hassle.

If we defederate immediately, the users will make their own communities which will quickly leave ours in the dirt as the larger ones of the Fediverse.

Just a thought.

I think fediverse servers should adopt a set of sustainable limits for themselves, one of which should be: do not maintain more than X active users. If they have over that amount, they should shut down signups. If they don't shut down signups, everyone else should defederate them until they cooperate.

What's with all the hate about federating with Threads? I thought people would be happy to hear a big player is coming to the fediverse that's going to bring a bunch of people with it. "Normies" will probably never use Mastodon or Lemmy but might use Threads, so being able to communicate with them while staying on my little community-ran Mastodon instance is a win for the fediverse in my book. And if somebody's annoying or whatever, you can always block them, right? Can somebody clarify why people think everyone should automatically defederate with them and lose such a big userbase? I mean, I hate Facebook/Meta as much as the next guy, but more users are more users...

I'm sure there's no profit motive for Meta to confederate.
- So only people without profit motive can beat part of it.... Change is scary I guess

Tbh I'm seeing a lot of Mastodon instances Admins saying they wont defederate Threads straight away; they want to see what Meta does/demands of all over instances first. The instance I'm part of (Fosstodon) is also doing the "wait and see" tactic.

BUT I strongly suspect most will end up defederating with Threads within a week due to Meta's shit moderation and attempts to bully other, larger instances into giving them privacy info.

Wtf. What possible good thing do they expect to see from meta?
- People. Most of the people using Threads are not garbage just because Meta is.
  I'll likely be personally blocking the entire instance the day they connect with ActivityPub.

What instance hasn't defederated from threads honestly

Fucking Mastodon
Fosstodon had the balls to not sell out
Also Meta has not federated yet but said they will in the future so any “defederation” from instances is just a declaration of future plans since there is nothing to cut off yet

Honestly one needs to look at the economic ensentives in order to understand metas goals.

Meta does not make any money from content on the federverse. Therefore, they have no reason to support its growth or future. In fact I would go as far as to say that they actually are going to try and EEE.

They aren't going to try to EEE. ActivityPub was just an easy protocall to build off of quickly. They don't care about the fediverse. They have almost zero incentive to waste effort trying to destroy it, plus it's open source, so worst case we just fork it and move on.
- ActivityPub was just an easy protocall to build off of quickly
  If they didn't want to federate, they wouldnt have a need for ActivityPub or any kind of similar protocol.